jeni4566 Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 I broke up with this guy 6 months ago. He kept pursuing me afterwards with emails and text messages. I finally gave him another try last week. After a week together, I broke up with him again. A day after I broke up with him, I realized I wanted him back. He agreed to getting back together, although he didn't sound as excited as I would have liked. After we get back together, he didn't text me or email me all day long, like he used to. He also stopped initiating contact and taking the lead, like he used to. However, whenever I email/text him, he would respond on the same day. Here's my question: Do you think he still wants me or not? Should I keep trying and hopefully he would get enthusiastic again? Or should I move on?
TG1 Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 You broke up with him, so why should he take your lead or follow at your pace, if anything you were playing games with the man and he caught on to you real fast but he feels as if you are going to break his heart again, that is why he isn't as around as often as you would like him to be, now isn't it
Keenly Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 Move on, I'm actually doing this to a girl I have no interest in and for some reason I can't stop myself, I think its the biological desire for the chase, but he definitely isn't into it, if a guy is into it, you will have to beat him away with a stick, and you sure won't have to ask if he is into you.
TG1 Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 You broke up with him, so why should he take your lead or follow at your pace, if anything you were playing games with the man and he caught on to you real fast but he feels as if you are going to break his heart again, that is why he isn't as around as often as you would like him to be, now isn't it Hence the reason why he is not as excited to get back together with you, now is he, because you can't make up your mind on whether you want to be with him or not being indecisive could be the death of you
Author jeni4566 Posted December 19, 2012 Author Posted December 19, 2012 Hi Keenly, Are you saying that a man may keep replying to a girl's email or text, even though he has no interest in her? Would you recommend that I just stop initiating contact? if he wants me, he'll seek me out, if not, be it.
amaysngrace Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 You broke up with him then he wanted you back. You were a challenge. You took him back but then broke up with him. You changed your mind and wanted him back. You're no longer a challenge. Game Over. 2
TG1 Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 You broke up with him then he wanted you back. You were a challenge. You took him back but then broke up with him. You changed your mind and wanted him back. You're no longer a challenge. Game Over. I agree with this
Author jeni4566 Posted December 19, 2012 Author Posted December 19, 2012 Thanks. Well, if I'm just a challenge and nothing more, I'm glad it didn't work out.
plainjane79 Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 I broke up with this guy 6 months ago. He kept pursuing me afterwards with emails and text messages. I finally gave him another try last week. After a week together, I broke up with him again. A day after I broke up with him, I realized I wanted him back. He agreed to getting back together, although he didn't sound as excited as I would have liked. After we get back together, he didn't text me or email me all day long, like he used to. He also stopped initiating contact and taking the lead, like he used to. However, whenever I email/text him, he would respond on the same day. Here's my question: Do you think he still wants me or not? Should I keep trying and hopefully he would get enthusiastic again? Or should I move on? Um. Why do you keep breaking up with him?
Author jeni4566 Posted December 19, 2012 Author Posted December 19, 2012 Because he kept emailing and texting me all day, getting me think about him, and I felt distracted from work. Romance is important, but so is my career.
TG1 Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 Because he kept emailing and texting me all day, getting me think about him, and I felt distracted from work. Romance is important, but so is my career. I can understand that but maybe he feels the need to be loved and or needed by you, did that ever occur to you at all
Author jeni4566 Posted December 19, 2012 Author Posted December 19, 2012 I do need him and ask him to help me with little things here and there and give me advice in his area of expertise. But I couldn't possibly replying to all his emails/text messages, all day long. It's exhausting. It's like a cute puppy who has its own schedule and needs your attention all the time.
plainjane79 Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 I do need him and ask him to help me with little things here and there and give me advice in his area of expertise. But I couldn't possibly replying to all his emails/text messages, all day long. It's exhausting. It's like a cute puppy who has its own schedule and needs your attention all the time. Have you told him any of this?
amaysngrace Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 Wow you're annoyed when he texts you all day and call him a puppy but when he stops doing that you want him to be enthusiastic enough to text you all day like a puppy. 3
TG1 Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 I do need him and ask him to help me with little things here and there and give me advice in his area of expertise. But I couldn't possibly replying to all his emails/text messages, all day long. It's exhausting. It's like a cute puppy who has its own schedule and needs your attention all the time. Yes if you do need him and if you want him as much as you claim to, you would make time for him at least but you are obviously too busy for him but don't be surprised if he is finding comfort elsewhere from someone else since you aren't paying as much attention 1
Author jeni4566 Posted December 19, 2012 Author Posted December 19, 2012 Yup. I had to close my email account, because he won't stop. Now, he doesn't contact me as much. Geez, I'm going to keep my pride and stop contacting him all together. Who does he think he is? I have others who would be dying to date me.
Tara247 Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 I broke up with this guy 6 months ago. He kept pursuing me afterwards with emails and text messages. I finally gave him another try last week. After a week together, I broke up with him again. A day after I broke up with him, I realized I wanted him back. He agreed to getting back together, although he didn't sound as excited as I would have liked. After we get back together, he didn't text me or email me all day long, like he used to. He also stopped initiating contact and taking the lead, like he used to. However, whenever I email/text him, he would respond on the same day. Here's my question: Do you think he still wants me or not? Should I keep trying and hopefully he would get enthusiastic again? Or should I move on? Hon, he's tired of the drama. Plain and simple. How long has he been acting uninterested? You need to give him time to act affectionate towards you since your last act of drama.
TG1 Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 So you're complaining because he doesn't contact you as much anymore but in the past he would contact you almost every single day all day, you should take that as a lesson that he is trying to do everything to keep you and if you were smart, you would realize this
plainjane79 Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 Yup. I had to close my email account, because he won't stop. Now, he doesn't contact me as much. Geez, I'm going to keep my pride and stop contacting him all together. Who does he think he is? I have others who would be dying to date me. Just try not to be so impulsive, in the future. Breaking up, getting back together, breaking up, getting back together. Make a decision and stick to it. Once a vase has been broken and glued back together too many times, it's never as strong as it was at the beginning, you know?
Author jeni4566 Posted December 19, 2012 Author Posted December 19, 2012 I agree, guys. It's a different need/demand match. I want someone I can see a few times/week, then don't have to text/email. What's the point of texting, when you can have high-quality in person time. But he wants more texting/emailing throughout the day to keep his day exciting from his tough job.
Keenly Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 Hi Keenly, Are you saying that a man may keep replying to a girl's email or text, even though he has no interest in her? Would you recommend that I just stop initiating contact? if he wants me, he'll seek me out, if not, be it. Absolutely he will. He will try and get you to want hil, and then.once he has you, its over. Yes I'm being an ass by doing it, but honestly its because I am.messed up and just want to feel desired.
TG1 Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 I agree, guys. It's a different need/demand match. I want someone I can see a few times/week, then don't have to text/email. What's the point of texting, when you can have high-quality in person time. But he wants more texting/emailing throughout the day to keep his day exciting from his tough job. Maybe because he can't stand the thought of losing you maybe or because he has some type of insecurity maybe I don't know
Author jeni4566 Posted December 19, 2012 Author Posted December 19, 2012 I don't see texting/emailing as "efforts." For me, in-person quality time is considered real efforts. Anyway, he's high maintenance and gets upset about me "not showing interests", because I can't reply to all his messages all day long. I do have a career.
CptObvious Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 You broke up with him then he wanted you back. You were a challenge. You took him back but then broke up with him. You changed your mind and wanted him back. You're no longer a challenge. Game Over. I'm gonna go ahead and chalk this up as win for the dude. He won you back, got it in, and then he came to terms with the loss. True sportsmanship being displayed here. 1
Author jeni4566 Posted December 19, 2012 Author Posted December 19, 2012 Hi Keenly, Does it drive you crazy if the girl you wants to desire you and chase you, stops showing interest?
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