Want to Break NC

[nsteen87]

Want to, but won't. I have a new found respect for recovering drug addicts, alcoholics and those who try to quit smoking. I want to text her so bad that I could pull out my own hair thinking about it!

 

I'm at 13 days so far with the goal of 1 month to start!!

[youngnlove89]

Want to, but won't. I have a new found respect for recovering drug addicts, alcoholics and those who try to quit smoking. I want to text her so bad that I could pull out my own hair thinking about it!

 

I'm at 13 days so far with the goal of 1 month to start!!

 

Let's do this together, I'm a little ahead of you but I think we can be each other's support. I know how hard it is. All day today I thought about him and was tempted to contact, but I hung onto the main reason why I decided to move on and let go.

 

Anything that is worth it in the end will not be an easy task!

[na49]

I hear you guys. My ex has texted/called me these past two nights. I'm dying to know what she wants to talk about! I want to just ask her, and find out what she's thinking. but I haven't. It's so tough, I can't help but wonder. I also realize I may find something out that might set me back, so I haven't responded.

 

I'm expecting another call or text from her tonight, but probably won't get one. I want her back so badly, but I feel like she just wants to be friends and is feeling guilty.

[nsteen87]

I'm expecting another call or text from her tonight, but probably won't get one. I want her back so badly, but I feel like she just wants to be friends and is feeling guilty.

 

She wants to keep you on the back burner for when she finally comes around and realizes how amazing you are. Don't settle for this...ever.

 

We are here because we fell in love with the wrong people. We care about/love people and things too much and can't let go when it becomes necessary. We give all we have for everything in our lives. The world needs more people like us

[youngnlove89]

I hear you guys. My ex has texted/called me these past two nights. I'm dying to know what she wants to talk about! I want to just ask her, and find out what she's thinking. but I haven't. It's so tough, I can't help but wonder. I also realize I may find something out that might set me back, so I haven't responded.

 

I'm expecting another call or text from her tonight, but probably won't get one. I want her back so badly, but I feel like she just wants to be friends and is feeling guilty.

 

That must be tough. My ex did that before, the other times we broke up, and it made it harder to move on and let go. I really think you should block her or change your number. I know it's hard and you want to know if they try to contact you, but if your main goal is to move on (and it should be) then it is something you need to do.

 

I'll save you the agony, she doesn't want you back, she just wants you to feed her starved ego. Didn't she cheat on you?

[na49]

She did cheat on me, and she does have a HUGE ego. She told me that she stays friends with all of her ex boyfriends after breaking up with them. Well not me. I have a bit more self respect than that. I won't be treated as someone's doormat or a second option. I know I will block her number eventually (or change mine, I haven't thought about that) It's just so hard to cut the final string of contact and realize that after blocking her number, I will never hear from this person again. A person who meant so much to me a little over 2 months ago...

 

While she could go out of her way to contact me, like making a new facebook to get around the fact that I've blocked her. Or email me. I'm apparently not that much of a priority to her, and whatever she wants to talk to me about, isn't important enough for her to tell me. I just wish she would!

[GraceisGone]

She did cheat on me, and she does have a HUGE ego. She told me that she stays friends with all of her ex boyfriends after breaking up with them. Well not me. I have a bit more self respect than that. I won't be treated as someone's doormat or a second option. I know I will block her number eventually (or change mine, I haven't thought about that) It's just so hard to cut the final string of contact and realize that after blocking her number, I will never hear from this person again. A person who meant so much to me a little over 2 months ago...

 

While she could go out of her way to contact me, like making a new facebook to get around the fact that I've blocked her. Or email me. I'm apparently not that much of a priority to her, and whatever she wants to talk to me about, isn't important enough for her to tell me. I just wish she would!

 

Man I know it sucks and she probably is realizing how much she misses you, but that doesn't mean she wants you back. You are doing well by ignoring her, keep it up.

 

It honestly seems a lot like my situation, she wants to see that you are still there for her, and the minute you respond and maybe you guys start talking again and hanging out, she will lose interest.

 

In the end, it's all about her ego, if you respond, you will give her the last little push to move on and it will leave you in shambles. Trust me, I've been there, I responded, we went back to basically dating again, and I thought we were going to get back together. In the end, it just helped her to move on and made me take 10 giant steps back in the recovery process.

[judithlove]

i feel your pain you guys. lets all try doing together its been one week today and i feel like i want to call him so bad and just ask him to come back. we broke up on good terms and we said we will be friends been broken uo for 3 weeks but NC for one week. the worst thing is i know i will be contcat him because we have a trip booked together and i dont know what to do . stay strong you all can do it and find someone better

[bitterruin]

It's been 15 days for me. It's not really been easier. I told my ex not to contact me anymore and I kinda hope he does, but I know he won't, not only because he doesn't want to but also because I told him not to, I hope the latter is the main reason.

I can sort of feel NC working its magic though. I don't get random spells of missing him anymore, except for when I'm hungry, tired and when I first wake up in the morning, so I've been trying to control that. And when the urge gets irresistible I try reminding myself why I can't be with this person and that the only thing calling him will achieve is giving me pain, not us getting back together.

[sharsh]

Yess don't do it! Run from your phone like the plague! Lol. You know how f*cked up I just got by breaking NC, it's not worth it!!

 

I'm jealous of your self control, though.

[youngnlove89]

It's been 15 days for me. It's not really been easier. I told my ex not to contact me anymore and I kinda hope he does, but I know he won't, not only because he doesn't want to but also because I told him not to, I hope the latter is the main reason.

I can sort of feel NC working its magic though. I don't get random spells of missing him anymore, except for when I'm hungry, tired and when I first wake up in the morning, so I've been trying to control that. And when the urge gets irresistible I try reminding myself why I can't be with this person and that the only thing calling him will achieve is giving me pain, not us getting back together.

 

It's been 16 days for me and that is the only thing also keeping me from calling him!

 

It's worse knowing you changed your number and wondering if he texted/called or found out that you did change your number, OR maybe that he hasn't even tried to contact me yet.

 

It sucks not knowing..

[nsteen87]

It's been 16 days for me and that is the only thing also keeping me from calling him!

 

It's worse knowing you changed your number and wondering if he texted/called or found out that you did change your number, OR maybe that he hasn't even tried to contact me yet.

 

It sucks not knowing..

 

She originally told me she wanted a month of NC and that she would then contact me. This has only added anxiety to the situation.

 

I've taken a step back now and asked myself why I'm doing NC. Is it for me, is it for her, is it for both of us? I don't know the answer to this question yet but I just know it needs to happen. It's so hard and it's like going through withdrawal but I just keep on pushing.

 

For the record, early on I had zero self control and was begging like a little puppy. I was pathetic and learned my lesson.

 

I will be content when I finally have the confidence to tell her not to let the door hit her in the *ss on the way out (secretly praying she falls and trips of course down the stairs too ).

 

I've got about 20 numbers in my phone that I should be focusing on right now instead of her. Just want to get better and rid myself of this feeling of numbness so I can focus on the opportunities in front of me!

[Simon Phoenix]

Do it for you. The hell with the other person. NC has to be for you.

[james11]

First of all im sorry for the break up mate, it will all work out for the best in the end. I think i can relate to how your feeling, you keep telling yourself you want to cut contact with her but if you were faced with the opportunity of blocking out her number or changing yours, you would hesitate to do it? It's having the option to contact still there that is stopping you, so keep it that way because if you do cut all forms of contact i think you might feel the need to contact her more than you would right now.

 

my girlfriend broke up with me on saturday, she was the best thing that's ever happened to me and i still don't understand the reasons as to why she broke up with me.

 

I begged her, tried to guilt trip her, got angry with her and then regretted it so i begged her again. i think she has G.I.G.S and the thought of her having feelings for someone else is killing me. I started NC today so that i dont have to hear about her meeting someone else but its so hard, i feel like she wont miss me if i dont talk to her?

 

We live in the same town and im constantly worrying about hearing something about her that she did with a guy on the weekend.

[nsteen87]

Has anyone had any success using Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) to maintain NC ?

[Simon Phoenix]

Has anyone had any success using Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) to maintain NC ?

 

Nah, just show some backbone and stay away. Mind over matter.

[Simon Phoenix]

i feel like she wont miss me if i dont talk to her?

 

 

This makes no sense.

[LostOne1]

This makes no sense.

I think he means if he keeps no contact then she will forget him and not miss him?

[geegirl]

i feel like she wont miss me if i dont talk to her?.

 

If you're forgettable, doesn't that tell you something. If you have to remind someone of your existence, then you have your answer.

[Simon Phoenix]

I think he means if he keeps no contact then she will forget him and not miss him?

 

Still makes no sense. People don't forget people in a couple of months. If she doesn't miss him with no contact she certainly won't miss him with limited or regular contact.