Drseussgrrl Posted December 18, 2012 Posted December 18, 2012 Haha. So, I got a message last night from a guy online. He seemed pretty cute and like we had a lot in common. So we swapped a few messages back and forth and he asked for my number. I sent it to him. Within the course of a few hours, he has been texting non-stop, asked to meet up tonight, offered to pick me up, and has sent me a FB friend request. I feel like I'm being assaulted. I haven't even MET him yet and he wants to be FB friends and get in a car with him. Yet another big fat FAIL.
veggirl Posted December 18, 2012 Posted December 18, 2012 That does suck and is really annoying. He doesn't even know you! This is the type of guy who, on your first date, will be physically all over you, calling you babe & sweetie etc........he's trying to get an "insta-relationship". Not cool. 2
MrCastle Posted December 18, 2012 Posted December 18, 2012 When are people going to realize, the better looking they are online, the higher their odds are they have serious personality flaws? 1
Author Drseussgrrl Posted December 18, 2012 Author Posted December 18, 2012 Well I think I'm decent looking and don't come across that way to people.
Keenly Posted December 18, 2012 Posted December 18, 2012 I agree, it sucks. Most of the women on online dating sites piss me off so bad. I send them a message trying to start conversations based on common interests and never get responses. It's almost like they say " omg why is this guy talking to me " probably because its a DATING SITE.... Idk, I'm still trying though. Plus I'm young and online dating hasn't really caught on with people my age yet.
Revolver Posted December 18, 2012 Posted December 18, 2012 Im not surprised, I've heard both men and women say online dating sucks. For the most part, men say it sucks because the women are too picky and they never get messages. Like ever And the women say it sucks because all the men are either weird losers or just want FWB
spicolli Posted December 18, 2012 Posted December 18, 2012 I messaged a girl i consider out of my league looks wise. We went back and forth for a few days, SHE asks ME to go out sometime this week, i say yes, try to set up a date and she never responded. That was like a week ago. I feel like match planted her there hahaha. Its definitely tough. Hang in, and dont go out with that guy, something seems off.
Imajerk17 Posted December 18, 2012 Posted December 18, 2012 (edited) When are people going to realize, the better looking they are online, the higher their odds are they have serious personality flaws? Well, I've done decently in OLD for that very reason. Decently in the sense that OLD is a good source of sex with some really cool women for me, and that many (definitely NOT all but about half) of the girls I meet want to see me again. I don't think I have looks on my side. I'm on the short side--according to the latest doctor's visit I'm only 5'6". I have not gotten an unsolicited contact from a "real" profile (there are a lot of fakes) in OVER A YEAR, despite the fact that my profile is well-written. I initiate contact with maybe 5 women a month and will end up going on a date with maybe 30% of them. I usually have to write the women twice to get them to write me back though, and in case you are wondering, I don't bother contacting women online who are much younger than I. I've learned to hustle because well, I have to. (don't get the wrong idea, I'm not a Don-Juan either. I've gotten rejected my share of times and it still stings.) What I DO have going for me is that I don't make the "mistakes" the better-looking guys are making. I'm pretty good at showing the right level of interest--I get back to a woman within 24 hours of her giving me her number but I would never barrage a woman with communication. I have my passions and I think women can sense that. I also know what I am looking for in a woman and I can articulate it pretty well. When I go on a date I'm not afraid to make a move if I am feeling it but I'm not all over her like a cheap suit. I'm still astounded how this "common-sense" stuff puts me ahead of the average fellow online. It almost seems unfair. Edited December 18, 2012 by Imajerk17
barbossa Posted December 18, 2012 Posted December 18, 2012 over too excited. maybe Now update your profile to say what you don't want? you have to kiss a lot of frogs....
Mme. Chaucer Posted December 18, 2012 Posted December 18, 2012 I think I have said this more than 10 times on different threads, but I met my husband on match.com, and I did meet other good (also cute!) men during my online dating period. Yes, I met (few) scary creepers and some benign ones. Sometimes, I would need to stop and I'd remove my profile. After a while, I'd feel like trying more. So, if you can stand it, you don't really have to give up … and take all the naysayers opinions as … opinions. But you really have to get a thick skin and be fine with a lot of failures, both of getting "nexted" yourself, and having to do the rejecting.
Wunlov3 Posted December 18, 2012 Posted December 18, 2012 When are people going to realize, the better looking they are online, the higher their odds are they have serious personality flaws? I've heard that most of the "very attractive" women only join for an ego boost.
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