dcw132003 Posted December 18, 2012 Posted December 18, 2012 I've been dating this guy for about 6 months, and i love him dearly. it hasnt been all rose fields and sunny walks but weve made it work...now on to the problem. he has two little girls 6 and 2, i have one, shes 2. ive met the 2 yr old coutless times and the 6 yr old twice. the reason? after one last encounter, we were all watching a movie and her dad leaned on me. i guess she didnt like that so now she say she doesnt want to be around me. i was expecting her to hate me, seeing how shes a daddy's girl and he hasn't dated anyone since her mother(who is A LOT of drama) but what i wasn't expecting was for him to keep me away because of that. he did tell me that she came crying to him one night because of some of the things her mother was saying "daddy is picking his new gf over us", "don't you think its wrong for daddy to pick her over us", "daddy's new gf is trying to take him away from us", and those are just a few. my bf told me he assured his daughter this wasn't the case but now im not allowed around her but he expects to be around my daughter. he expects me to be the one who always changes around my schedule so we can see each other and i just don't think that's fair. he was talking marriage last night and i just got quiet because i don't know if i can marry him when he wont evem allow me around his daughter. extra info: his babymama hates me and even though they weren't together he was always there for her and now that's stopped because of me. she calls my phone constantly, sends me voice mails and text. i think its her whose planting this in her daughter's mind and him too yet he entertains it....sometimes i feel wrong for wanting to be around his daughter and getting upset when he just blows it off or changes the subject. now im refusing to allow him to be around my daughter because i refuse to invest more in this relationship than he has...am i wrong? or is it him?
Ami1uwant Posted December 18, 2012 Posted December 18, 2012 Its actually very typical starting around tht age when kids start seeing a "new parent". Its likely she told mom who soes not want her to be with you for whatever reason. You should be concerned about this because it will affect any long term future in this relationship. If I was the dad I wouldnt be choosing you over one of my kids which is what this situation is becoming.
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