Author Axee Posted December 27, 2012 Author Posted December 27, 2012 If he was interested HE would have asked YOU for a 2nd date. That's all you need to know. If a man doesn't ask you out after the 1st date, he's not interested. Period. ^^^ I am writing this in a post it and keeping it with me. I too feel that this is the bottom-line
Author Axee Posted December 27, 2012 Author Posted December 27, 2012 I think this is something people on here are missing. Allow me to translate. The site she was on was one that Muslims, and many in South Asia use to find a spouse...not a date...not a FWB...to find a husband or wife. You contact people not because your a little wishy washy interested the way we in the west do it... you contact people because you think they are marriage material. It is a very very serious thing. They meet a couple times in public places or with a chaperon. Then if they like each other they get engaged...often involving an engagement ceremony... in certain cultures it is comprised of a muslim ceremony called Nikkah. Followed latter by a more public ceremony which affirms the marriage. Divorce is easier, and less stigmatized in these situations. It is a totally different way of looking at love, marriage, and relationships than what we have in the westernized world. True and thank you MrLonelyOne, but as you can see the lines are getting blurier, wishy-washy ppl are getting in and claiming to be serious..
veggirl Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 veggirl, please read my complete post .. he asked me to let him know when we can meet next. he called me to say he is interested , msged me that he is interested. And like i have said earlier, i am on a matrimonial site which is like dating but not exactly dating.So asking if we should continue is justified here .. I know, I read your post. Telling a woman "let me know when you're free" isn't asking her out imo. It's putting the burden on you. Anyway I can understand about the website now. Makes more sense. In the future though I'd just take anything other than clear action on his part as a "not interested". Just easier for you, much less drama in your life that way! 1
Mrlonelyone Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 True and thank you MrLonelyOne, but as you can see the lines are getting blurier, wishy-washy ppl are getting in and claiming to be serious.. They do the same thing here in the states. Ideally many men (and some women) would rather live together and act as married people would in every possible way. Have children, create responsibilities....yet...still be able to walk away if things aren't perfect. Then as soon as they are married and it isn't perfect they get divorced.
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