Javabear Posted December 18, 2012 Posted December 18, 2012 I've been having very vivid dreams lately where my ex appears and confesses that leaving me was the biggest mistake he has ever made. I know this is happening because even though it's been almost three months since our breakup I still think about him all the time, especially at night. The breakup was hard on him and I know that he wavered in his decision for the first few weeks. But for whatever reason, he stuck with it. We were doing fine for three years and then he suddenly tells me he has feelings for someone else. In all of my dreams, he tells me that he never loved her the way he loved me and that I meant more to him than anyone else ever has or will. I wake up after these dreams wondering where he is and why he's not next to me. And then everything that happened comes flooding back and I remember that he's gone. I have a big fear that one of the reasons he might not want to reconcile with me is because he knows that if he comes back we would basically be agreeing to marriage. I think that's part of what freaked him out in the first place. He had never had another girlfriend before and I'm sure the thought of marrying his first everything seemed impossible. However, we are young (21 and 22) and although we talked about marrying each other all the time, I know I would want to wait at least 4 more years. What if he's afraid to come back because he thinks he'd have to marry me right away? And dear god, I wish these dreams would stop! They're really messing with my mind and tugging on my heart.
ShannonMI Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 I've been having very vivid dreams lately where my ex appears and confesses that leaving me was the biggest mistake he has ever made. I know this is happening because even though it's been almost three months since our breakup I still think about him all the time, especially at night. The breakup was hard on him and I know that he wavered in his decision for the first few weeks. But for whatever reason, he stuck with it. We were doing fine for three years and then he suddenly tells me he has feelings for someone else. In all of my dreams, he tells me that he never loved her the way he loved me and that I meant more to him than anyone else ever has or will. I wake up after these dreams wondering where he is and why he's not next to me. And then everything that happened comes flooding back and I remember that he's gone. I have a big fear that one of the reasons he might not want to reconcile with me is because he knows that if he comes back we would basically be agreeing to marriage. I think that's part of what freaked him out in the first place. He had never had another girlfriend before and I'm sure the thought of marrying his first everything seemed impossible. However, we are young (21 and 22) and although we talked about marrying each other all the time, I know I would want to wait at least 4 more years. What if he's afraid to come back because he thinks he'd have to marry me right away? And dear god, I wish these dreams would stop! They're really messing with my mind and tugging on my heart. How long have you been broken up? I dreamt non-stop about my ex when we first broke up. It was excruciating. I'd wake up more depressed then ever. As time went on (its been 2.5 years) the dreams stopped. I still, from time to time have a dream about him. They are never good. Usually his new fiancé is in them and I have to see them together. Just know as time goes on, you will stop having the dreams. Or they will be far less frequent. Hang in there.
todreaminblue Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 I've been having very vivid dreams lately where my ex appears and confesses that leaving me was the biggest mistake he has ever made. I know this is happening because even though it's been almost three months since our breakup I still think about him all the time, especially at night. The breakup was hard on him and I know that he wavered in his decision for the first few weeks. But for whatever reason, he stuck with it. We were doing fine for three years and then he suddenly tells me he has feelings for someone else. In all of my dreams, he tells me that he never loved her the way he loved me and that I meant more to him than anyone else ever has or will. I wake up after these dreams wondering where he is and why he's not next to me. And then everything that happened comes flooding back and I remember that he's gone. I have a big fear that one of the reasons he might not want to reconcile with me is because he knows that if he comes back we would basically be agreeing to marriage. I think that's part of what freaked him out in the first place. He had never had another girlfriend before and I'm sure the thought of marrying his first everything seemed impossible. However, we are young (21 and 22) and although we talked about marrying each other all the time, I know I would want to wait at least 4 more years. What if he's afraid to come back because he thinks he'd have to marry me right away? And dear god, I wish these dreams would stop! They're really messing with my mind and tugging on my heart. my ex actually told me that he stuffed up adn has said that many times..doesnt change the act or the will or the choice he took to do it in the first place, to walk away from everything, to walk away from me.... same with your ex.....no excuses for weak wills.......whether or not he said it for real or in your case you are dreaming it....there are always regrets when you split with someone you do love........and when you have been with someone for a while you do tend to love them.... relationships arent all fuzzy feelings of love though....its what you do when things get rough that counts when its not fuzzy....when you are all fuzzy you dont tend to break up....who really wants someone when it gets rough they get going.....billy ocean might ....i dont particularly...i call them bail outs....ship jumpers....... i am sorry you are dreaming of him.....but you are better off dreaming about him than having a ship jumper in reality......the heart ache will fade and you will eb left withthe realization....crap im lucky i didnt stay longer........i wish you all the best and i hope he doesnt invade your dreams and cause more pain than he has inflicted on you already...hugs to ya....deb 1
IT Geek Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 Someone has been invading my dreams, too. But in my case, it's a woman I'm interested in who I have NO chance with except in my dreams.
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