agirlnextdoor2012 Posted December 18, 2012 Posted December 18, 2012 My boyfriend with whom I had 3 years of live in relationship is now getting married to some one else and he is leaving the country forever and they are going to live together abroad. I am a divorsee and had an extremely bad marriage. 3 years back I separated from my husband and my boy friend came into my life. He took good care of me and loved me like anything. We lived like a perfect couple from 3 years and never knew life could be this beautiful. We both work in the same office and even in the same department. I spend my entire day with him- starting with the morning tea till d time I am fast to sleep. When I went to US this year on a company's assignment in Jan he told me that he is getting engaged as his parents will never agree to this relationship and will never accept a girl from a different caste. After listening to this I came back from the assignment in June. Its so difficult to handle such a situation when I know he is getting married and we share the same roof. He although did not change much when I came back and used to love me the same way. He told me that we should spend the best of rest of the time left. Enjoy each and every moment of it. Whenever he speaks to his fiance I get so upset feel like as if I am sharing my man with someone else. I told him not to tell me the date of his marriage and not to even show with the picture of the girl as I cannot deal with it. Today is 18th Dec and we are parting on 22nd Dec ( he is going to his home town) when he is going to get married. I am also leaving on 22nd Dec to meet my family. We both will be back by 13th Jan in the same house and soon after in March he will leave everything and go away. He says that he loves me a lot but he is bound by the circumstances. For him getting married to a girl who belongs to his religion is more important. But the reason I see is that he wants that NRI tag because of which he is even leaving his family back home and leaving his job as well. I really love him a lot and I see a similar love in his eyes as well but then why is it happening. I was all crushed 3 yrs back when I had bad marriage and then why is this happening again with me when I tried to put my 100% to this relationship. Forum I cant open my heart to anyone right now hence writing everything here. I am completely broken from inside and really need a help and advice. How should I deal with this situation.
Axee Posted December 18, 2012 Posted December 18, 2012 Hi, I am from India so you can say that I have an idea about your situation. See , this guy is a horrible , selfish guy and how could you EVEN let him do this to you... Why are you even with him after he told that he is going to get engaged. He is a cheater, he is cheating on his fiancee also. I know fate is a bad teacher and we really get hurt when we put 100% into a relationship and it doesnt work..But need to take it as a learning lesson and move on. Please, leave him ASAP , dont wait until March. Please go no contact with him. Next time be more careful while choosing a man for yourself. The coming days will be difficult, but this too shall pass. We are here for you. I am here for you.. Take care and dont let anyone treat you like this.
Axee Posted December 18, 2012 Posted December 18, 2012 (edited) In the future, dont get into a live in relationship before getting married ( atleast in India) , Edited December 18, 2012 by Axee
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