DreamWaltz Posted December 18, 2012 Share Posted December 18, 2012 Hi everyone. My bf and I have been together for over 6 months, and I know we love eachother. He treats me wonderfully, better than any man I've ever been with. We work together so well, and things are great. But I wonder about something sometimes...He usually always uses the word "luv" when he's texting me. And when he gave me a birthday card this week, it said "luv" instead of Love...And the card was cute, but not serious/romantic like MY birthday card to HIM was last month. I know I am probably over-analyzing, but I wonder why he doesn't just use the word "love" more often? I mean...I do. I know he loves me, he shows me all the time...but I wonder why he doesn't use Love like I do? He was hurt by an ex that he loved very much (YEARS ago), and I wonder if that has anything to do with it? Maybe he's still guarding his heart a bit subconsciously? What do you think? Thanks... Link to post Share on other sites
movingon12 Posted December 18, 2012 Share Posted December 18, 2012 ...or he's just a lazy speller... Link to post Share on other sites
Pompom Posted December 18, 2012 Share Posted December 18, 2012 Words idiots use since they think they save lots of time and energy by omitting letters from 3 to 5 letter words, but end up saying "You're not worth the effort of decent typography": u - you are not worthy of the effort to type "yo" as well r - you are not worthy of the effort to type "a" and "e" luv - this distorted spelling saves the writer 1 letter while entirely distorting the word, which they still seem more fit for you than the effort of spelling it out. Considering the meaning of the - intended - word, I find this especially disheartening. I mean, if you were to type "I h8 u", I could kind of understand since a hated person is probably not worth the effort of decent spelling, but... luv? The same goes for "ILU" (I love you). May God have mercy on the soul of the poor fool who sends me such a text. You don't even love me enough to go through the effort of spelling out 3 extremely short and allegedly oh so ****ing meaningful words? Why, go to hell Sure, if you're in the middle of an ambush in the Gaza Strip, I get it. But otherwise? Unless you have clumsy fingers, there is no excuse to type like a 12-year-old retard 2 seconds after having had sex with Justin Bieber. To me, correctly addressing someone and writing a message in a decent and thoughtful manner, is a gesture of respect. Likewise, when some idiot asks me for a commission, or worse, a request (free stuff), and they go "r u" on me, I don't reply even if they offer money. If you don't respect me enough for the effort of typing 2 letters without even any diacriticals, who's to say you'll respect and honor a contract that binds you to paying good money for my hard work? Sure, many people don't mean anything by it when they deliberately abbreviate short word to make them even shorter. But the message this "SMS speek" sends, to me, remains unchanged: "Meh I don't feel like going through the trouble of typing decently just for you". After all, they would probably not text their boss like that. And what kind of mindset does a person have, in general, who thinks the effort of 1 to 3 letters is worth looking like a retard who's had their skull bashed in with a stiff dead porcupine? 6 Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted December 18, 2012 Share Posted December 18, 2012 Words idiots use since they think they save lots of time and energy by omitting letters from 3 to 5 letter words, but end up saying "You're not worth the effort of decent typography": u - you are not worthy of the effort to type "yo" as well r - you are not worthy of the effort to type "a" and "e" luv - this distorted spelling saves the writer 1 letter while entirely distorting the word, which they still seem more fit for you than the effort of spelling it out. Considering the meaning of the - intended - word, I find this especially disheartening. I mean, if you were to type "I h8 u", I could kind of understand since a hated person is probably not worth the effort of decent spelling, but... luv? The same goes for "ILU" (I love you). May God have mercy on the soul of the poor fool who sends me such a text. You don't even love me enough to go through the effort of spelling out 3 extremely short and allegedly oh so ****ing meaningful words? Why, go to hell Sure, if you're in the middle of an ambush in the Gaza Strip, I get it. But otherwise? Unless you have clumsy fingers, there is no excuse to type like a 12-year-old retard 2 seconds after having had sex with Justin Bieber. To me, correctly addressing someone and writing a message in a decent and thoughtful manner, is a gesture of respect. Likewise, when some idiot asks me for a commission, or worse, a request (free stuff), and they go "r u" on me, I don't reply even if they offer money. If you don't respect me enough for the effort of typing 2 letters without even any diacriticals, who's to say you'll respect and honor a contract that binds you to paying good money for my hard work? Sure, many people don't mean anything by it when they deliberately abbreviate short word to make them even shorter. But the message this "SMS speek" sends, to me, remains unchanged: "Meh I don't feel like going through the trouble of typing decently just for you". After all, they would probably not text their boss like that. And what kind of mindset does a person have, in general, who thinks the effort of 1 to 3 letters is worth looking like a retard who's had their skull bashed in with a stiff dead porcupine? Im the brain dead pocupine with a subtle agenda then i write luv when i am in an affectionate mood...... i write love always when i want to convey...umm love always....sometimes ill just write always....deborah....meaning always here for you so they know im serious i wrote deborah not the three worded deb i write thinking of you when i am thinking of you and it doesnt need clarification because the guy would know i am wishing that he was there to show him what i am thinking...words mean different things for different people when i am upset depressed or whatever ill drop letters because its hard for em to write text ro speak to someone when i am upset.....especially if i am typing to the person who upset me.....so say hi to skull bashed in porcupine who just had sex with justin bieber...you guys are mean on this board today........deborah Link to post Share on other sites
Pompom Posted December 18, 2012 Share Posted December 18, 2012 There's nothing mean about hating it when people don't deem a conversation worth decent typing, especially when they go out of their way to type incorrectly. It's not like they slam down on the keyboard and accidentally hit incorrect letters or miss some. They think "Hm, how am I gonna abbreviate this short word?". Planning to type incorrectly should take more time than just typing the word as it should be typed (talking about fractions of seconds, obviously). For someone with minimum intelligence, correct typing should come naturally, hence making deliberate incorrect typing actually more challenging. It confuses and strains me to remember to omit selected letters on purpose. No person with a 3 digit IQ can possibly find it easier..? I mean, how can typing this: T_day I w_nt 2 t_e s_ore 2 _uy a l8 ni__t mo_ie be easier than Today I went to the store to buy a late night movie. I run a few fake profiles on some networks to keep an eye on certain people. To do this convincingly, I have to vary typing habits between the people I pretend to be. So one is a 17-year-old white trash girl, typical MySpace pic from above with whore make up, so obviously she types like MySpace white trash, too. I find it extremely difficult and I keep having to go back and "correct" correctly spelled words to abuse them so they are trashier. Like r u thar 2nite. Very challenging. And gut-wrenchingly humiliating. And you seem very upset and depressed today. Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted December 18, 2012 Share Posted December 18, 2012 There's nothing mean about hating it when people don't deem a conversation worth decent typing, especially when they go out of their way to type incorrectly. It's not like they slam down on the keyboard and accidentally hit incorrect letters or miss some. They think "Hm, how am I gonna abbreviate this short word?". Planning to type incorrectly should take more time than just typing the word as it should be typed (talking about fractions of seconds, obviously). For someone with minimum intelligence, correct typing should come naturally, hence making deliberate incorrect typing actually more challenging. It confuses and strains me to remember to omit selected letters on purpose. No person with a 3 digit IQ can possibly find it easier..? I mean, how can typing this: T_day I w_nt 2 t_e s_ore 2 _uy a l8 ni__t mo_ie be easier than Today I went to the store to buy a late night movie. I run a few fake profiles on some networks to keep an eye on certain people. To do this convincingly, I have to vary typing habits between the people I pretend to be. So one is a 17-year-old white trash girl, typical MySpace pic from above with whore make up, so obviously she types like MySpace white trash, too. I find it extremely difficult and I keep having to go back and "correct" correctly spelled words to abuse them so they are trashier. Like r u thar 2nite. Very challenging. And gut-wrenchingly humiliating. And you seem very upset and depressed today. Yeah I am a little.....I understand you saying that you "hate it" I dotn particularly like it when people admit to setting up fake profiles for the idea of keeping an eye on them....and pretending to be someone else..its stalkerish......that triggers a paranoid thought process about who is actually on here or not here(and are you someone i hav epissed off in the past).....thats me being honest ..... i think its worse than dropping letters in a conversation or as i said it think its mean to assume they have a low iq.....we are all entitled to our opinion.....yes i am down today A little off kilter...askew...i luuuuuuuuuuuuv that word...ill get better....thanks .....deb Link to post Share on other sites
TG1 Posted December 19, 2012 Share Posted December 19, 2012 I wouldn't read too much into it at all Link to post Share on other sites
Million.to.1 Posted December 19, 2012 Share Posted December 19, 2012 Why don't you just tell him you find txt spelling a little immature? i don't mind abbreviations, as in "Ttyl" - for talk to you later... or or shortening things like "tomoro" or something, but really only in txts. i wouldn't read to much into it, but if it bothers you, then just tell him so nicely. Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted December 19, 2012 Share Posted December 19, 2012 On a text message...possibly okay. Might be kinda cutesy, every now and then. Now if you text him "I love you" and he writes back "I luv u too" or something...and he generally spells like an adult...then that's obnoxious and I'd wonder if he is using "luv" as kind of a shield of sorts? A way to keep things not too serious, more casual? Now, on a handwritten birthday card? To his girlfriend? LUV is unacceptable. Not to mention, spelling it "luv" seems kinda...jr high girlish? Ask him why he always says luv instead of love. Does he use u instead of you? 2 instead of to? etc. and, don't EVER accept "I was hurt in the past" as a reason for someone to be emotionally distant. If he is still upset from that hurt, he shouldn't be dating and he is emotionally unavailable. Beyond that, we have ALL been hurt in the past, the emotionally healthy among us separate that past hurt from our current partner, or we don't date until we are able to do that. If a guy is still too hurt from his past to be emotionally available to you, then you should cut your losses. Link to post Share on other sites
TG1 Posted December 19, 2012 Share Posted December 19, 2012 On a text message...possibly okay. Might be kinda cutesy, every now and then. Now if you text him "I love you" and he writes back "I luv u too" or something...and he generally spells like an adult...then that's obnoxious and I'd wonder if he is using "luv" as kind of a shield of sorts? A way to keep things not too serious, more casual? Now, on a handwritten birthday card? To his girlfriend? LUV is unacceptable. Not to mention, spelling it "luv" seems kinda...jr high girlish? Ask him why he always says luv instead of love. Does he use u instead of you? 2 instead of to? etc. and, don't EVER accept "I was hurt in the past" as a reason for someone to be emotionally distant. If he is still upset from that hurt, he shouldn't be dating and he is emotionally unavailable. Beyond that, we have ALL been hurt in the past, the emotionally healthy among us separate that past hurt from our current partner, or we don't date until we are able to do that. If a guy is still too hurt from his past to be emotionally available to you, then you should cut your losses. I have to admit she does have a point Link to post Share on other sites
AMusing Posted December 19, 2012 Share Posted December 19, 2012 Words idiots use since they think they save lots of time and energy by omitting letters from 3 to 5 letter words, but end up saying "You're not worth the effort of decent typography": I logged into LoveShack just to like your post. I don't just like your rant, I love it. Hilarious! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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