Who has had success (to a degree) with each online dating site?

[ls32ssibm]

Keep in mind I am a decent looking guy (I've been described as an 8/10 by several women) who has tried to build relatively attractive profiles. 24 y/o, looking for a serious relationship.

 

I am currently members with;

 

Plentyoffish: The worst, hands down. Almost nobody responds, people on their phones unable to receive IMs are listed as able to IM, attracts many low class people (not judging, just an observation).

 

OkCupid: A lot of responses, a lot of decent profiles, but most of the girls it seems aren't looking for anything serious and are quick to jump to the next best thing due to the nature of the site (free, overpopulated).

 

Match (I am a paid member): A lot of beautiful girls, but probably loaded up with the most fake/inactive profiles of any site on the market. I've been on one date with a cute girl from Match (didn't work out) so some are real.

 

eHarmony (also a paid member): I actually do like the matching system; adds a level of suspense to it (new matches arrive every day or so) but no luck so far. Also uses some inactive profiles as new matches. But, given the relationship-focus of the site, and the fact that it IS responsible for 120 marriages a day, I am contemplating remaining a paid member in case the right girl comes along.

 

 

 

I know, you may think I'm a chump for dishing out the cash for the paid sites, but it isn't like I'm spending the cash on a girlfriend or anything. Anyway, has anybody actually ever subscribed to Chemistry or Christianmingle? They run commercials nonstop in my area (which I assume females also see) so I am contemplating checking those out too.

[ThaWholigan]

I am on POF and OKCupid.

 

I've gotten 2 FWBs off OKC, so that would count as success I suppose.

 

Saying that, POF actually has better looking girls in my area on there . Still, no success there....

[Enema]

I've only tried PoF and OkCupid out of those.

 

Thought about trying the paid sites next as the quality of women seems to be higher.

 

I have a good success rate on all the sites I use, the Free ones obviously you really need to stand out. Doesn't matter if you're an 8/10 if all you're doing is messaging generic, "Hi, how are you?"'s etc.

 

I just tried out the app "Skout" too. Seems ok but might be more of a hookup thing, meeting a girl from there on Thursday and it certainly seems one dimensional so far.

[edgygirl]

I feel that the only free site I'm in, okcupid, is a place to get FWBs. Even when I meet interesting people from there, somehow they don't seem serious about meeting someone for long-term.

 

I'm in another (paid) site that caters to people with my religion and background (although I am not religious) and I feel that a higher percentage of people there are looking for someone to commit. The problem is finding a compatible person to do it...

 

Have you all felt the same about free vs. paid sites?

[FitChick]

Look for the link About Us in every dating website, which will tell you who owns the website. Many are the same but have different names and sometimes charge different rates. Yahoo Personals is the same as Match and I think Dating Direct is as well. So if you post a profile on one, it will appear on all three (or however many there are). Just find out which one, if any, is cheaper and subscribe to that. That explains why people see the same person on many websites. Many of those people don't know they are on other websites other than the one they signed up with.

[ls32ssibm]

I feel that the only free site I'm in, okcupid, is a place to get FWBs. Even when I meet interesting people from there, somehow they don't seem serious about meeting someone for long-term.

 

I'm in another (paid) site that caters to people with my religion and background (although I am not religious) and I feel that a higher percentage of people there are looking for someone to commit. The problem is finding a compatible person to do it...

 

Have you all felt the same about free vs. paid sites?

 

 

Paid sites are plagued by fake and inactive profiles. Free sites have no real reason to prop these up (with exception of OKC's main page). But, the quality of women is definitely higher in general on the paid sites. It depends what you are looking for I suppose.

[FitChick]

Look for sites that show you the last time someone logged in. One website has people who checked in four years ago! They could be dead by now. That's why you should hide or delete your profile if you meet someone or just decide to bail. It will save someone else a bit of aggravation.

[dasein]

If meeting one woman on match saves you a cover charge and a couple of drinks from going out to meet a candidate organically, then there's your monthly fee right there. No idea what I would have spent going out to meet the 50 women I dated off match, but definitely a lot.

 

If you limit outgoing emails to women who have been logged on the site within 48 hours or so, you will cut right through the fake/inactive profiles. Scoot right past those "active more than three weeks ago" profiles without a second look.

[rocketman122]

Ive done a few but then concentrated only on jdate. I had a lot of success. was dating a girl or 2 a week.

[Sugarkane]

I think those sites are only American? I tried RSVP and I'm still with my boyfriend several months later. You get a lot of responses but alot of the time the dates only lasted a couple of dates. And not turn into anything. You also have to pay to use the site.

[Tara247]

I've had success with online sites in terms of getting dates with men I otherwise would never have met because they are out of my area. I live in a small town and hardly get out these days because of writing papers for school. It's been convenient. I even met an ex-boyfriend on one site.

[PogoStick]

 

I'm in another (paid) site that caters to people with my religion and background (although I am not religious) and I feel that a higher percentage of people there are looking for someone to commit.

JDate?

Just split with a Jewish girl in part because I'm not. Her mom has been telling her to try out JDate. I'm kind of offended by it so I'd love to hear the selection is lacking

[Andy_K]

I have used online dating when single for the last 6 years or so. PoF, match, OkCupid, and a few others.

 

Over the years I've had dozens of dates, various flings, and 3 long term relationships.

 

Whilst match is generally the highest quality, followed by OkCupid, these sites just aren't popular enough in my area to rely on alone. So the vast majority of the time I've had to rely on PoF. There I get something like 20-30% response rate, depending on how closely I'm matching interests, and perhaps a date from one in every five of those.

 

This is as an attractive, now 29 year old guy who has a kid from a previous relationship, writing to attractive girls aged ~21-27 who don't

[edgygirl]

Yeah JDate. Sorry to hear, I know how it is

I mean, there are a lot of people to meet there if you want to, but it's like in the real world, not easy to find your match. At least a lot of people seem keen on finding the one as opposed to okcupid i.e. I also have a feeling that there are a lot of inactive and even fake profiles there.

 

JDate?

Just split with a Jewish girl in part because I'm not. Her mom has been telling her to try out JDate. I'm kind of offended by it so I'd love to hear the selection is lacking

[edgygirl]

Yeah I'm there too, no problem to get dates. But did you feel potential to finding the one there? (If that's what you're looking for obviously).

 

Ive done a few but then concentrated only on jdate. I had a lot of success. was dating a girl or 2 a week.

[Enema]

I think those sites are only American? I tried RSVP and I'm still with my boyfriend several months later. You get a lot of responses but alot of the time the dates only lasted a couple of dates. And not turn into anything. You also have to pay to use the site.

 

OKCupid and PoF are most definitely popular in Australia.

[barbossa]

Keep in mind I am a decent looking guy (I've been described as an 8/10 by several women) who has tried to build relatively attractive profiles. 24 y/o, looking for a serious relationship.

 

I am currently members with;

 

Plentyoffish: The worst, hands down. Almost nobody responds, people on their phones unable to receive IMs are listed as able to IM, attracts many low class people (not judging, just an observation).

 

OkCupid: A lot of responses, a lot of decent profiles, but most of the girls it seems aren't looking for anything serious and are quick to jump to the next best thing due to the nature of the site (free, overpopulated).

 

Match (I am a paid member): A lot of beautiful girls, but probably loaded up with the most fake/inactive profiles of any site on the market. I've been on one date with a cute girl from Match (didn't work out) so some are real.

 

eHarmony (also a paid member): I actually do like the matching system; adds a level of suspense to it (new matches arrive every day or so) but no luck so far. Also uses some inactive profiles as new matches. But, given the relationship-focus of the site, and the fact that it IS responsible for 120 marriages a day, I am contemplating remaining a paid member in case the right girl comes along.

 

 

 

I know, you may think I'm a chump for dishing out the cash for the paid sites, but it isn't like I'm spending the cash on a girlfriend or anything. Anyway, has anybody actually ever subscribed to Chemistry or Christianmingle? They run commercials nonstop in my area (which I assume females also see) so I am contemplating checking those out too.

 

 

Pof: i was on it 4 years ago? I sent messages but the one girl that i talked to went ghost

 

Honestly though if you go out to a bar or restaurant you can easily spend $30

 

I think match.com or eharmony has potential

 

so worth the money

 

BUT

 

lots of people are fakes, it takes patience and luck.

 

I think people are too picky when it comes to online dating too many options and misconceived idea about mr/ms perfect

[ls32ssibm]

I have kind of an interesting update.

 

 

In the past 24 hours I have met (as in they have e-mailed me back) two seemingly great women on eHarmony.

 

 

However, they are outside my initial search radius. One is 2.5 hours away and one is about 90 minutes away.

 

 

Has anybody experienced any sort of dating/relationship with people who reside so far away?

[CarrieT]

However, they are outside my initial search radius. One is 2.5 hours away and one is about 90 minutes away.

 

Has anybody experienced any sort of dating/relationship with people who reside so far away?

 

I met a guy on a dating site (a kink-related site) who lived 90 miles away. I initially dismissed him and he convinced me to give him a chance. After 50+ coffee/first OLD meet-and-greets, I figured I should expand my search area.

 

That was 14-months ago and I am in the process of moving to where he lives.

[ls32ssibm]

I met a guy on a dating site (a kink-related site) who lived 90 miles away. I initially dismissed him and he convinced me to give him a chance. After 50+ coffee/first OLD meet-and-greets, I figured I should expand my search area.

 

That was 14-months ago and I am in the process of moving to where he lives.

 

Great story. I'm going to keep in contact and just see what happens.

[rocketman122]

JDate?

Just split with a Jewish girl in part because I'm not. Her mom has been telling her to try out JDate. I'm kind of offended by it so I'd love to hear the selection is lacking

 

 

When I lived in the US I dated many christian girls. I am jewish. not by choice mind you and many times ive thought about converting but my family would kill me. it didnt bother me the least bit that they were christians. the problem was the holidays and sometimes one side giving more than the other. they expected I be with them in the holidays and asked they spend it with mine. and when you have kids, it will be too much of a hassle. too much drama.

besides, imo, jdate is a better website in terms of features compared to others ive seen. and a lot more members as well.

 

I met my GF on jdate. she was very reluctant to do OLD and wanted to try for a few months. she accidentally clicked on my profile actually and when I saw her picture show up in my "who saw your profile" list I knew I had to have her. we dont live close to each other and I plan on moving to her city when the time comes to be closer to her.

Edited December 19, 2012 by rocketman122

[youngnlove89]

I am on POF and OkCupid.

 

POF I get tons of messages, but mostly from men who are NOT my type. I met my current ex on there who I dated for a year and a half. I've been on maybe 6 dates on there. All were decent guys who looked like their picture, just didn't have chemistry. Most guys on there, IMO, are not very attractive, but there are a few that are.

 

OkCupid is "Ok" haha I don't get as many messages and I've only been on a couple dates on there. But, I do think that there are better looking people on OkCupid, but either I'm not their type or they just want sex.

 

I recently went on a date with a guy from POF, great guy, good looking and everything. But didn't like the fact that I just got out of a relationship. Don't blame him. So we just had fun and now we are friends.

[It's Just Me]

I guess you could say I've had success with OLD, but it didn't come without infinite patience, a bunch of holysh*t stories and meeting a bunch of losers who misrepresented themselves. This was all sites, across the board, by the way.

 

After almost two years (yeah, you heard me) of consistently going out on dates, I finally met someone I liked and who liked me back. We have now been together for almost 18 months, and I couldn't be happier.

 

Be patient. I'd say that 85% of people on those sites have no interest in long-term relationships. They are either fresh out of breakups, or are just looking for a quick lay... and that goes for both men AND women. Caveat emptor.

[Sugarkane]

Although I found most people lied that they wanted a relationship, when they really didn't. A lot of dishonest people out there.

[NateC]

I'll be meeting someone in-person who I met on OKCupid in the next couple weeks ...seems like it may be a success story, but I'm not counting my chickens before they hatch.