redrose123 Posted December 18, 2012 Posted December 18, 2012 Hey everyone! So it's been almost 10 months and I feel like I should be completely over my ex. It doesn't hurt as much and I rarely ever cry but I recently found out he is dating someone else and that set me back quite a bit. I was doing good not looking at his FB page and had him blocked until a 'friend' of mine texted me to tell me that his new gf was cute and they had put a picture up together on Facebook. Of course curiosity got the best of me and I went and looked at his page and felt awful; he's taking this girl to the same places he took me, dedicating our songs to her and writing sweet stuff all on her wall and he's only known her for a month. I vowed never to go back onto his or her page again but now I find myself laying awake at night picturing them together and wondering what they're doing and it's driving me crazy!! How can I stop thinking of them together? I keep picturing them getting married and living a great life but for some reason I can't picture it for myself. I feel pathetic but I talked to my therapist and she said it takes a long time for our hearts to get over someone we love. I just wish mine would hurry up. Thanks for reading my rant. Happy Holidays everyone 1
na49 Posted December 18, 2012 Posted December 18, 2012 I need to read threads like these whenever I feel like checking up on my ex's profile. I'd hate to find out that my ex is dedicating all of our songs and going everywhere that we used to go with a new guy. I'd just hate to see her loving life with another guy, so I'm trying to avoid seeing that.
Samilia Posted December 18, 2012 Posted December 18, 2012 Hey everyone! So it's been almost 10 months and I feel like I should be completely over my ex. It doesn't hurt as much and I rarely ever cry but I recently found out he is dating someone else and that set me back quite a bit. I was doing good not looking at his FB page and had him blocked until a 'friend' of mine texted me to tell me that his new gf was cute and they had put a picture up together on Facebook. Of course curiosity got the best of me and I went and looked at his page and felt awful; he's taking this girl to the same places he took me, dedicating our songs to her and writing sweet stuff all on her wall and he's only known her for a month. I vowed never to go back onto his or her page again but now I find myself laying awake at night picturing them together and wondering what they're doing and it's driving me crazy!! How can I stop thinking of them together? I keep picturing them getting married and living a great life but for some reason I can't picture it for myself. I feel pathetic but I talked to my therapist and she said it takes a long time for our hearts to get over someone we love. I just wish mine would hurry up. Thanks for reading my rant. Happy Holidays everyone Why would your friend send you such a text? What's wrong with this guy/gal? Yes, it takes time to get over someone, however, I think you need to work on living rather than live to get over him. And you're not pathetic, you're just sad, it's normal.
Author redrose123 Posted December 18, 2012 Author Posted December 18, 2012 And I also feel awful because he is graduating from college on Thursday and I always pictured myself there to share that day with him but now his new gf is going to be there :/ I think that along with the holidays and the fact that Jan 1st would have been our 4 year anniversary is making this month hard.
bluefairy812 Posted December 18, 2012 Posted December 18, 2012 Hey everyone! So it's been almost 10 months and I feel like I should be completely over my ex. It doesn't hurt as much and I rarely ever cry but I recently found out he is dating someone else and that set me back quite a bit. I was doing good not looking at his FB page and had him blocked until a 'friend' of mine texted me to tell me that his new gf was cute and they had put a picture up together on Facebook. Of course curiosity got the best of me and I went and looked at his page and felt awful; he's taking this girl to the same places he took me, dedicating our songs to her and writing sweet stuff all on her wall and he's only known her for a month. I vowed never to go back onto his or her page again but now I find myself laying awake at night picturing them together and wondering what they're doing and it's driving me crazy!! How can I stop thinking of them together? I keep picturing them getting married and living a great life but for some reason I can't picture it for myself. I feel pathetic but I talked to my therapist and she said it takes a long time for our hearts to get over someone we love. I just wish mine would hurry up. Thanks for reading my rant. Happy Holidays everyone i'm so sorry. i'm half way there, at 5 months after 4 years. he's completely changed and i don't know him anymore. what i can advise you is, great job on your progress. almost 1 year is fantastic. this is a minor set back unfortunately, but you cannot continue poisoning yourself to keep looking at his or her page. I haven't looked at my exes page in weeks. I'm so glad i haven't, but looking at a mutual friend's page completely shattered me (he wrote I miss you to some chick he never even liked before, go figure) so, I can't imagine what I would see on his instagram. You cannot continue doing this to yourself. You have come so far only to let him and your past consume you. Stop it, don't let it happen anymore, i know it's hard to deal with the pain, but curiosity is better to deal with than the hard facts. Leave him alone and continue on your path to success. See this as just a minor setback. Your driving in this car - don't let this bump on the side of the road slow you down. feel better soon.
Author redrose123 Posted December 18, 2012 Author Posted December 18, 2012 Why would your friend send you such a text? What's wrong with this guy/gal? Yes, it takes time to get over someone, however, I think you need to work on living rather than live to get over him. And you're not pathetic, you're just sad, it's normal. Thanks for the reply. I am doing a lot better than the first couple of months after it happened. I've realized that this person is not a friend but the damage had already been done :/ 1
Samilia Posted December 18, 2012 Posted December 18, 2012 Thanks for the reply. I am doing a lot better than the first couple of months after it happened. I've realized that this person is not a friend but the damage had already been done :/ Point is love, he's not the center of your life. You make him to be, but he's not. My point is, you can live without him, you can do as good, even better, without him. I understand that 4 years is a long time but you have so many years ahead of you to better yourself and meet someone new. Do me a favor and dump that friend of yours.. what an awful text.
Author redrose123 Posted December 18, 2012 Author Posted December 18, 2012 Ugh his mother just posted a picture of him with their new cat on facebook. I feel sick. Something is wrong with me.
bluefairy812 Posted December 18, 2012 Posted December 18, 2012 (edited) Ugh his mother just posted a picture of him with their new cat on facebook. I feel sick. Something is wrong with me. stop doing this to yourself. all your doing is re-opening wounds. enough is enough. please, it will only create permanent damage that you DON'T need. TAKE IT FROM ME. i have seen things that i didn't want to see yet went looking for it and all it's done is stay stuck in my head and caused me stress, to cry and over think the situation. Edited December 18, 2012 by bluefairy812 1
sadbunnyy Posted December 18, 2012 Posted December 18, 2012 I know how you feel. I went on my exes facebook page a few weeks ago and saw that he was commenting with few girls and my heart dropped... I deactivated my facebook and vowed that I will never go on his page again. I need to give my heart a break now...its been through too much hurt. I suggest you stop going on facebook for awhile until your healed also. 1
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