Best Friend help needed...

[Foreversorry04]

Hi everyone,

I came across this site while searching and thought I would post my problem with my best friend and see if anyone has any good advice (or bad advice).

Alright, I met my friend 4 years ago at the retail store I work at (actually she was my boss). We dated for a year and she lived with me for six months of that year. Then one day she told me she had to move out that it wasn't anything to do with me, but she feared for her job if anyone found out we were living together. After she moved out we continued to see each other off and on for a while, then one day she broke it off claiming the same reason. I care for her and always told her that if she needed to break up with me cause of work or because of her daughter then I would understand being kicked to the curb. So I kept my chin up and stayed her friend.

She was my best friend up until January of this year when she abruptly stopped talking to me. This was at the same time that I left my F****ing retail job and got a career that I really wanted, working for Microsoft in Seattle. I never thought in a million years that she would ever stop talking to me and I don't know why. I wrote her some emails and asked for a reason why she was not talking to me anymore and I never heard back from her. When I eventually got the nerve to call her I found out she had her numbers changed??? I honestly don't know what I did wrong, I am not abusive person and I gave her more of me then I had ever given anyone before. Even as a friend I was always there for her, listening to her cry at 4am cause her boyfriend broke up with her or waiting up all night for her to call me and let me know she got home OK because she was having car trouble and didn't know if her car would make it home. She has a good job and all but is kind of short on money all the time so I helped her out with some loans and bought her some stuff that she would never buy for her self (She is a video game-a-holic and I got her some game systems and a ton of games(it's good to have connections to people in game companies)).

 

So I guess that is where I am at. I miss my best friend and think about her everyday and hope she is doing alright. But I would like to reconsile our friendship and get back to the way we used to be. I hope she doesn't feel like I abondoned her when I took a new job, I even offered to bring her with me but she didn't want to move.

 

I guess I am just at a loss. It has been about four months since I tried calling her and the only way I have to get a hold of her now is by email, and the last email I sent she deleted with out even reading.

 

Does anyone have any advice??

 

Thanks

Foreversorry

[Pocky]

You won't ever return to the same area again? No chance you can stop by her store and see her face to face? It's easier to get closure if you can see the end of something in their eyes.

 

I understand what you're going through.I experienced a best friend relationship ending abruptly and I'm unaware as to why. Unfortunately, five years later I still dream of her.

[ShopingBarbie1984]

I think she was just using you and that is just plain wrong and, if that is not the case I agree go and see her face to face if it means that much too you...