youngnlove89 Posted December 18, 2012 Posted December 18, 2012 "Realize that when your heart breaks, you got to fight like hell to make sure you're still alive. Because you are. And that pain you feel? That's life. The confusion and fear? That's there to remind you that somewhere out there is something better, and that something is worth fighting for." I feel good. I know I'm heading the right direction, I'm on the right path, I'm slowly crawling up from rock bottom and now I can see a ray of sunshine. It's still hard and I still think about him. He was in my life for a year and a half, but I know it's for the best. I think what I have a hard time with is wondering what he thinks or if he thinks anything at all. Wondering if he tried to call me or text me, I won't know now because I changed my number. I just wonder if there is a time in his day where he misses me...if I was worthy enough to be missed... 1
na49 Posted December 18, 2012 Posted December 18, 2012 Sometimes your posts remind me of my ex. She was crazy about those gooey love quotes. Anyway, I think they do still think about us. Not as much as we think about them. I think they do miss us. Not as much as we miss them. I think were worthy enough to be missed, they loved us at one point. but like I said, they probably don't miss us like we miss them. 1
nsteen87 Posted December 18, 2012 Posted December 18, 2012 13 days and going strong. Do I still think about her all the time since it is relatively fresh and a bad break up? Of course I do - but something tells me it grinds her gears that she doesn't have me wrapped around her finger anymore. Do the things you enjoy the most to keep yourself busy and distracted. Danced my *ss off at one of my favorite clubs in NYC from 10 pm Sat Night - 7 am Sun Morning and I will admit it is the most fun I've had in a very long time. For the first time in 2 years, I went out on a Saturday night and didnt have to worry about her texting me wondering what I was up to, and me not responding soon enough, or her freaking out from seeing a picture the next day and being her usual insecure self and questioning what I was up to. Hindsight is a wonderful vantage point that provides the best perspective and makes us wonder why we ever put up with this crap in the first place. Stay the course, I'm right there with you!
Author youngnlove89 Posted December 18, 2012 Author Posted December 18, 2012 Thanks guys! It's good to focus on the things that weren't so good in the relationship and 90% of the time I am thinking of the reasons why I did the right thing and left him. But it's the 10% that really sets me back sometimes. I just get those moments where I ask myself if I'll ever let him go completely, if I can ever be happy again without him, if one day I'll stop day dreaming about him coming back and just holding me tight. I don't know how to let that part go. The hardest part is over, we let them go. Your ex is gone and my ex is gone, but will I ever be able to let that feeling go? I know I have let go of ex's before, but he was my longest relationship. I'm afraid that he will always be that one that stays in my heart.
nsteen87 Posted December 18, 2012 Posted December 18, 2012 You are glorifying him as many of us are guilty of. Look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself you deserve better because you do. Here is the hard part : then go and be about it.....don't just talk and think about it. 1
Gigglygirl Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 Thanks guys! It's good to focus on the things that weren't so good in the relationship and 90% of the time I am thinking of the reasons why I did the right thing and left him. But it's the 10% that really sets me back sometimes. I just get those moments where I ask myself if I'll ever let him go completely, if I can ever be happy again without him, if one day I'll stop day dreaming about him coming back and just holding me tight. I don't know how to let that part go. The hardest part is over, we let them go. Your ex is gone and my ex is gone, but will I ever be able to let that feeling go? I know I have let go of ex's before, but he was my longest relationship. I'm afraid that he will always be that one that stays in my heart. It's insane reading your post I can relate to you a lot, I was with my ex 18 months he broke up with me tho, 13 days ago. And i wish i knew what he was thinking!! But I feel like I'm ok and I'm worried that I'm ok too quick or I'm in shock or I don't know!? But he broke my heart, he panicked over a pregnancy scare and dumped me via text now he is just being very unkind to me and refusing to speak to or see me so i can get closure, but hes lovely to my mum who communicates with him about swapping our stuff over etc. So maybe I'm over him quickly because he's behaved like a d**che bag. Hope so! Also guessing ur a dumper, so dumpers feel bad too do they? I feel like my ex doesn't give a f**k...
Misslovely Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 Well you are a strong woman! I'm scared on leaving my bf of 9months, who really dsnt deserve me! his lied and cheated, forced me into an abortion. But i love him so much im scared of being without him, scared of seeing him with someone else, scared he wont miss me. When do you tell yourself its time to walk away?
flitzanu Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 "Realize that when your heart breaks, you got to fight like hell to make sure you're still alive. Because you are. And that pain you feel? That's life. The confusion and fear? That's there to remind you that somewhere out there is something better, and that something is worth fighting for." I feel good. I know I'm heading the right direction, I'm on the right path, I'm slowly crawling up from rock bottom and now I can see a ray of sunshine. It's still hard and I still think about him. He was in my life for a year and a half, but I know it's for the best. I think what I have a hard time with is wondering what he thinks or if he thinks anything at all. Wondering if he tried to call me or text me, I won't know now because I changed my number. I just wonder if there is a time in his day where he misses me...if I was worthy enough to be missed... one of these days you are going to realize it's NOT ABOUT YOUR PERSONAL WORTH OR VALUE. him being a prick is his own volition, it isn't based on how great or horrible YOU are. 1
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