LostBoy86 Posted August 13, 2004 Posted August 13, 2004 [font=arial] Ok so I have almost 18 and I have been with my girlfriend who is 17 and we have been together for almost 10 months. The problem is she does not like to be sexual at all and does not like to be wet in the pants. Dont ge me wrong she gorgeous and I love her and do not want to pressure her but its has been a long time and we are both virgins. Sure we have done some stuff like kissing and she has given me handjobs but she doesnt seem to want to do anything besides that. About a month ago I bought her a vibrater slash dildo in hopes that it would make her want to be more sexual but it just makes her want to use that instead. I want to stay with her because I fell like she will eventually change but I am starting to be bored of handjobs. CAN SOMEBODY PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!![/font]
HokeyReligions Posted August 13, 2004 Posted August 13, 2004 It used to be that couples did not have sex until their wedding night! If you want a sex-based relationship---find someone else. Either be patient or leave.
Pocky Posted August 13, 2004 Posted August 13, 2004 I'd have to agree. If your girlfriend is still a virgin and doesn't want to have sex then you need to stop pressuring her. Losing her virginity isn't your decision, it's hers. If you don't like not having sex then find another girlfriend.
Fayebelle Posted August 13, 2004 Posted August 13, 2004 they make masturbation toys for men too. Go pick up a pocket pu$$y and have fun til she's ready for you.
EC Posted August 13, 2004 Posted August 13, 2004 A pocket Pu$$y lol. I saw those when ...yeah well I saw them and they were sooo funny I remember just laughing and laughing at them. They have mouths too! WTF?
Mr Spock Posted August 13, 2004 Posted August 13, 2004 About a month ago I bought her a vibrater slash dildo in hopes that it would make her want to be more sexual but it just makes her want to use that instead. Sounds to me like she doesn't have a problem with sex then, just sex with you.....try talking to her about how it makes you feel.
honey2005 Posted August 13, 2004 Posted August 13, 2004 I agree with Hokey and the others. If you don't want to wait for her to be ready, then move on to someone else who is ready to have sex with you. You can't make her want to have sex, you should let her be ready to do that in her own time.
Author LostBoy86 Posted August 14, 2004 Author Posted August 14, 2004 [font=arial] Yo you guys don't get it. First off i don't want to force her to do anything. Second we are both virgins. Also I wasn't talking about having sex with her I'm talking about fooling around with her. It seems like she wants to but she is just like really scared. And she is kinda at a slower pace than me but I don't want to make her do anything she doesn't want to. Its weird because she is really horny all the time but she just wants to masturbate by herself she doesn't want me to do anything for her. At the same time its hard because everybody else my age fools around with their girlfriend except me. I completely understand that if she doesn't want me to do anything to her that I can't because its her body and I respect that but I just wish she wanted to do stuff to me. Keep in mind that we have been together for 10 months. I don't know I guess you guys are right though I really love her and I couldn't see myself with anybody else so I don't want to force her to do anything.[/font]
honey2005 Posted August 14, 2004 Posted August 14, 2004 Its weird because she is really horny all the time but she just wants to masturbate by herself she doesn't want me to do anything for her Maybe she isn't ready to be sexual with someone else. At the same time its hard because everybody else my age fools around with their girlfriend except me. Why do you care what other people your age are doing? People mature at a different rate, maybe she doesn't feel she wants to be sexual. I wouldn't give her the "everyone else is doing it" excuse, because that's kind of lame. I think you should just cool it for awhile, and when she's ready to be sexual with you, she'll let you know. Don't try to pressure her into it, you'll end up just scarying her away.
SoleMate Posted August 14, 2004 Posted August 14, 2004 Sexual frustration is the normal state of affairs for teenagers. I actually think that people who hold off until 20+ tend to avoid picking up bad, "teenaged sex" habits and are thus better lovers over the longer term. If you judge your intimate relations with your SO based on locker room gossip, you are not old enough to be getting any more than you are getting. If you absolutely have to get laid, wait until you are 18, break up with your GF, and find a 30-something divorcee to teach you the ropes. You will find them a lot faster in the sack. Hope this helps.
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