Cf0418 Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 So it has been 5 days since I found out my fiancé cheated on me with my "friend" and is expecting a baby. I don't know how to feel. I still love him. We have been together for 6 years. He was my best friend and everything. And he tells me he loves me too and he wishes he could turn back time. How can I stop the feeling of loving him and missing him. He doesn't deserve it and I deserve someone who would never do anything to hurt me. Why does life have to be so unfair and cruel. I am a good person.
NavyAirTraffic Posted December 18, 2012 Posted December 18, 2012 This world can be unfair and cruel. Bad things happen to good people. Always doing the right thing does not guarantee life will be kind to you. Try not to think about how you've been slighted, try to focus on your life's positives. Your ex and friend have done you a favor (might not seem that way right now). You have asked him a question "are you a cheating arsehole?" and he's answered "ma'am yes ma'am!!" Try to think of the positive in this. He could've answered your question 5 years down the road after marriage and kids...
lovefiction Posted December 18, 2012 Posted December 18, 2012 I am sorry... That is a terrible thing to find out... It may not seem like it right now but it would only be worse to find out later... I kept asking myself the same question - "why me? I am a good person"... when my boyfriend told him he wanted to explore a relationship with someone else... It hurts like hell and I keep wondering what I did wrong... but the truth is I really didn't do anything wrong... and neither did you... He doesn't deserve you - you are right... I hope you can find a way to love yourself as much as you loved him... Take care of yourself the way you did him...
Samilia Posted December 18, 2012 Posted December 18, 2012 So it has been 5 days since I found out my fiancé cheated on me with my "friend" and is expecting a baby. I don't know how to feel. I still love him. We have been together for 6 years. He was my best friend and everything. And he tells me he loves me too and he wishes he could turn back time. How can I stop the feeling of loving him and missing him. He doesn't deserve it and I deserve someone who would never do anything to hurt me. Why does life have to be so unfair and cruel. I am a good person. If we had a switch to turn off love, this forum would be empty. Don't feel bad about loving him still. However, you're right, you deserve someone better who won't go have sex with your friend and knock her up, all of this while being engaged to you. That's the raw truth and I hope it will help you move on. Even if it sucks, for now. As for his "I love you", I don't know if he's serious or not, but if it was me, I'd tell him to shove it where the sun don't shine.
ItxWillxGetxBetter Posted December 18, 2012 Posted December 18, 2012 Im so sorry about what you are going through. That is horrible. I know it doesn't mean much now since you still love him but it really is better that you have found out now rather than after you were married with a kid. It still sucks the same I know.....I'm so sorry.
Author Cf0418 Posted December 18, 2012 Author Posted December 18, 2012 Thanks everyone. I am so glad I found this website and all of you
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