Confusedbreakup Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 (edited) Hello-- I woke this morning with a strange feeling inside of me, and as I showered I started to think even deeper into what going on inside of me. I have a bf of over 2 years. And lately I've been feeling a little insecure about our relationship.. We've had our ups and downs as in most relationship, and lately I've noticed that we've both been trying our best to make things better. The issue--My current boyfriend has a preference of Hispanic women, particularly puerto rican woman, he says he likes their looks, ie color of skin, long hair etc. I however am black/hispanic, attractive, and slender... I am however, brown skin and dont resemble his ideal loook what so ever.. I often see him staring at these types in the street, and would sometimes see him reference them in messages to friends. He's never been with a puerto rican woman before in a relationship or dating.. He's white by the way. I saw some things written to a friend about going to clubs that at 80% hispanic. He is young and immature, so I'm not sure if this plays a role. My question is should I continue this relationship feeling like a second best or am I over thinking this? Please help me with some clarity. I'm worried that we'll continue on with him just going through the motions and will eventually find someone more his type that likes him. I don't know if I should keep it going or try to cool my feelings down. Thanks. Edited December 17, 2012 by Confusedbreakup
newmoon Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 if this was a new relationship and your guy was checking out other women who seem more 'his type' it might be a problem, but you've been together 2 years!, so you're obviously his type. he does like you and your looks to have stayed with you this long. if you're noticing that his attention and interests have turned away from you and towards other women/friends it's probably for some other reason or problem within the relationship that needs to be addressed. perhaps it's time to change up your own look to rejuvenate his interest in you? maybe a new color/cut, a new style of clothes for a while - sometimes that's all it takes to get your man interested again. it could be smoething beyond this too, but start with something and see if it works. and men will always look at other women so don't let insecurity ruin an otherwise ok relationship
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