james11 Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 Hi everyone, Ill try and keep this as short as i can. Me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 years, im 17 and she's 16. we've had an amazing relationship and i'd say ive spent the best part of these 2 years with her. we've done everything together and i went on holiday abroad with her family a few months ago. We were madly in love with each other and planned our futures together, everything seemed to be perfect. It was about month ago that she went out with her mum and step dad to a party and i stayed at mine, the next day i went to hers and everything seemed absolutely fine, then all of a sudden she started acting weird towards me and to cut a long story short she broke up with me, the reason was unknown to me and left me so confused. What i also felt was strange was that she re activated her facebook account that she hasn't used in around 3 years. I know your probably thinking that im young and don't know what love is but i do, this girl means the world to me. So what does the party have to do with it? well, she eventually agreed to let me take her out for a meal so we could sort things out and start again. We got back together and everything was perfect again. I can trust this girl with anything and we've never had trust issues with each other before. She left herself logged in on her facebook account round mine about 3 weeks ago so i decided to go on it as i felt it was strange that she had suddenly decided to re activate it. I read her messages and found out that she had been talking to a member of the band called harry she met at the party. She even had messages with his friend that read "I really like him but i dont think he feels the same" her other messages with harry were very hurtful, she mentioned ringing him and that she was going to miss him. To top it all off she went and met him for a day. I confronted her about this and she simply denied that she liked him and he was only a friend. She then closed her facebook account and i let it slip because i didn't want to lose her, everything has been perfect until the beginning of last week when she decided to open her account back up and add him again. I then questioned her why she had done this knowing full well that it would hurt me but she got angry at me for asking her. This then lead up to us breaking up on saturday, i had a feeling that it was him that she started having feelings for so i decided to hack her facebook just so i could get closure on my suspicions. To no surprise she was talking to him again. She still denies liking him and claims that she "doesn't feel the same around me anymore but still loves me" I am completely beside myself and do not know what to do, she was everything to me and seeing her move on would be unbearable, please help!? i feel like i can't live without her.
Darren From England Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 Hello there You can't make a person do what they don't want to do, they will inevitably do what THEY want to do, my advice would be to just try to the best in everything you do, look your best and act your best, if she decides she want's to be with this other guy there is little more that you can do other than give her space to miss you, your relationship is long enough for her to certainly miss you when you are not in her life any longer, remember though that if you are going to drop off the face of the earth you have to, she won't miss you otherwise, you could just be over analyzing thing's although it does sound a tad suspicious, take one day at a time, remain cool, calm and in control, a very wise old man I used to know ( He is dead now ) used to say to me "Lose it, and you have lost it" take it one day at a time, and remember look your best, act your best, and see what happens. Good luck
Author james11 Posted December 17, 2012 Author Posted December 17, 2012 thankyou, i really want to go with the NC but its so hard, i have a constant urge to text her and ring although i know it will only make things worse. Is there any advice you can give me on not contacting her? Thankyou
Survivor12 Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 Yes...stop hacking her FB page. The longer you go without having ANY kind of contact with her (in person, phone, text, FB, hearing about her from friends) the easier it will become. In the meantime, every time you have the urge to contact her, distract yourself with something else. Call a friend, take a run, play a video game...anything that will occupy your mind for a little while. Then...rinse and repeat. Good luck.
Darren From England Posted December 18, 2012 Posted December 18, 2012 Just wait until Christmas Day and then send a nice message, something like " Merry Christmas ***** I hope you have a wonderful day Love & best wishes ( You ) " This is mere civility in my eyes, I will be sending my EX a Christmas Text / SMS message, and I doubt I will get a reply like but it is simply being Civil in my eyes.
Darren From England Posted December 18, 2012 Posted December 18, 2012 Regarding your NO CONTACT question I would simply send the Christmas Text, nothing else, I know how hard it is I have gone no contact for about 9 weeks now, I just think how much more sh*t I would feel by contacting her and her ignoring ME FURTHER I would feel be even worse with the Christmas Text you are testing the water by using Civility You may be surprised and get a nice one back? whatever happens keep us posted I wan't to see how your situation pans out. Darren
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