Can you see what I can't?

[Darren From England]

I am going to keep this one short

 

I was in a relationship with ( The One ) for just under four months

She always proclaimed to Love me yet did not show it very well

She had a drink problem, and stayed with me about 2 weeks out of 4

After being admitted to hospital 4 times in one month her Family decide to come and collect her

( and take her 5 hours away to hopefully help sort her life out )

She proclaimed to love me still

She sent me a beautiful Birthday Card

( To My Special partner - The One I Love ) blady blady bla

Tells me she loves me loads x 12

two days later I am dumped by Text ( And moaned at in the same text ) for calling her aunties mobile whilst she was sleeping ( Night-shift Work ) I never knew, I could not get hold of her one day and was calling and

texting ( SMS ) her all day and decided to call her auntie to see if everything was OK, hence her moaning at me, I accepted the breakup without a problem told her to apologies to her auntie for my calling and told her I hoped we could be friend's and never contacted her again, she kept me on facebook for a further 4 weeks, then one day decided to edit her Location from here to there, ( she only edited her location at this time ) then early that morning

( 5.00 AM ) I post a status that I was very successful at work tonight and that it must be my aftershave or something, the next day her relationship status changes to single, almost a week goes by and I am still not blocked I post a picture of my name in Graffiti and some hot little chick starts talking to me there and flirting ( Her not me ) When I get in from work in the early hours I see that I and all my family are blocked on her facebook? WTF, neither me nor my family ever made any attempt to talk to her on facebook, nor did we say anything bad about her? is this just coincidence or was she pi**ed at me? I am not sure if she has changer her mobile number as she did mention it before she dumped me, I just have not checked, I am not sure of her new address either :/ b but I did send a really nice letter to the address where I think she is but got no reply ( No Surprise ) also she owes me £200.00 for a phone but it does not need to be payed for about 7 months? any advice?

[BUBS]

I'm very sorry you had to deal with this, it all seems wishy washy. 4 months is too soon to know about the "one" or whether you are even compatible, I'm saying this because it is still considerably the "honeymoon" phase of a relationship, in which you haven't really gotten to know this person or had enough experiences and your brain is working on specific chemicals that give you a high, or a drug like feeling. In your case in that short period of time, she showed a lot of negative that soon in the game, where in most circumstances, issues like what you are dealing with normally don't come until things become very comfortable. She is obviously emotionally immature or unstable for having broken up with you for inquiring about whether or not she is ok, I'm sure there were deeper rooted issues and she was looking for a dumb excuse in order to feel better about herself. I wouldn't think too much into her blocking you or your family on facebook, especially if you all left her alone... perhaps she just doesn't want to see your posts. Maybe they make her feel guilty, maybe she is trying to detach herself, or maybe like her heated break up on a whim over nothing, she was just pissed at the moment that you weren't showing her attention and are living your life... it could be anything really.

If you still have 7 months to pay for the phone, then I would just wait it out a while longer. You will become indifferent to her head games and nonsense and move on with your life. Once you are able to kick the "feelings" itll be easier to confront her about the finances... and you may just end up taking the financial hit at the end of the day to avoid her completely at that time if its too much of a hassle.

[Bumaga vsyo sterpit]

I read your earlier, more detailed posts. Why don't you watch the movie Casino? It's not only tantalizing, but makes strong statements about beautiful women who are damaged goods. You're trying to change a junkie, an alcoholic, a masochist, a chronic liar and a drama queen, who's probably been through more guys than tampons before and during and after your relationship. Girls like this only follow the cash and flash. Come to your senses and get rid of her before she burns you out, man.

Edited December 17, 2012 by Bumaga vsyo sterpit

[Darren From England]

"Bumaga vsyo sterpit" < LOL your reply did make me laugh ( Cheers Mate )

 

1) I have a further update to add, I spoke with her mother yesterday who informed me "Allegedly" that my Ex still loves me ( Mmmmmmm ) I was also informed her Mobile Number has not changed and is still the same, I think she is afraid to speak with me down to her guilt, lesson/s learnt either way, I must emphasize the point my EX NEVER asked me for money, EVER, she got nothing from me other than on her Birthday ETC ETC ETC, Money was never important to her

her only vice was Drinking and getting HIGH, her mother told me she is pushing the boat out up there, she has been fighting with people and the norm

A loose cannon her mother described her as, mind you she has managed to keep a job down so I am quite impressed...............

 

2) I have just been on Facebook and noticed a possible friend I may know, low and behold it is my EX

Her name ( Slight Variation ) her picture and apparently we have one mutual friend god knows who this friend is

Why the hell has she created another account :/ I am blocked on her usual account

The plot thickens, if and I emphasize the word "IF" she wanted to check my profile out all she had to do was unblock me on her first account as my profile is public.......................... what is her game, mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

Edited December 18, 2012 by Darren From England

[TerpVet87]

Don't believe what an ex's mother says. My ex's parents from way back liked me and kept in contact with me after the breakup and assured me that their daughter still loved me and would come around. She didn't.

 

Also as I'm sure you've realized by now, Facebook is evil after a breakup. Seriously consider taking a break from it for a while.

[Axee]

"Bumaga vsyo sterpit" < LOL your reply did make me laugh ( Cheers Mate )

 

1) I have a further update to add, I spoke with her mother yesterday who informed me "Allegedly" that my Ex still loves me ( Mmmmmmm ) I was also informed her Mobile Number has not changed and is still the same, I think she is afraid to speak with me down to her guilt, lesson/s learnt either way, I must emphasize the point my EX NEVER asked me for money, EVER, she got nothing from me other than on her Birthday ETC ETC ETC, Money was never important to her

her only vice was Drinking and getting HIGH, her mother told me she is pushing the boat out up there, she has been fighting with people and the norm

A loose cannon her mother described her as, mind you she has managed to keep a job down so I am quite impressed...............

 

2) I have just been on Facebook and noticed a possible friend I may know, low and behold it is my EX

Her name ( Slight Variation ) her picture and apparently we have one mutual friend god knows who this friend is

Why the hell has she created another account :/ I am blocked on her usual account

The plot thickens, if and I emphasize the word "IF" she wanted to check my profile out all she had to do was unblock me on her first account as my profile is public.......................... what is her game, mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

 

Oh Darren, she is an immature idiotic ( pardon the word , but it really suits her) girl. Please do not think of getting back with her. She will forever keep doing stuff like this, always keeping you on tenterhooks. Decide for yourself and move on...

[Darren From England]

Axee I would not get back with her ever I can assure you, but have to be honest I am INTRIGUED to know why she has created another Facebook account

In her name ( Slight Variation ) her picture

( Not the same picture as on her other account )

And it then popped up on my profile as a possible friend, this is not logical

as she has 1 account why would she need another one?

and in the same name well the variation is in Codii from Cody

 

Maybe it is an old account but it has never popped up on mine like that ever

The plot gets thicker..............

[Darren From England]

" TerpVet87 " I am hearing you mate !!!

 

However I don't want to get back with my Ex, but I do and will always care about her, I would like to keep in touch now and then only, I don't do all that sh*t about you can't be friend's with your EX, I am with my other Ex's I am mature enough to accept what ever may be, my biggest problem is not that she dumped me but the way in which she dumped me and cut me out of her life

I sooooooooooooo didn't deserve that, one day I will get my answer I hope, lol, also I don't have her on my Facebook as she blocked me and all my Family so no worries there

[Axee]

Axee I would not get back with her ever I can assure you, but have to be honest I am INTRIGUED to know why she has created another Facebook account

In her name ( Slight Variation ) her picture

( Not the same picture as on her other account )

And it then popped up on my profile as a possible friend, this is not logical

as she has 1 account why would she need another one?

and in the same name well the variation is in Codii from Cody

 

Maybe it is an old account but it has never popped up on mine like that ever

The plot gets thicker..............

 

 

She must have blocked u in one , as you said, and used the other account to look at your profile, ( wudnt have understood how to unblock , or would have thought you will get to know about it ) .. But why give so much attention to these acts, I understand now that you are in the situation every little thing becomes hugh but end of the day, they are little things...

[Darren From England]

It looks like it is just an old account, not sure how it came to be a requested friend on my Facebook but you are right it is so small and really insignificant