uk3s Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 hi all, i'll try to be brief. I messed up on a girl I really cared about, but had the balls (least I like to think so) to tell her myself. I've been fighting an uphill battle ever since (past 5 months) and because I didn't do no contact properly initially, I only drove her into the rebound guys hands, as all her friends support him and not me. all we had was that I was her first love. fast forward a little bit, they dated, but she ended it within a month as she claimed she still had feelings for me. She tried to sort feelings out, claimed that she still had trust issues and couldn't get over them. BUT she then saw a picture of me and my new girl (who was really just a fling and the pic did it's job) showing her that she still cared. She came with the "I miss you's and came to see me and seeing you brought all the memories back." So now when she meets rebound guy after a month and tells him she still has strong feelings for me and can't pursue with him I think I won that battle, maybe the war. but she does say she's scared to commit to me again and hesitant, but knows I'm not just an option and i won't stand for being one... She then gets a message from him a week later and then states to me "i'm trying not to think of you as an option but I can't seem to help it. a part of me still wants to consider him and I know you don't want to be an option" So she claims she's ready to hang up the gloves, says the trust issues are too great and claims she's just moving on with her life, not necessarily a new guy, tired of the back and forth. After a long convo on phone and texts she states "life's just hard for me right now. I don't want to think about you or 'him' " although she claimed prior in that convo she is intrigued by him. After some space, do I bother ask her to hangout one more time before I leave the city for holidays or just let it burn until if and when she initiates convo. She seems ready to hang up the gloves but I know she cares as she said lastly in our convo "i do deeply care about you as impossible as that seems right now" best course of action? thanks in advance. i love this girl hence why i didn't want to live a lie and confessed a hard truth, seemingly, only for ruin.
CptSaveAho Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 Just because I have feelings for a girl doesnt mean I would date them or go back to date them if there are underlying trust issues with the other person. Love doesnt conquer all. She told you its over. Its over, move on
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