Jessie1989 Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 (edited) PLEASE Read. I would enjoy anyone's advice. I'd really like any input at all, good or bad. There's a much older man I met and started dating long distance. He insisted I was introduced to his parents. The relationship took a very long time to become sexual because HE slowed things down. I was totally naked on top of him, kissing, sucking, ... and begging to have sex at one point. He just held me tight, and told me to go to sleep, I wasn't ready. All while he had a throbbing hard-on, (so that was definitely not the issue.) It has become more sexual, but is still long distance. We talk often and he makes me think everytime I get off the phone with him. Later going back and looking things up or remembering just the sound of his voice, making me dizzy with butterflies. Only lately, he has started to tell me A LOT how he wants to settle down and get married/have kids, but doesn't say to me. We don't have an exclusive relationship. (I'm ok with that at this point and it goes along with his "let's take things slow" attitude.) He says he really likes me but also has hang-ups about our age difference and our distance. I'm in my mid 20s and he just entered his 40s. He tells me about feeling guilty, calls himself "Old Man" and was very interested in making sure I have a good relationship with my father for awhile, (I do btw, my dad has always been there for me and still is). He tells me he has to be the cautious one in our situation because he doesn't want to hurt me, than minutes later while on a different topic blurt out marriage things, is intrigued by the idea that I once thought I was going to marry an ex. A big hang up may be that he wants to have children relatively soon, the way he talks, but he never comes out and asks me about children and I never really bring up these topics to begin with. Just kind of get taken for the ride in conversation, not really sure where he's ever going with all this, not wanting to be presumption. When I originally met him I told him I just wanted to fall in love and settle down and get married. That loving my husband had always been my life goal, while his as a child had been his career. He told me then I was too young to do that and that I needed to explore. He tells me I will make someone a great wife but we never bring all this stuff up because I said it months ago. Independently my living situation is about to change, one of his friends claims he's going to take me away to where he lives . But he could be saying the marriage thing to multiple other women!! What does all this mean? What should I do when he next visits? Edited December 17, 2012 by Jessie1989 Autocorrect mistakes
bac Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 PLEASE Read. I would enjoy anyone's advice. I'd really like any input at all, good or bad. There's a much older man I met and started dating long distance. He insisted I was introduced to his parents. The relationship took a very long time to become sexual because HE slowed things down. I was totally naked on top of him, kissing, sucking, ... and begging to have sex at one point. He just held me tight, and told me to go to sleep, I wasn't ready. All while he had a throbbing hard-on, (so that was definitely not the issue.) It has become more sexual, but is still long distance. We talk often and he makes me think everytime I get off the phone with him. Later going back and looking things up or remembering just the sound of his voice, making me dizzy with butterflies. Only lately, he has started to tell me A LOT how he wants to settle down and get married/have kids, but doesn't say to me. We don't have an exclusive relationship. (I'm ok with that at this point and it goes along with his "let's take things slow" attitude.) He says he really likes me but also has hang-ups about our age difference and our distance. I'm in my mid 20s and he just entered his 40s. He tells me about feeling guilty, calls himself "Old Man" and was very interested in making sure I have a good relationship with my father for awhile, (I do btw, my dad has always been there for me and still is). He tells me he has to be the cautious one in our situation because he doesn't want to hurt me, than minutes later while on a different topic blurt out marriage things, is intrigued by the idea that I once thought I was going to marry an ex. A big hang up may be that he wants to have children relatively soon, the way he talks, but he never comes out and asks me about children and I never really bring up these topics to begin with. Just kind of get taken for the ride in conversation, not really sure where he's ever going with all this, not wanting to be presumption. When I originally met him I told him I just wanted to fall in love and settle down and get married. That loving my husband had always been my life goal, while his as a child had been his career. He told me then I was too young to do that and that I needed to explore. He tells me I will make someone a great wife but we never bring all this stuff up because I said it months ago. Independently my living situation is about to change, one of his friends claims he's going to take me away to where he lives . But he could be saying the marriage thing to multiple other women!! What does all this mean? What should I do when he next visits? You should not do anything special. You should have fun together. If a man wants to get married you, he will let you know about that. From what I have read, you want to get married him. He keeps you confused about his intentions in terms of getting married. From your another post about his sexual preferences, he was much more open about what he wanted in bed.
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