goldengirl11 Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 (edited) I'm 34 and considered/told attractive and am often told that I look in my mid to late twenties. However, I have noticed that I am usually approached by older men e.g in their mid fourties to mid fifties and to be honest, I don't know why. I admit that I don't have a great social life which I am trying to improve on and am awaiting to start a new job in the new year which I hope will change my fate, but I can't help wondering why I find it quite tough to meet men nearer my own age. Also most of the men who I have met/dated in the last few years have approached me when I've been out shopping or at a concert for example and most recently at a day course at college. Is hardly ever through friends. Do any others feel the same? Edited December 17, 2012 by goldengirl11
mesmerized Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 Those guys approach women of any age it seems. Just ignore them. If you want younger men to approach you, you have to go where younger men frequent. Bars, gym, sport clubs etc
insertnamehere Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 Older man. Younger woman. It's the breeding pattern of our species. Good luck hitting on a guy "close to your age". An attractive guy in his 30s with his **** together is the male equivalent a 20 year old chick who's all legs and tits. Those guys are rolling women from all age brackets and they get to be as choosy as they care to be. Even a full-on direct approach for sex may fail with them, because they have options.
Eternal Sunshine Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 Oh please - the LAST thing on a 50 year old guy's mind is spitting out kids when he's sniffing around a 20-something. Give me a friggen break. I do, however, find it entertaining as hell when I hear about 51 year old guys - most of them overweight or out of shape, bald, bad teeth, haggard faces, and more nose and ear hair than humans should be allowed - thinking they stand a chance with a 20-something. Like it's their God-given right to be looking like human trainwrecks but pulling in the pretty little youngin's. Ain't happening, as much as you all think it should be. Hell, most of the 20-something guys on this BOARD can't get a young lady to talk to them, much less date them - and you think the over 40 and 50's are all out there pulling these girls in left and right? What color is the air on your planet? Most men hit early/mid 30s and are fat, balding and looking like my grandpa I am forced to date younger or pick among few in their 30s that are still in decent shape.
CptSaveAho Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 Most men hit early/mid 30s and are fat, balding and looking like my grandpa I am forced to date younger or pick among few in their 30s that are still in decent shape. How's that working out for you? Miserable aren't you.
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 Honestly I'm just saying at this point take what you can get if it looks decent
Author goldengirl11 Posted December 17, 2012 Author Posted December 17, 2012 Also (another moan) do any other singletons just hate getting cards from couples this time of year? Grrr.
EasyHeart Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 I do, however, find it entertaining as hell when I hear about 51 year old guys - most of them overweight or out of shape, bald, bad teeth, haggard faces, and more nose and ear hair than humans should be allowed - thinking they stand a chance with a 20-something. Like it's their God-given right to be looking like human trainwrecks but pulling in the pretty little youngin's. Ain't happening, as much as you all think it should be. Hell, most of the 20-something guys on this BOARD can't get a young lady to talk to them, much less date them - and you think the over 40 and 50's are all out there pulling these girls in left and right? What color is the air on your planet?Whew! I'm still 50, so I've got a few more months before I become a human trainwreck.
edgygirl Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 OP please keep in mind that in about 5 years you'll be really happy to meet an interesting man in his mid-40s. Take it while you can. Meanwhile pass them on to me as I am you in 5 years
FitChick Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 I'm 34 and considered/told attractive and am often told that I look in my mid to late twenties. Obviously these men think you are older. How do you dress, style your hair and wear makeup? How do you move? Are you slim and fit? Your friends will always tell you what you want to hear. They will sometimes not want you to look better than they do because you would be competition for them. If you can afford it, go to a high end salon for a makeover. The fact that you call yourself "goldengirl" makes me think you think of yourself as older. Even one of the Golden Girls dated younger men on that show!
GirlontheLam Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 OP: this happened to me more when I was a little younger. I am your age, and generally people think I am about 23-27. Now I mostly get "hits" from people from about 25-30 or 40+. It is really interesting. I am not sure why. I find it interesting how different types of me hit on me based on my clothing. preppy outfit with flats = hipster guys preppy outfit with dress shoes = older men (40+) workout clothing or casual outfit (skinny jeans + a top) = younger "ethnic" men preppy work clothing at a "work" mixer = men from about 27-35 Switch up your clothing and see what happens.
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