Ex bf breaks up with me, but won't meet me cause he says it hurts too much?

[HaveFaithxx]

So, my bf of one year broke up with me 3 weeks ago. He was totally obsessed with me, and I with him. But the month before the breakup he started to get distant. The reason he broke up is because his parents don't want us together and so we have been meeting in secret this whole time. He is 19 and A LOT younger than me, and they can't accept the age difference. When he broke up with me he told me over and over that he loves me as much as he always has and that this is killing him, but he can't live with the stress anymore. He said maybe when he moved out, we could be together. He also said he still wanted to be my best friend. I replied that I couldn't do it, that it would hurt too much and I needed to have no contact for awhile to be able to move on. I also asked him if he wanted me to tell him if I met someone. He replied, "no". I did tell him though that if he needed to talk to me about anything, I would still be there for him, but that I wouldn't contact him.

 

It's a hell since we work together and nobody at work knew we had a relationship. We had to hide it there too. I see him everyday, and it is so painful. We did IM a few times, over practical things. When he broke up with me, I accepted it without any begging or crying. At work I act as if I couldn't be happier. After two weeks, I asked him if he could come over and talk to drop a few of my things off he said he didn't think that would be a good idea. I asked why and he said "because you need to forget about me, right?" I kept saying that I was fine with it, he didn't have to worry, I wasn't going to break down or anything, and he just kept saying over and over again, "I am doing this for you, it will be too hard for you". I was getting frustrated and finally he answered, "It will be too hard for me too, I can't go to your flat, there are too many memories there." Then he said he had to go and eat dinner.

 

I got the feeling that it really hurt him that I wanted no contact and totally acted fine about the breakup even though I am dying inside and want him back more than anything. So, I sent an email telling him that I still loved him (I never said it after he broke up with me) and that I was doing this because I was making it easier for both of us. I said that if he knew I was sad, and I would cry and beg him back it would just stress him out more, and I didn't want to do that to him. My email didn't ask for a reply, but I thought he would comment on it. Nothing. A few days later, I sent a message, that if it came to the point that he couldn't even be in the same room as me, then he didn't need to give my things back. No reply.

 

I thought I was doing the right thing. Is he angry with me? Is he hurt? Or does he just not care? Please give me your view on this, I feel so guilty, but I don't know what I have done wrong. This is his first relationship ever, he is really inexperienced...

[sweetkiwi]

He seems to be handling it well. Age gap aside, is he at your maturity level? I know whenever my parents forbade me from seeing my ex i hid it. Different situation Im sure. Just let him have his space. He knows you're there. That you love him.