na49 Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 I seriously wish that I'd be able to take my own advice sometimes. It's just so much easier said than done. Missing the ex like crazy, and letting my thoughts on what she's up to get to me. I know she's probably home, she doesn't go out much. So is she oovooing with her new boyfriend like she used to with me? Does her mom approve of her new boyfriend? Last I heard, her mom liked me more than this new guy. Maybe she changed her mind though? Is she thinking of me at all right now? Does she feel the same way I feel? I doubt it, but then again how will I know? Why do I care so much about what a girl who cheated on me thinks? Hating this... I should be watching football right now.
Simon Phoenix Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 I seriously wish that I'd be able to take my own advice sometimes. It's just so much easier said than done. Missing the ex like crazy, and letting my thoughts on what she's up to get to me. I know she's probably home, she doesn't go out much. So is she oovooing with her new boyfriend like she used to with me? Does her mom approve of her new boyfriend? Last I heard, her mom liked me more than this new guy. Maybe she changed her mind though? Is she thinking of me at all right now? Does she feel the same way I feel? I doubt it, but then again how will I know? Why do I care so much about what a girl who cheated on me thinks? Hating this... I should be watching football right now. She CHEATED ON YOU! Come on man. Turn on some NFL Red Zone, plenty of good games going today.
Author na49 Posted December 16, 2012 Author Posted December 16, 2012 You're right, it's just so annoying to think that I am so much more miserable about the BU than she is. She probably was over it once I found out she cheated on me and told her. Meanwhile here I am almost 2+ months later, over a month into NC and still caring what she's up to, and missing her company like crazy. I will not check up on her though. I need to respect myself and know what will hurt me. 1
Simon Phoenix Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 You're right, it's just so annoying to think that I am so much more miserable about the BU than she is. She probably was over it once I found out she cheated on me and told her. Meanwhile here I am almost 2+ months later, over a month into NC and still caring what she's up to, and missing her company like crazy. I will not check up on her though. I need to respect myself and know what will hurt me. Of course you are, you were the dumped. And the cheated on. You should be pissed, not wondering what she was doing or if she's happy. She doesn't give a s--t if you are happy. 1
Author na49 Posted December 16, 2012 Author Posted December 16, 2012 You're right. I get pissed when I think about everything that she did. When I think about her new "friends" who she talked all of the sh*t about me to. She thinks she's all big because she made some new friends. Meanwhile these people want nothing to do with her outside of school. The people who don't even know me who think they can judge me. How hypocritical of her, she's all about not judging people unless you know them and has no problem letting her friends judge me based on what she tells them. How convenient is it that all they hear are negative things? Screw her! Sure I'm a jerk, whatever you say. You've dated so many guys maybe it's time to look in the mirror. What you do in relationships clearly isn't working you witch. So when will I finally just block her number? lol I better do it soon. I don't need a breadcrumbs text setting me back now.
Nb1988 Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Hang in there, man. Today was rough for me too. Hung out with friends though and watched A LOT of football and it helped. You'll be ok..I promise.
LostOne1 Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 yeah exactly.. we only care because we are hurt and rejected. So we get curious... and that's the hard part. Slowly you will get less curious and just not care much. Try to do something fun. I played some Madden NFL 12 today got my mind off and about to watch a movie soon.
Author na49 Posted December 17, 2012 Author Posted December 17, 2012 You're so right. I hate the roller coaster of emotions, they really aren't kidding when they say it's what you go through. When I made this thread I was feeling so down and just straight up missing her. Now I'm disgusted by her and what she did. I wish could just call her and tell her how much I hate her and what she did. I wish I could make her feel guilty for what she did to me. and then later, I'll feel miserable again. This sucks. I was watching some football with my brother earlier, helped take my mind off of things for a bit.
Samilia Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 You're right. I get pissed when I think about everything that she did. When I think about her new "friends" who she talked all of the sh*t about me to. She thinks she's all big because she made some new friends. Meanwhile these people want nothing to do with her outside of school. The people who don't even know me who think they can judge me. How hypocritical of her, she's all about not judging people unless you know them and has no problem letting her friends judge me based on what she tells them. How convenient is it that all they hear are negative things? Screw her! Sure I'm a jerk, whatever you say. You've dated so many guys maybe it's time to look in the mirror. What you do in relationships clearly isn't working you witch. So when will I finally just block her number? lol I better do it soon. I don't need a breadcrumbs text setting me back now. Everyday that you spend thinking about her is a day you could spend being happy doing other things. Think about it that way. Although I don't watch football, I'm sure you will enjoy the game more than spending your afternoob crying over her
SoulSearcher22 Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 Dude, im feeling the same way except she dump me for her ex. I constantly wonder if she thinks about me or just has completely forgotten me. Its a ****ty way to live but im close to being over it. Youll get there too
Simon Phoenix Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 If you haven't forgotten about them, they haven't forgotten about you. Just remember that. They might not think of you as often as you think of them, but they just don't forget. Heck, I'll occasionally have thoughts about women I've dated 10-plus years ago. No way your recent ex has forgotten - you are just as imprinted on them as they are on you.
Author na49 Posted December 17, 2012 Author Posted December 17, 2012 I really don't want to think about her. I am trying to occupy myself with other things, but the idea of her just clogs my brain. It's not even that I'm thinking positive things about her, just her in general and it annoys me. It doesn't help the past two nights I've started having dreams about her again. Because I wake up feeling like crap. Of all of the possible girls I could dream about, I dream about the one who broke my heart. How annoying.. Also that sucks SoulSearcher, I couldn't imagine dealing with that especially considering how my ex always talked about how she hated her ex. How he was a controlling suicidal freak and I was so much better than him. I'm glad to hear you're close to moving on. I like to think every day I'm getting a little better.
SoulSearcher22 Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 If you haven't forgotten about them, they haven't forgotten about you. Just remember that. They might not think of you as often as you think of them, but they just don't forget. Heck, I'll occasionally have thoughts about women I've dated 10-plus years ago. No way your recent ex has forgotten - you are just as imprinted on them as they are on you. This is actually a pretty comforting statement. If I can't have her, I at least want to know she's thinking about me.
Author na49 Posted December 17, 2012 Author Posted December 17, 2012 Well of course she may not forget about me, but it stinks that I'll be remembered as all of her other ex boyfriends who were jerks when I really wasn't a jerk. Although we'll always have memories together (going to each others senior proms and having a lot of fun), it stinks that her memories of me will always end up having me be painted as a bad guy who she was all of a sudden saved from by her 24 year old alcoholic "knight in shining armor" who she just met and who will cheat on her/dump her leaving her just as depressed as I was. She'll end up hurting herself once this happens because she's crazy, and I won't be there to help her. It makes me sick to think about, I'm way too nice... It stinks that when she talks about me to her new boyfriends (however many guys she ends up with, she jumps from one to the next apparently) she'll talk about me in a bad way. Mentioning everything that was wrong with me and everything that she didn't like instead of acknowledging the nice things that I did for her. Meanwhile I paint her as an angel, why? She freaking cheated on me and had no problem breaking my heart. She hasn't cared about me in who knows how long? Love is bullsh*t, especially this teen love. I'm too young to be dealing with this stuff. My older brother who's 21 has had relationships before but never been "in love" and never been an emotional wreck after his break ups. If only I could be more like him.
TexAggie1 Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 If you haven't forgotten about them, they haven't forgotten about you. Just remember that. They might not think of you as often as you think of them, but they just don't forget. Heck, I'll occasionally have thoughts about women I've dated 10-plus years ago. No way your recent ex has forgotten - you are just as imprinted on them as they are on you. As a previous dumper (currently a devastated dumpee), this statement is very, very, very true. Our ex's aren't robots with a switch, as much as we may think otherwise. Here is my story...and I do think about her: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/251986-grass-greener-syndrome-51.html
Simon Phoenix Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 Well of course she may not forget about me, but it stinks that I'll be remembered as all of her other ex boyfriends who were jerks when I really wasn't a jerk. Although we'll always have memories together (going to each others senior proms and having a lot of fun), it stinks that her memories of me will always end up having me be painted as a bad guy who she was all of a sudden saved from by her 24 year old alcoholic "knight in shining armor" who she just met and who will cheat on her/dump her leaving her just as depressed as I was. She'll end up hurting herself once this happens because she's crazy, and I won't be there to help her. It makes me sick to think about, I'm way too nice... It stinks that when she talks about me to her new boyfriends (however many guys she ends up with, she jumps from one to the next apparently) she'll talk about me in a bad way. Mentioning everything that was wrong with me and everything that she didn't like instead of acknowledging the nice things that I did for her. Meanwhile I paint her as an angel, why? She freaking cheated on me and had no problem breaking my heart. She hasn't cared about me in who knows how long? Love is bullsh*t, especially this teen love. I'm too young to be dealing with this stuff. My older brother who's 21 has had relationships before but never been "in love" and never been an emotional wreck after his break ups. If only I could be more like him. Considering what she did to you, I don't even see why you care how she perceives you.
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