emilywtf Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Before I get started, I have a confession to make. I love cat feet. I think fuzzy fuzzy cat paws are wonderful, they brighten my day, and most of the time I can't help but laugh when I see them. I have pictures of various cat feet framed in my office in my future former home because if I am having a rough day they make me smile. So, with that being said, my future ex-husband sent me cat feet pictures this morning via text. They are my big white cats feet and they are all fuzzy and awesome. What I can't figure out is why he would do that. There was no message with the pictures, just pictures. We have not spoken civilly in weeks, and the last text I got from him was him calling me a "stupid stupid stupid bitch" and telling me how self involved I am. If it was to just be nice, I wish he would stop. I just cannot take his variable personality and wonder why on earth he would do this. I was having an okay (not good) morning, now I feel angry and sick.
NoneoftheAbove Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 I feel the same way, i was doing fine for a week until she texted me this morning still trying to argue with me.
Minnie09 Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 It's because he's a conflicted person, unable to make good choices and trying to get a reaction from you. He's a drunk and seems to have tons of problems with himself. He's trying to manipulate you into softening towards him, without actually having to say/do anything for it. It's a cheap way of fishing. After all he's done to you, that's just low. But I'm sure he's not compassionate enough to understand what he's doing to other people. 1
Author emilywtf Posted December 16, 2012 Author Posted December 16, 2012 Thanks Minnie, I think you hit the nail on the head. He is conflicted, he is a drunk with other mental health issues. He wants to keep me strung along so when this new whore dumps him he can come crawling back. Too bad for him, all that show did was make me angry and want to vomit. 3 or 6 months ago- Who am I kidding, 6 weeks ago- I would have responded sweetly. Not anymore. I cannot believe this is the same man I fell in love with. In fact, it is not, because he is not. If anyone is self involved and out of touch with reality, it is him.
Minnie09 Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Be happy you don't have kids with this douche, I mean, he's probably not a douche, just unable to change and get better, despite your support. That's sad. It's sad when people don't learn from their mistakes. Be thankful to have a way out/job/income.
Author emilywtf Posted December 16, 2012 Author Posted December 16, 2012 (edited) The funny (or not so funny) think about this is that I believe that he actually does feel whatever passes for love in his cold, drunk heart for me. But because of the booze and other issues he cannot accept his problems and uses control and manipulation to get what he wants. He really does not see what he does as being wrong- Only sees what other people do wrong to him. Actually, I know he sees what he does is wrong but he drinks and suppresses and the booze helps him ignore/overlook it. I hope he gets help. I am honestly praying for something to be a catalyst (non-fatal, thanks) to make him get the help he needs. I doubt my leaving will be that, but hopefully something or someone comes along that will make him see the light. **my way out is cashing out my IRA to support me while I finish school. Working part time is not enough to pay rent. I hate that it has come to this but... I have to look out for me. I spent too many years 100% devoted to him without thought for myself** Edited December 16, 2012 by emilywtf 1
MsOptimist Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 I got a similar text last week - a cute picture of my dog, complete with puppy eyes and with a giant bone in her mouth. He knows how much I miss my dog terribly, and I cried when I received that image. I think the reasoning is the same as what you received - it's manipulation if they even realize it or not. 1
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