AveryDannialle Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 I work at a local bed and breakfast, it is extremely convinient because i grew up in thd community, and i know everyone. A few months ago we got a new chef. I was skeptical about him at first, but we quickly became good friends. We joke around and laugh a lot, but i never thought anything would come of it. I always thought he was attractive, but it was a crush that i refused to persue because he was married has a daughter and another on the way. The other night the innkeeper decided to leave early so it was just him and me, which wasn't uncommon. We had been talking about going out for drinks, just him, me, and my friend Lila. I was waiting for my friend to pick me up when we were leaving work and he decided to stay with me. We started in on the (what i thought was) meaningless flirting and joking. He proceeds to tell me i was beautiful and i don't look my age and he wishes i was older. I shrugged it off as him joking. He then says "If i tell you something you wont tell anybody?" I agreed thinking he would say something silly he then stands up and kisses me. I was so shocked, i didnt know what to do. He kept asking me if i was okay and how i felt and i couldnt say anything, but i dont know. I still want us to be friends but i dont want that to happen again. What do i do? (Im not quitting my job)
newmoon Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 (edited) you are flirting with him, by your own admission, so you've encouraged this behavior. you said he's attractive too, so you're noticing him and might have been hoping he'd notice you. now he has and your regretting it. if you're truly not interested in him then tell your supervisor/innkeeper what happened and that you're not ok with being left alone with this guy any more. as a married man he should have more respect for his wife/kids, and since you know his situation you shouldn't in any way be encouraging it by flirting/inviting him out alone with you (and a friend). the actions you take now will show how serious you are about not welcoming more of the same from this guy. Edited December 16, 2012 by newmoon
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