ooglesnboogles Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 So I've got a first date coming up and I'm kind of at a loss for a good date idea. This is basically my first first date since early high school and I don't really know what's normal (I'm in college now). I was planning on taking this girl to a nice outdoor spot where we could walk around, but it's going to be cold and raining so I'm trying to come up with another idea quickly. I don't think she'll be up for walking around in this weather. Unfortunately, since I didn't expect to be going on a date (had no clue she liked me until a week ago), I didn't budget for it so the pursestrings are a little tight. Does anyone have any good first date ideas that won't kill my funds? If it goes well, I'd like to have some money leftover for another date before January rolls around and possibly a small Christmas gift (I found something I think she'll like, but we'll see how the date goes first). Something under $20 would be great. My backup is bowling, but I feel like suggesting that might make it seem like I just did a quick search for "First date" and picked the most common item (though I do love bowling). It also wouldn't leave much room for any other stuff like food afterwards. I see a lot of things where people say they invited their date to their apartment to watch movies and/or make something to eat. It seems to be in a lot of 'first date' things. I don't know how good an idea this would be, since we don't know each other all that well. I'm sure I could make it work if she agreed to it but I don't know if it'd be appropriate to suggest. Any help? Much appreciated!
yongyong Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Don't try to come up with something special. Just meet her at a coffee shop, get to know each other and make other plans if you guys click. (1 hour at the max and you end it) If a special date increases my attractiveness to her, I will take her to the nicest restaurant and have the server deliver the flower as a surprise. But it doesn't work that way. She will see you haven't been on a date for a while. Although you might be a great guy, it really decreases her interest in you.
GlendiexElsewhere Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Go for lunch at a semi trendy deli spot if there is a cute coffee shop even better lol (lunch is cheaper then dinner & its more casual then the whole dinner thing) that way you guys are warm & can have an actually conversation if you hit off well make plans for a second date
musemaj11 Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Depends on how attractive she is especially compared to you. The greater the gap, the higher the cost necessary to impress.
Author ooglesnboogles Posted December 16, 2012 Author Posted December 16, 2012 (edited) The 'asking her to my place' sounds worse every time I think about it, don't know why I included that in there. Do people actually do that? Is it just for people who know each other pretty well? Asking out of curiosity, since from the first time I read that it seemed odd to me. I'm not looking for it to be extra special or anything incredibly impressive, I just want it to go well. I'm not planning a whole day thing or anything like that. I know her well enough to be confident it's not going to bomb (and we like each other), but we haven't hung out much before so I'm not quite sure what would be a good plan. Edited December 16, 2012 by ooglesnboogles
GirlontheLam Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 museums have free days once a week or once a month, check out your local ones. Art gallery openings are almost always free, and generally have good people watching. Many places have "first fridays" where a bunch are open at once, and may have snacks and drinks. Go out for dessert at an interesting place (or dessert and drinks). Most women love dessert. And you can probably share. Does your city have one of those second run movie houses that serve beer and food? I think the phrase is brews and views? They tend to be cheap and fun. In my city, the movie price is about $5 and same for the beer.
nessaaa Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Dont date if youre broke. Nothing is more annoying than someone who is always looking at the price. Seems like youre more occupied and stressed about how much you will spend on this date rather than being excited and looking forward to it. get your **** together first. 1
todreaminblue Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 So I've got a first date coming up and I'm kind of at a loss for a good date idea. This is basically my first first date since early high school and I don't really know what's normal (I'm in college now). I was planning on taking this girl to a nice outdoor spot where we could walk around, but it's going to be cold and raining so I'm trying to come up with another idea quickly. I don't think she'll be up for walking around in this weather. Unfortunately, since I didn't expect to be going on a date (had no clue she liked me until a week ago), I didn't budget for it so the pursestrings are a little tight. Does anyone have any good first date ideas that won't kill my funds? If it goes well, I'd like to have some money leftover for another date before January rolls around and possibly a small Christmas gift (I found something I think she'll like, but we'll see how the date goes first). Something under $20 would be great. My backup is bowling, but I feel like suggesting that might make it seem like I just did a quick search for "First date" and picked the most common item (though I do love bowling). It also wouldn't leave much room for any other stuff like food afterwards. I see a lot of things where people say they invited their date to their apartment to watch movies and/or make something to eat. It seems to be in a lot of 'first date' things. I don't know how good an idea this would be, since we don't know each other all that well. I'm sure I could make it work if she agreed to it but I don't know if it'd be appropriate to suggest. Any help? Much appreciated! christmas carols with candles......as far as i know around the world you can find free nights of christmas carols in a park with the stars overhead.....you can sing off key and no one will notice...pack some mangos ...... and if it is winter where you are, the mangos will turn into weis bars and you can pretend its summer......then maybe a coffee back at your place to warm up if its winter........suggestion if eating mangos dont wear white......i have experience in this department.....if you dont like my idea because mangos or weis bars and xmas carols arent your style.....i dont see why making a nice dinner for someone is a bad idea.....i just had my friends turn up singing chrissy carols and i was inspired to write this because it was a first for me i thought it was really sweet..... so.....i thought it was a xmassy special thing to suggest....best wishes....and happy xmas to you....deb
Author ooglesnboogles Posted December 16, 2012 Author Posted December 16, 2012 ... Go out for dessert at an interesting place (or dessert and drinks). Most women love dessert. And you can probably share. Does your city have one of those second run movie houses that serve beer and food? I think the phrase is brews and views? They tend to be cheap and fun. In my city, the movie price is about $5 and same for the beer. Dessert is an interesting idea. Could be a nice short-date that isn't coffee, with potential for more if things hit off. I don't know if she's a coffee drinker; I'm not but I'm open to trying (or getting hot chocolate or something else). Thanks for the suggestion! As for brews and views, we're both underage, but I'll tuck that one away for the future. Dont date if youre broke. Nothing is more annoying than someone who is always looking at the price. Seems like youre more occupied and stressed about how much you will spend on this date rather than being excited and looking forward to it. get your **** together first. Ouch. Who says I don't have it together? Weren't you ever on a tight budget in college? I saved/budgeted for Christmas and it's halfway through the month, meaning I'm planning ahead. I'm not looking for the cheapest thing possible, but I'd also like to have enough leftover to take her out again this month if things go well... I'm looking forward to this more than Christmas... ... if you dont like my idea because mangos or weis bars and xmas carols arent your style.....i dont see why making a nice dinner for someone is a bad idea.....i just had my friends turn up singing chrissy carols and i was inspired to write this because it was a first for me i thought it was really sweet..... so.....i thought it was a xmassy special thing to suggest....best wishes....and happy xmas to you....deb Thanks for the suggestion. I'm not much for carols but that could be an interesting date. I dunno how good it'd be for a first date, but maybe if things go well we can find some after-Christmas lights/carols for the second or third.
AMusing Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 I think a dessert date sounds like a fantastic idea, given the bad weather. It's a little more unusual than the standard coffee date, but still low-key and offers plenty of time to talk. And sharing food has an element of intimacy to it I like, too. Don't listen to the "no dating until you're financially set" crowd. I think this rule is reasonable for people in their late twenties and older. By that age, constantly being broke is usually a sign you don't have your life together. But you guys are college kids; the "rules" are totally different then. I think it's a big sign of your maturity that you budget your finances and plan ahead, kudos for that. Enjoy your date! 4
Cutiepie1976 Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 My very first date in college was a hike followed by ice cream. If the weather is bad, ditch the walk. Ice cream is popular even in the dead of winter and will run you no more than $5-10. Dessert is another great option, although a little more expensive. Coffee is also a good option in your budget range. Skip bowling and the movies. Neither allows for much interaction or conversation. In bowling, one of you will be up while the other is seated. Inviting her over and cooking for her as a first date? Not the best idea. Better for a second or third date. I did have a guy do this as a first date once (grad school), but we were classmates, so semi-friends already, and he took me to see a play afterwards. He was also a very good cook. Most students are scraping by financially. Budget-conscious dates are to be expected. Date away and have fun! 1
Cutiepie1976 Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 ...I'm planning ahead. I'm not looking for the cheapest thing possible, but I'd also like to have enough leftover to take her out again this month if things go well... I'm looking forward to this more than Christmas... :love: Oogles, you sound like a wonderful guy. I'm sure she'll appreciate your planning and effort. Have fun! 2
Els Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Ignore nessaaa. There's no reason you shouldn't be dating if you're poor (unless you're poor to the extent of needing to get cash off of your date so you can eat, and you're not that poor). $20 is perfectly fine for a date especially for college students. For a first date, if you're not sure what she likes, I would go with something simple like coffee. Meet at a nice coffee or tea shop (try to avoid the establishment chains) and then wing it from there. Coffee and cakes for 2 shouldn't cost more than $20. Of course, if you already know she likes bowling, bowling is fine too. My only concern with it would be that there isn't much time to get to know each other and talk, as you would have over a meal or walk. 1
todreaminblue Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Let me expand this for you. Don't date if you are poor, ugly, fat, psychopath, short. lol........you forgot to say too tall, too skinny too intellectual mentally impaired, depressed,too average too mainstream , too not mainstream...actually i could go on......nobody should date....there thats better....deb 3
TheFinalWord Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 This thread should be pinned The ladies are giving us good ideas. A fun coffee kind of date, is to go to the bookstore. Most of them have coffee shops so you can sit for a bit, then walk around. It's a good way to see what kind of things she's interested in. 4
rocketman122 Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Dont date if youre broke. Nothing is more annoying than someone who is always looking at the price. Seems like youre more occupied and stressed about how much you will spend on this date rather than being excited and looking forward to it. get your **** together first. Not cool at all. some people come to financial problems in their lives. what does one do when he was dating when he had a lot of money and then has some money problems for a few months? tell her you can date till you get more money? what you say is nonsense. but also depends how much of a financial problem youre in. lol........you forgot to say too tall, too skinny too intellectual mentally impaired, depressed,too average too mainstream , too not mainstream...actually i could go on......nobody should date....there thats better....deb Seinfeld said that only 2% of the public is datable. not sponge worthy.
Author ooglesnboogles Posted December 16, 2012 Author Posted December 16, 2012 AMusing: Thanks for the reassurances! Cutiepie: Thanks for the input! I suppose bowling is better as a group thing, huh? Why all these things appear in all these 'first date' blog things is a mystery to me. I guess they sound kind of nice, but as you all have pointed out, they don't exactly provide for a good first date. Might be fun, might be memorable, but might not make it easier to get to know someone. :love: Oogles, you sound like a wonderful guy. I'm sure she'll appreciate your planning and effort. Have fun! Shh! Don't tell her I said that! Thanks to everyone else for the reassurances/ideas!
Author ooglesnboogles Posted December 16, 2012 Author Posted December 16, 2012 Let me expand this for you. Don't date if you are poor, ugly, fat, psychopath, short. lol........you forgot to say too tall, too skinny too intellectual mentally impaired, depressed,too average too mainstream , too not mainstream...actually i could go on......nobody should date....there thats better....deb So it's agreed. Only Brad Pitt and George Clooney will be allowed to date people, and only people of their same social, economic, and physical stature can date them
FitChick Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Ice skating if there is a rink or lake nearby that is safe. Then hot cocoa and cupcakes afterward. Check what is going on in your city or nearby town at this time of year. 1
suladas Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Check out christmas lights somewhere? There is a few blocks in my city decorated really nice and they sell hot chocolate to, would be fun if the weather is decent. It depends if your quiet or know if you'll have things to talk about, but doing something that give you something to talk about helps, versus just going to a coffee shop that can be awkward. 1
Cutiepie1976 Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 AMusing: Thanks for the reassurances! Cutiepie: Thanks for the input! I suppose bowling is better as a group thing, huh? Why all these things appear in all these 'first date' blog things is a mystery to me. I guess they sound kind of nice, but as you all have pointed out, they don't exactly provide for a good first date. Might be fun, might be memorable, but might not make it easier to get to know someone. Shh! Don't tell her I said that! Thanks to everyone else for the reassurances/ideas! Well, guys who plan, are organized, and are thoughtful are total heart throbs in my book. Nothing sexier than a responsible, thoughtful guy! Not sure why bowling would be on those lists, honestly. You have to get through the game in your assigned time slot, so you can't lounge around and chat. Besides, for women it's a nightmare. Nothing ruins a freshly done manicure faster than a bowling ball! Is minigolf on those lists? That might be a better choice than bowling I would think.
Cutiepie1976 Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 So it's agreed. Only Brad Pitt and George Clooney will be allowed to date people, and only people of their same social, economic, and physical stature can date them No, they're over the hill and too old! Why haven't you heard? According to LS, forty is the new eighty. Fifty is the new dead! 1
mortensorchid Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 Ideas for cheap dates: Bar w/ games (pool, darts, etc.) Flea markets (there are a few around still) Roller skating / ice skating Rock climbing Sledding Fruit picking Short day trip someplace nearby to see something regional you always wanted to see but didn't get to. Riffle/shooting range (hey, it can happen) Tour a winery or brewery Play or ballet (call and see if you can watch the dress rehearsal rather than the main performance, they might let you in for free) Drive-in movies (they still exist) Local bands Bookstore Bowling Home improvement projects (if you are so inclined) Fair or carnival Car shows or dealership free drives in cars Haunted houses Cooking together Potluck dinner with friends Zoos 2
Author ooglesnboogles Posted December 17, 2012 Author Posted December 17, 2012 Well, guys who plan, are organized, and are thoughtful are total heart throbs in my book. Nothing sexier than a responsible, thoughtful guy! Not sure why bowling would be on those lists, honestly. You have to get through the game in your assigned time slot, so you can't lounge around and chat. Besides, for women it's a nightmare. Nothing ruins a freshly done manicure faster than a bowling ball! Is minigolf on those lists? That might be a better choice than bowling I would think. As a guy, I suppose I easily overlooked the manicure thing, even though my sister busts a nail, guaranteed, every time she bowls. Mini golf is usually on there, but it might be a little cold for that. No, they're over the hill and too old! Why haven't you heard? According to LS, forty is the new eighty. Fifty is the new dead! I avoid Brad Pitt like the flu so I wouldn't know I just thought he's who people talk about Mortensorchild: Thanks for the suggestions!
CptObvious Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 brotha you are in no shape to be dating right now. Stack your cash up first before you throw it down the drain.
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