Necris Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 (edited) Yesterday I went on a date with a girl I met that I asked out on monday we went to see the movie, The Hobbit. I'm not going to spoil the movie but I got to say it was pretty awesome, and I highly recommend seeing it. As for the date it went pretty good she seemed very nice and respectful and I noticed she acts, dresses, and talks very formally. She was already ready when I came to pick her up which was good and I drove her to the theater, I complimented her on her dress (though I was curious about the strange rings she was wearing but I forgot to ask her about them), and she complimented me on my car and manners. Since we got to the theater very early that gave us time to talk to each other though unfortunately so far it seems we have very little in common from hobbies and interests to religion. She asked me about what I like doing for fun and my interests and I could tell she was disappointed. But I guess thats okay. I paid for the tickets, drinks, and popcorn, and she seemed to enjoy the movie, and at the end of the date she thanked me for taking her out. Now there was no flirting, physical contact, or anything like that during the date though I did give her a brief good-bye hug in the end. So all in all everything went well. Edited December 16, 2012 by Necris
Mrlonelyone Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Hmm. Was it a hug with full frontal contact or just shoulders touching and little contact?
Author Necris Posted December 16, 2012 Author Posted December 16, 2012 (edited) Hmm. Was it a hug with full frontal contact or just shoulders touching and little contact? brief light contact hug. Edited December 16, 2012 by Necris
Mrlonelyone Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 brief light contact hug. I could be very wrong, but that may not have been a good sign. If she's one of those people who needs instant "spark", "chemistry", "magic", etc ... then it's a really bad sign.
Author Necris Posted December 16, 2012 Author Posted December 16, 2012 I could be very wrong, but that may not have been a good sign. If she's one of those people who needs instant "spark", "chemistry", "magic", etc ... then it's a really bad sign. Maybe, I'll see. Its possible since we didn't really have that much in common from what I can tell but that was just 1 date. She's going away for a month so when she gets back I'll try to ask her out for a second date.
KungFuJoe Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Don't worry about all that. A good date is a good date. If a second one happens, great...if not, at least you had a good time and saw a good movie. Win win. 1
coffeebean201 Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 First dates are always a challenge. How did the first date get suggested? Did you ask her out, or did she ask you out?
Author Necris Posted December 16, 2012 Author Posted December 16, 2012 First dates are always a challenge. How did the first date get suggested? Did you ask her out, or did she ask you out? Well I tried to ask her out once a month ago and she declined saying she was busy so a month after that I asked her out again for a date on friday she accepted and said she wanted to see the movie, The Hobbit. 1
Author Necris Posted December 16, 2012 Author Posted December 16, 2012 What do you guys think? Positive signs? Or is it more likely she isn't interested.
Mrlonelyone Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 What do you guys think? Positive signs? Or is it more likely she isn't interested. Maybe I'm just cynical so take this worth a salt. Refusing you, then accepting to let you take her to a movie. Then giving a hug with brief light contact. Then leaving for a month after which she could plausibly say she forgot yadda yadda yadda.
Cutiepie1976 Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 What do you guys think? Positive signs? Or is it more likely she isn't interested. Look. You're overthinking this! You'll end up on a ledge with all the overanalysis and LS members will gladly talk you into jumping off if you let them. Stop it! You had a "pretty good" date and saw a "pretty awesome" movie with a "very nice and respectful" girl. That is a good date! Sounds like you enjoyed yourself. Now most guys when they have a good date with me send me a text before I've gotten home telling me how much they enjoyed being with me and how they are looking forward to seeing me again. They'll call when I text back. They'll ask for a second date. These are the types of things that lead to a second date when there's interest on both sides. I only mention this because I'm sensing you don't have much dating experience and are unsure of yourself. Apologies if I'm wrong about that. As to interests, one of the fun aspects of dating is that you get exposed to new and different things, pick up hobbies that you might never have considered otherwise, and generally expand your horizons as you explore each others interests. For me personally, the important thing is to have shared values and common goals. Outside of that I avoid cookie cutter clones of myself. That's boring! Does she like you? Who knows? The only way to find out is to ask her out on a second date. 1
Els Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Don't worry about all that. A good date is a good date. If a second one happens, great...if not, at least you had a good time and saw a good movie. Win win. Look. You're overthinking this! You'll end up on a ledge with all the overanalysis and LS members will gladly talk you into jumping off if you let them. Stop it! You had a "pretty good" date and saw a "pretty awesome" movie with a "very nice and respectful" girl. That is a good date! Sounds like you enjoyed yourself. Now most guys when they have a good date with me send me a text before I've gotten home telling me how much they enjoyed being with me and how they are looking forward to seeing me again. They'll call when I text back. They'll ask for a second date. These are the types of things that lead to a second date when there's interest on both sides. I only mention this because I'm sensing you don't have much dating experience and are unsure of yourself. Apologies if I'm wrong about that. As to interests, one of the fun aspects of dating is that you get exposed to new and different things, pick up hobbies that you might never have considered otherwise, and generally expand your horizons as you explore each others interests. For me personally, the important thing is to have shared values and common goals. Outside of that I avoid cookie cutter clones of myself. That's boring! Does she like you? Who knows? The only way to find out is to ask her out on a second date. Seconded. Chill.
Author Necris Posted December 16, 2012 Author Posted December 16, 2012 Maybe I am thinking too much about it, I guess I'll find out a month from now when I see her again. Maybe I'm just cynical so take this worth a salt. Refusing you, then accepting to let you take her to a movie. Then giving a hug with brief light contact. Then leaving for a month after which she could plausibly say she forgot yadda yadda yadda. Yeah those are not exactly good signs.
Failboy Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Does it matter though? You've had a date and it wasn't terrible. That's great. I'm being serious here. Small steps. You're not going to meet your future wife within the next week or so. Relax and meet other women, have a few other first dates. A second date will come eventually.
mortensorchid Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 It sounded like a nice time if nothing else. Even if you never see each other again, you'll remember that as a nice evening. But if you like her, go ask for another get together.
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