napy666 Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Last month this guy messages me on the dating site Plenty Of Fish we exchange a few messages and then cell numbers and talked for a good 1-2 weeks really hitting it off when then he disappears. I called him a few days later leaving him a voicemail but no return call so I figured he was no longer interested in me. So after that a few weeks passed and I had messaged him again for the hell of it and didn't get a response until last night. He replied back saying that his cell phone got turned off so that was his access point to getting online etc. So without his cell and the internet there was no way for us to communicate until he got his phone turned back on. So we messaged one another a bit on the dating site last night and I told him if your still interested in me, let's talk on the phone I gave him my cell and left it up to him. He calls me we talked for a good 30 minutes and then an additional 30 minutes or so via text after that. Him leaving me hanging on my last text message due to him falling asleep. The morning arrives and I get a text message from him saying "hey cutie" around 10:30AM, I replied back around 10:45AM "hey hey". Then I don't hear from him at all throughout today. It's now 7PM should I continue to wait and see IF he replies to this text or calls me or should I call him or text him again? The ball is now in his court so it's his turn to make the move, it's just I don't know what to do now, HELP.
charlietheginger Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 You met him on pof... He is prob buzy talking to 10 Other women. Just wait he will Get around to you if he does Not get a thing set up tonight With one of the other girls. If you dont hear from him Again assume he is out with Anothet women. Then You will get a text tommarrow His phone died or he was with Family all day
veggirl Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Don't call or text him. And honestly a guy who can't even pay his cell phone bill? Does he have a job..? I guess that would be acceptable if you guys are like 20? Sorry but he messaged you for a couple weeks w/o asking you on a date then you had to basically track him down and now he's flaked again. No good signs in any of that. 3
Author napy666 Posted December 16, 2012 Author Posted December 16, 2012 He does work and also plays music since he's in a band so music is his life. He says he doesn't have any friends really so he just returns home after working and plays music, since he lives at home with his grandma. He does drive, doesn't drink, smoke, or do drugs and he's 22. I'm 25, also working a little bit but not getting paid much, don't drive, have little bit of friends, and also live with family, both my parents. I too also deal with music stuff. So him and I are very alike its too funny haha. And when we talked last month we were going to take things slow and he didn't mind that at all.
Eternal Sunshine Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 1. He is lying about the phone. 2. Why are you so invested already? 2
nessaaa Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 U just met this guy, online at that and youre already tripping out..relax! Dont let him be the only one you talk to.
Author napy666 Posted December 16, 2012 Author Posted December 16, 2012 1. He is lying about the phone. 2. Why are you so invested already? How do you know if he's lying about the phone or not? And I don't know I guess I'm excited he's talking to me again.
Eternal Sunshine Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 How do you know if he's lying about the phone or not? And I don't know I guess I'm excited he's talking to me again. Internet is all over the place. He couldn't get online in WEEKS? C'mon. It's ridiculous. No phone/internet access is the classic line guys use.
Author napy666 Posted December 16, 2012 Author Posted December 16, 2012 Internet is all over the place. He couldn't get online in WEEKS? C'mon. It's ridiculous. No phone/internet access is the classic line guys use. Well he did say he doesn't go out much and does work so maybe he didn't wanna go to the library or a friend's place who knows.
Million.to.1 Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 It's now 7PM should I continue to wait and see IF he replies to this text or calls me or should I call him or text him again? The ball is now in his court so it's his turn to make the move, it's just I don't know what to do now, HELP. Are you f@#kin serious?? what you should do stop worrying about some random you've never met and how many hours its been since he txt you. "hi cutie" and "hey hey" is not a conversation. what is he replying to? Geeze girl, get a hobby or something. 2
Author napy666 Posted December 16, 2012 Author Posted December 16, 2012 Are you f@#kin serious?? what you should do stop worrying about some random you've never met and how many hours its been since he txt you. "hi cutie" and "hey hey" is not a conversation. what is he replying to? Geeze girl, get a hobby or something. He could have easily replied with "how are you?" or "whats up?" or "how did you sleep?" or "what are you up too?" etc. There are several options to choose from right there. 1
Author napy666 Posted December 16, 2012 Author Posted December 16, 2012 I do see the guy is on "online" on the dating site we met on, so if he can log onto the dating site, I know he can take 5 seconds to talk to me.
GlendiexElsewhere Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 POF lol good times ... um my suggestion is slow down don't get ahead of yourself even if your excited calm down. Wait till he responds preoccupy yourself and dont think about it ... it'll just bug you more. You haven't even meet the guy and just fyi pof has a lot of horn dogs so be careful
Author napy666 Posted December 16, 2012 Author Posted December 16, 2012 I am going to just wait and see what happens. IF I don't hear from this guy by the end of this week I will cut him loose.
Author napy666 Posted December 17, 2012 Author Posted December 17, 2012 Well I sent him a photo of me around noon, no reply throughout the day, and then around 7PM I sent him a text just saying "hey how was your weekend?" and no reply. But he sure can log onto the dating site no problem. 1
Author napy666 Posted December 17, 2012 Author Posted December 17, 2012 Aww hunny you are me! oh? What ya mean?
silvermercy Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 Move on! Seriously! If he was REALLY interested he would jump through hoops and do backflips to find a way to communicate with you - and FAST! Stop making excuses for him. From what you're writing he's just not interested.
geegirl Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 Well I sent him a photo of me around noon, no reply throughout the day, and then around 7PM I sent him a text just saying "hey how was your weekend?" and no reply. But he sure can log onto the dating site no problem. Reeking of desperation. Look at me, look at me, remember me? Stop chasing, please. If anything, you're pushing him further away.
veggirl Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 Well I sent him a photo of me around noon, no reply throughout the day, and then around 7PM I sent him a text just saying "hey how was your weekend?" and no reply. But he sure can log onto the dating site no problem. Why did you do that?! I'm sorry but now he is thinking "wow this chick is desperate!" DON'T CHASE GUYS!!! A guy who is interested will keep in touch with you and would have text you back the first 5x you text him w/o a response. oh? What ya mean? You are coming off as desperate for male attention and will offer up whatever you can to try to get it. No shame, no pride. S.hitttt..... 1
Author napy666 Posted December 22, 2012 Author Posted December 22, 2012 After talking to this guy friday and last saturday I went ahead and texted him on sunday and then tried again on thursday no reply until 3AM this morning did he bother replying to my messages. He ended up saying "sorry" he hadn't messaged me sooner.
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