ImperfectionisBeauty Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 I just deleted my OKC account... DONE I am over it, I just want to learn to be happy alone. I would LOVELOVELOVELOVE times a billion to be someones girlfriend but I would probably suck as a gf right now (I think I would be a good gf no matter what but I know I have no real foundation of my own). I have been texting a few guys most of them turned into sexual talk super fast and I don't want to talk sexual. I AM DONE. I am just going to be fun and 22 and do things I like. I am 22 I have been OLD since I was like 19 on and off it is time for a break, obviously nothing came of it, I met my ex I thought we would be together forever and ever (maybe not forever but a lot longer than the month we actually were together). I am tired of having to meet guys online and tell them about my CP and them totally go ghost afterward or just the stress of meeting someone you have never actually seen. I am over it. I'm happy though about it, I feel like I can handle this and it isn't like I can never go back on them, I just want to give myself a chance to go out and be fun and not hide behind a computer. If I was as outgoing in my real life as I am on POF or OKC I would have had 15 boyfriends lol I can do this. I am just 22, even though all my friends are getting married and popping out munchkins I don't think I need to YET (2-3 years from now I might need to though ). I am posting this only because I am trying to convince myself that I can handle this, I need to psych myself up a little. I can do this, I can do this, I am going to enjoy my Christmas break and birthday and New Years single and it'll be ok, I am going to be fine, I don't need a boyfriend/husband/babies.. It will be fine! 6
charlietheginger Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Sounds like you need a box of cleanex as you typed the last few words... Alllll beee fiiineee whaaahhhhh...
yongyong Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 So how was the experience? you are 22 and a woman. Just by that fact, I am sure you had tons of attentions you can't handle ranging from ugly guys, average guys or even hot guys you can't usually meet in real life. What was their main motive? were they interested in getting to know you as a person or just looking for sex? what was their reaction after sleeping with you? did they change their behavior? I can pretty much guess why you are frustrated by online dating but I doubt you will tell people the truth. Anyways, see guys? it's not just about Men having hard time online.
MrCastle Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Congrats. The first step to being truly happy is to find happiness within yourself. Relationships fail when one (or both) of the people try to find happiness in their mate. It doesn't happen that way. You need to be happy on your own.
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted December 16, 2012 Author Posted December 16, 2012 So how was the experience? you are 22 and a woman. Just by that fact, I am sure you had tons of attentions you can't handle ranging from ugly guys, average guys or even hot guys you can't usually meet in real life. What was their main motive? were they interested in getting to know you as a person or just looking for sex? what was their reaction after sleeping with you? did they change their behavior? I can pretty much guess why you are frustrated by online dating but I doubt you will tell people the truth. Anyways, see guys? it's not just about Men having hard time online. Most just wanted sex or casual dating and stuff I was hellbent on a relationship I wanted/want to be a girlfriend and in a long term relationship and a mother and I just couldn't handle it. Meeting someone being so so excited for t to end so unexpectedly and quickly and then to go to the next person and another and another. I haven't hooked up since mr. Hotel but before that I did and I didn't have bad reactions I mean I assume I was a decent lay.. I didn't like how I felt afterward. So I am stopping.
edgygirl Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 See... It's like in my -putting out- post. Doesn't matter your age, all most guys want is sex with no relationship. Maybe guys should just have sex with each other. Would make their/our lives so much easier. 3
Mrlonelyone Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Well OP your 22 I'm sure between now and 42 You'll find a man who will be all of those things for you. Just be open to the men who present themselves to you in real life. Give a guy who's perhaps just an 8 or even a 6 on looks a chance. If he has ambition and drive and is relationship and family minded he is what you want. See... It's like in my -putting out- post. Doesn't matter your age, all most guys want is sex with no relationship. Maybe guys should just have sex with each other. Would make their/our lives so much easier. That's why "gay" a word which just used to mean happy now means a homosexual man. Their lives aren't easier though. What with all the homophobia and discrimination they face. 1
Eclypse Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 See... It's like in my -putting out- post. Doesn't matter your age, all most guys want is sex with no relationship. Maybe guys should just have sex with each other. Would make their/our lives so much easier. Not always true I'm 22 and since I began liking girls, relationships were what I seeked. I usually got rejected back then but a girl gave me a chance and we went on a few dates. She's now my long term girlfriend, with no intention of breaking up!
USMCHokie Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 See... It's like in my -putting out- post. Doesn't matter your age, all most guys want is sex with no relationship. Or find the guys who don't have as many options. The most physically attractive members of a population tend to be attractive to many, so chances are higher that they will be more interested in having sex with multiple women. Why? Because they can. Or perhaps stop for a second to look inward. Instead of asking why men just want sex, you should ask why you aren't keeping them around. If every guy is pumping and dumping, perhaps the commonality is not them... Just a thought... 1
soccerrprp Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Good for you OP! Unfortunately the odds are you will return to OLD considering how hard it is to date face to face especially when you get very busy. But for now, great for you!
youngnlove89 Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Oh girl I'm in the same boat as you!! I just haven't gotten out yet like you have! I'm on POF and OkCupid and all these guys want is sex. They pretend they want more than that, and sometimes they are really good at that, but I'm not naive. Plus, dating sites suck anyways. You can't hear that person's voice or see they way they move or how they smell. My last ex-bf I met on POF and we dated for 1.5 years but in the end he didn't want a serious relationship. I've been on a couple of dates here and there, all with guys who were good looking and my type, but they all want one thing and one thing only. I think the majority of the guys on dating sites are fresh out of a relationship or have commitment issues and just use that site to reel in vagina to pleasure them. I don't think any of them are looking for anything serious! Good for you!
MrCastle Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Or find the guys who don't have as many options. The most physically attractive members of a population tend to be attractive to many, so chances are higher that they will be more interested in having sex with multiple women. Why? Because they can. Or perhaps stop for a second to look inward. Instead of asking why men just want sex, you should ask why you aren't keeping them around. If every guy is pumping and dumping, perhaps the commonality is not them... Just a thought... Great post. I don't think it's any coincidence the majority of friends of mine who are in LTR's are people that would have marginal success in the dating world in terms of quantity. Hookups would more than likely be few and far between. If you can get it easy, it's hard for you to want to settle down. You have so many viable options, it's hard to pick one and commit to them.
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted December 16, 2012 Author Posted December 16, 2012 Great post. I don't think it's any coincidence the majority of friends of mine who are in LTR's are people that would have marginal success in the dating world in terms of quantity. Hookups would more than likely be few and far between. If you can get it easy, it's hard for you to want to settle down. You have so many viable options, it's hard to pick one and commit to them. I don't get it? So I should date less attractive guys? Most of the guys I go for aren't 10's to anyone but me
El Brujo Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Maybe guys should just have sex with each other. Would make their/our lives so much easier. LOL!!! Why not, it works for a lot of 40+ yo women! BTW women should dance with each other too, because most of us guys don't have the dance fetish.
Failboy Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Not always true I'm 22 and since I began liking girls, relationships were what I seeked. I usually got rejected back then but a girl gave me a chance and we went on a few dates. She's now my long term girlfriend, with no intention of breaking up! Women could easily get relationships. There are plenty of nice men out there who would love to be in a relationship with a woman who treats them well. Most women who complain about "all men are just in it for sex" simply literally overlook most guys and only go for guys who have tons of options.
Under The Radar Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Women could easily get relationships. There are plenty of nice men out there who would love to be in a relationship with a woman who treats them well. Most women who complain about "all men are just in it for sex" simply literally overlook most guys and only go for guys who have tons of options. Failboy, Not to highjack the thread, but your new avatar clearly shows you as a guy who is NOT ugly. In fact, had I not read so many of your previous posts desparaging your looks I wouldn't believe a problem exists. I don't understand how so many guy's perceptions can be so "Off The Mark" when it comes to their appearance. BTW, are you flexing your right bicep for us in the photo? Well, my friend, not bad muscle tone ... not bad at all . I suppose some chinning and curling is in order for my skinny "Pipes" to feel justified in posting my picture. Until then, I'll keep reminding you fellas to "Keep Your Chins Up" and be a little more optimistic. Now, if you'll excuse me, I must go now ...... *Slinks off to the gym with a heavy heart*.
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted December 16, 2012 Author Posted December 16, 2012 Failboy, Not to highjack the thread, but your new avatar clearly shows you as a guy who is NOT ugly. In fact, had I not read so many of your previous posts desparaging your looks I wouldn't believe a problem exists. I don't understand how so many guy's perceptions can be so "Off The Mark" when it comes to their appearance. BTW, are you flexing your right bicep for us in the photo? Well, my friend, not bad muscle tone ... not bad at all . I suppose some chinning and curling is in order for my skinny "Pipes" to feel justified in posting my picture. Until then, I'll keep reminding you fellas to "Keep Your Chins Up" and be a little more optimistic. Now, if you'll excuse me, I must go now ...... *Slinks off to the gym with a heavy heart*. The thing is I can understand, like I have had people tell me I'm pretty, sometimes I feel it sometimes I don't. It is easy to go and like pick out every single flaw you have I don't think I am the ugliest girl ever but beautiful psshhht NO! I think that when guys see my they see my huge nose, my off balanced walk, the weird way my legs are shaped, and how my lips are HUGE when I smile, so I get it. When I go out with friends I could put hours and hours worth of effort into how I look but when I get there with them and see how pretty they look it's like "oh **** why did I even come out tonight"
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