edwardo47 Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Rough day. Hung around while she and her friends moved her crap out. One of her friends who is a friend of mine gave me a hug. Said she was sorry. Very nice religious salt of the earth type. The other six had dagger eyes. Bear in mind my STBXW was the one having the affair. So I have not seen my children all day. She asks me if I want to come by and see the new place and say good night to the children. I say no, have them call me. No call. Things are going to get ugly I am sure. Is it wrong to pray for a meteorite to fall on her head?
dreamingoftigers Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Might be a little counter-intuitive, but I for one wouldn't blame you. I think it's bull**** that she gets the kids after she screwed around. Why does she have a hate-on for you anyhow?
whichwayisup Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Rough day. Hung around while she and her friends moved her crap out. One of her friends who is a friend of mine gave me a hug. Said she was sorry. Very nice religious salt of the earth type. The other six had dagger eyes. Bear in mind my STBXW was the one having the affair. So I have not seen my children all day. She asks me if I want to come by and see the new place and say good night to the children. I say no, have them call me. No call. Things are going to get ugly I am sure. Is it wrong to pray for a meteorite to fall on her head? Next time you get an invite to go and say goodnight to your children, please do not say no. Don't let your hurt, pain and anger, resentment etc for what you feel towards your ex get in the way of your children's needs and their precious little hearts..Especially after yesterdays horrible tragedy and the loss of those little angels. You and your ex MUST learn to respect one another as co parents and put your children first! Go to family counseling together and do all that you can to be the bigger and better person about this. 8
Lois Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Next time you get an invite to go and say goodnight to your children, please do not say no. Don't let your hurt, pain and anger, resentment etc for what you feel towards your ex get in the way of your children's needs and their precious little hearts..Especially after yesterdays horrible tragedy and the loss of those little angels. You and your ex MUST learn to respect one another as co parents and put your children first! Go to family counseling together and do all that you can to be the bigger and better person about this. This. A thousand times. 1
Author edwardo47 Posted December 16, 2012 Author Posted December 16, 2012 "Why does she have a hate-on for you anyhow?" Because I am a man who did not attend to her emotional needs like the OM who is currently making her feel like a 17 year old flirtatious schoolgirl. Run on sentence much? Kharma will get this trollop of my children. She is getting old looking quick and gallons of oil of olay will not cure that. I've seem her mother!
Author edwardo47 Posted December 16, 2012 Author Posted December 16, 2012 Next time you get an invite to go and say goodnight to your children, please do not say no. Don't let your hurt, pain and anger, resentment etc for what you feel towards your ex get in the way of your children's needs and their precious little hearts..Especially after yesterdays horrible tragedy and the loss of those little angels. You and your ex MUST learn to respect one another as co parents and put your children first! Go to family counseling together and do all that you can to be the bigger and better person about this. I am gonna let her deal with the single parenting for a while. I get my boys on Tuesdays and Wednesdays. Let her sleep in the bed she made for a while. This woman needs some reality. I was her buffer for so long. Pain for every family member. Call me cold, I am. Not my perogative.
whichwayisup Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Sorry but all I see right now is a hurting, jealous, pissed off man upset at his ex. She at least tried to give you an opportunity to say goodnight to your children at their new place and you said no. Why? They may not have called because maybe they were hurt that you didn't come tuck them in and say goodnight, so they decided not call you. Don't assume it was your ex's decision for them not to call and say goodnight to you. You also could have called them. Sorry to be blunt, but suck it up and be there for your children! Let go of your pride and ego when it comes to them. YOu think you're punishing your ex, when all your doing is punishing your children. 5
whichwayisup Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 I am gonna let her deal with the single parenting for a while. I get my boys on Tuesdays and Wednesdays. Let her sleep in the bed she made for a while. This woman needs some reality. I was her buffer for so long. Pain for every family member. Call me cold, I am. Not my perogative. Okay, kids get to suffer so you can make a point to your wife and stick it to her. Turn on the TV and watch the news! At least you have kids TO say goodnight to! Pain for every family member. Call me cold, I am. Not my perogative. Yet your kids don't know this. All they know is daddy isn't coming over to say goodnight. They are hurting too. Their stability and life has changed and been turned upside down. You gotta be there for them, no matter what. 4
Lois Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Don't let your anger and bitterness get in the way of you being a good dad. Your babies love and need you. Go and see your children at every opportunity, take them to the park, do fun stuff with them and never, ever, bad-mouth their mother to them. 5
Lois Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 I am gonna let her deal with the single parenting for a while. I get my boys on Tuesdays and Wednesdays. Let her sleep in the bed she made for a while. This woman needs some reality. I was her buffer for so long. Pain for every family member. Call me cold, I am. Not my perogative. You are more than cold. I feel sorry for your boys. 1
whichwayisup Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 I'm gonna punt! Punt? Sorry I don't understand what you mean by this.
notbroken Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 She has her 'hate on' because she has to make you out to be the bad guy so she can face herself. You will be made to be the bad guy to anyone that will listen. She will actually believe it. If you are bad, she can be good. Of course it is false, but she has to be able to reconcile what she did with herself. 2
Mr. Lucky Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 Punt? Sorry I don't understand what you mean by this. I think he mean he's quitting the posted thread, probably because you're not giving him the feed back he wants . Edwardo, I was in your shoes and I understand your anger and bitterness. But you're getting some good advice here. I ate a lot of my xW's sh*t in terms of dealing with her, her OM and her family just to be with my son after we split up. And it was worth every second. I needed him to know that giving up on the marriage didn't mean giving up on him... Mr. Lucky 1
whichwayisup Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 Well, if he is leaving so be it, but I just hope he's still reading and knows that what I've said and others have said come from a caring place and nobody wants to see his poor kids suffer because of his ego and pride. As the expression goes, suck it up, buttercup! And GO spend time with your kids, just ignore your ex. 1
M30USA Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 Any woman who thinks she OWNS her children (either OVER you or MORE than you) is bad, bad, bad news. Period. 1
Lois Posted December 18, 2012 Posted December 18, 2012 Any woman who thinks she OWNS her children (either OVER you or MORE than you) is bad, bad, bad news. Period. I think that should be any parent who thinks they own their children ... . 1
M30USA Posted December 18, 2012 Posted December 18, 2012 I think that should be any parent who thinks they own their children ... . Yes, agreed. I only used 'woman' because it was in the context of the OP. I don't believe I own my children. "The earth is the LORD's, and everything in it, the world, and all who live in it..." -Psalm 24:1 1
Lois Posted December 18, 2012 Posted December 18, 2012 Yes, agreed. I only used 'woman' because it was in the context of the OP. I don't believe I own my children. "The earth is the LORD's, and everything in it, the world, and all who live in it..." -Psalm 24:1 I agree with you, we don't own our children. It seems to me that in this particular case, he intends on using the children. His wife encouraged him to see them - she asked him to come over to say goodnight to them - and he refused. His later comment, "pain for every family member" was both telling and sickening. So sad for the boys, poor loves. 1
standtall Posted December 18, 2012 Posted December 18, 2012 Well to be hones there Edward..she is trying to make you look bad, but you're making it easy for her. Man up and be a dad to your kids, because to do otherwise, makes you a worse father than she was a wife. If you don't like the harsh words...tough. 1
trippi1432 Posted December 18, 2012 Posted December 18, 2012 And we all wonder why children grow up to be unsuccessful in relationships and burdened with hatred....they have their parents to look up to. 1
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