BlueStone Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 After 11 years of bad marriage (2nd for me, third for him), I finally gathered my guts and told him I want a divorce. I'm 51, he is 63. He said it was fine with him, "we tried and it did not work". I would say 11 years is more than just trying but I didn't want to contradict him. I told him to think it over, how he wants it and I'm sure we will find a way which works out the best for both of us. So it is out. My biggest concern was how to tell him, knowing his nature but deep inside I suspected that he won't disagree. Still, it took me a long time to talk with him. We are living in the same household but absolutely NC for a long time and since Thanksgiving not even talking to each other. He does nothing else but goes to work, comes home and goes to bed. He always liked to spend his time in lying position but lately he doesn't do anything else but watches movies in bed, behind closed doors. Doesn't eat at home, doesn't do anything around the house, doesn't talk to me, nothing. No social life at all. It has been a bad marriage but I tried everytinging to make it work for years. He moved out once for 6 month, lived with his sister,then moved back. I wanted to move out twice, finally never did. This time I just have enough, I feel helpless. One of my fears is that after the divorce me and my kids won't have insurance. I'm in school and there is one more semester till graduation, then the national exam and hopefully I start working in August. Unfortunately I have to undergo a rotator cuff surgery sometime after the end of April. I can't start working until I'm physically absolutely fitt, at least for 3 months after surgery. But by the time I start working I want to get done with the marriage/divorce, so that I don't have to start my new job crying. I'm thinking about fileing for divorce in January and by the time it goes through it will be May. I might still be covered by the insurance for the May surgery. Do you think it's possible that the judge will have him pay for my insurance until I find a job? Please, send some prayers my way, I need it. Thanks.
whichwayisup Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Would he be fair about this? Even though things are done and it's over, talk to him and ask him to keep you on his insurance until May. There's no reason for him to say no unless he's an a-hole.
mark982 Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 bluestone,not to be off-topic,but i would give yourself more leeway than 3 months on the rotator surgery,,,surgerys easy,,,the rehab blows.
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