KJBA2816 Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 It will be his 21st birthday tomorrow and he's booked a place with all his family and friends and his new gf of a few weeks, I've been doing okay this week, I haven't cried over it, it's been on my mind less but tomorrow will be the first birthday since 2008 I haven't organised/been there for and I know it'll be a difficult day but I keep telling myself if I can get through his birthday, Christmas and new year without contacting him or getting upset, I will be okay! Just need encouragement to keep NC up over this tough time. Thanks guys
dmachado12 Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Stay strong do not contact him, you will regret it. 1
Author KJBA2816 Posted December 16, 2012 Author Posted December 16, 2012 I won't, I had a discussion with a mutual friend about him and he was telling me his new gf his a nice girl Etc and before I'd be like shut up I don't wanna know and all I said was he treated me really badly and every girl before that but I wish them good luck. I do not wish him a happy birthday haha. I promise I won't. I just need support! It's been almost 6 days NC and I feel okay thanks!
cavalier99 Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 It will be his 21st birthday tomorrow and he's booked a place with all his family and friends and his new gf of a few weeks, I've been doing okay this week, I haven't cried over it, it's been on my mind less but tomorrow will be the first birthday since 2008 I haven't organised/been there for and I know it'll be a difficult day but I keep telling myself if I can get through his birthday, Christmas and new year without contacting him or getting upset, I will be okay! Just need encouragement to keep NC up over this tough time. Thanks guys Today was my B-day and it was the 1st in 8 years without her. IT TOTALLY SUCKED. I didn't want to go out or do anything but i forced myself to do a few things. I've been doing ok but today was the worst. She also used to get excited and organize things. I didn't get an email or anything nor did i expect one and it is better that way. I guess it is sort of a sad today for both of us. Ugh. Sorry your having a rough time. You'll get thru it. DON'T TEXT HIM. STAY NC. 1
Author KJBA2816 Posted December 16, 2012 Author Posted December 16, 2012 My birthday isn't for another 4 months yet so I am hoping by then I will be totally over him. Although I am coping a lot better I get angry that this new girlfriend of a few weeks gets to go to his party, mingle with his family and our mutual friends and be happy with him. My friends are keeping me busy tomorrow but tbh I thought I'd be a lot sadder than I am. It's just if you asked me a month ago, this would not have been what was planned for his birthday, it literally spiralled out of control 3 weeks ago, he was texting some girl behind my back and had no intention of committing to me, a girl he's been with since September 2011 but this girl he is interested in so he needs to get rid of me to speak to he? I have been in his life since he was 15.. Just sucks that someone you trusted and loved can treat you so awfully. But I'm doing a lot better than last week and that's an improvement, been 6 days NC and I'm trying my hardest. I guarantee you I won't break NC and I'm avoiding him at all costs. Thanks and I hope you feel better too, if you need a chat I'm here x 1
cavalier99 Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Its sort of weird. A good friend of my EX's birthday is also tommorow. She always has a party. So i know my ex will be there with her new BF celebrating. Not looking forward to tommorow either. Oh well f-ck it. Life goes on and its not like it is the end of the world. I'm still here standing tall! Be strong it gets better. I'm 10 plus weeks NC and it is a lot easier that the first few weeks. Rock On!
Author KJBA2816 Posted December 16, 2012 Author Posted December 16, 2012 You give me hope that it'll work out, I think if I can get passed tomorrow, then Christmas then new year and I'll be back at uni and that'll be a month passed and it'll be better by then. I just need to focus on me because he clearly isn't! I made it almost a week NC! Yay 1
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