Crusoe Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 (edited) Guys do you think maybe i was too laid back and should have broken no contact earlier? I'm now starting to think this is all my fault and the fact that I went no contact told her i didnt care about her or the marriage. I just assumed that because she left it was over and I didnt want to go through the pain of being hurt or being rejected anymore. People have got me thinking that I didnt treat her like a princess or maybe should have worked harder after we broke up to communicate with her. What do you think? Forget that rubbish and don't listen to those people. I've read through your posts. She's not a princess, she's a spoilt, selfish little madam. She leaves and expects you to chase after her? Screw that. Her place was there by your side. Your partner, your equal, the one person in the world you can trust and depend upon. Instead she complains about the anniversary meal and makes you take her pesent back. Just how ungracious and entitled is she? Fight for her? Why should you? She left, she quit, she shrugged of her vows as if they were nothing, packed up her pretend little tea set and went off to play elsewhere. You don't chase after that, you wave it goodbye. If you had a three year old child who acted in this manner would you tolerate it? Would you pander to it? Would you blame yourself for not living up to her demanding, selfish, ill mannered little strops? Would you apologise to her when her demands aren't met? If the answers are no, then why on earth would you take it from a fully grown woman? Edited December 31, 2012 by Crusoe
Author smog Posted December 31, 2012 Author Posted December 31, 2012 Thanks for the support I really appreciate it. Is it normal to still be seeing her through rose tinted glasses 3 months after the split?? I go through phases of being okay and feeling strong and then have these days, like today, where I just can't shrug the feeling that I've come off the ******* in all of this. After we split she was the one who kept trying to make contact to talk but I felt I needed to get distance from her to calm down and collect myself. Even after we eventually met any contact she would make I would take ages to reply to her sometimes not replying at all. It was never done out of spite I was just terrified of communicating with her for some reason so I figured not doing so would protect me but in hindsight damaged any possible chance of reconcilliation. Even now discussing divorce proceedings and how we split our equity I'm taking my time before I get back to her. I just can't help but feel like I'm coming across a jerk but the reality is that I'm just not comfortable talking to her. I now have this unsettling feeling that my actions have massivly contributed to our ultimate demise and am find it really hard to see her in a harsh light. Is this normal? Its a new year tomorrow and I had wanted to enter it a new man moving forward but instead find myself wanting to email my ex and apologise for my behaviour.
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