allenpo123 Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 Broke up on good terms 3 weeks ago. Cried for a week, thought I would be alright afterwards. I thought I was going to do fine but then this sad feeling would come creeping up out of nowhere. Sucks!! We broke up because of cultural reasons, so it was a mutual break-up, no pointing fingers. We both agreed the date where we would end the relationship and agreed we would stay friends afterwards. So far, he's been texting me a little bit, but nothing far off the line, the messages has been perfectly platonic. The thing is, there are some days when I REALLY miss him. I really wanted hear his voice again, and go back time, all that crap. Especially before bed because he would stay up late just to talk about our day and say good night(we were LDR) Now it's gone, I just feel lonely and sad about it. Of course I wouldn't DIE not having someone to say good night to, but just maybe I really missed sharing my life with him. Maybe sometimes when people break up, it's not that you're loosing someone to cuddle or say sweet things to, but you're losing a really close friend...
Samilia Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 Maybe. But waiting for a good night text everyday is placing him in the center of your life, which I discouraged. Sure, lovers are also friends in a relationship, I can understand you miss that. However, I can't help thinking friends can always be found.
Author allenpo123 Posted December 16, 2012 Author Posted December 16, 2012 Maybe. But waiting for a good night text everyday is placing him in the center of your life, which I discouraged. Sure, lovers are also friends in a relationship, I can understand you miss that. However, I can't help thinking friends can always be found. Thanks. We were long distance so the good thing is I still had lots of friends and my life routine hasn't changed since knowing him. I did however, put him emotionally the center of my life, cause I would still check in at the end of the day. Yes, I guess good friend can be found out there, just that it was a shame to remain friends with him knowing that we could have been much more if we were born in the same culture..etc. But then again, maybe we weren't strong enough to overcome all those obstacles, that's way we agreed on ending this right in the beginning. Thanks for the advice. I just needed to vent..
GlendiexElsewhere Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Broke up on good terms 3 weeks ago. Cried for a week, thought I would be alright afterwards. I thought I was going to do fine but then this sad feeling would come creeping up out of nowhere. Sucks!! We broke up because of cultural reasons, so it was a mutual break-up, no pointing fingers. We both agreed the date where we would end the relationship and agreed we would stay friends afterwards. So far, he's been texting me a little bit, but nothing far off the line, the messages has been perfectly platonic. The thing is, there are some days when I REALLY miss him. I really wanted hear his voice again, and go back time, all that crap. Especially before bed because he would stay up late just to talk about our day and say good night(we were LDR) Now it's gone, I just feel lonely and sad about it. Of course I wouldn't DIE not having someone to say good night to, but just maybe I really missed sharing my life with him. Maybe sometimes when people break up, it's not that you're loosing someone to cuddle or say sweet things to, but you're losing a really close friend... Its natural you shared your life with someone and they became an important part of your life. I had a bad break but i still miss those small moments you know the good ones the laughs the long conversations. But even in a good break up sometimes its best to have a bit of NC for a while just so you won't feel swayed by your emotions. Because you are losing someone & now your sort of alone to deal with your own thoughts and emotion. And you feel sad so you need time to cope even if its a mutual break up.
Author allenpo123 Posted January 2, 2013 Author Posted January 2, 2013 Its natural you shared your life with someone and they became an important part of your life. I had a bad break but i still miss those small moments you know the good ones the laughs the long conversations. But even in a good break up sometimes its best to have a bit of NC for a while just so you won't feel swayed by your emotions. Because you are losing someone & now your sort of alone to deal with your own thoughts and emotion. And you feel sad so you need time to cope even if its a mutual break up. Thank you, it sure was hard during the first month, now it's been a month since we broke up, and things are better now. We didn't go NC, we text each other almost everyday, but just a few texts a day, nothing major going on. I think I'm recovering better than I thought. I still miss him and his voice, but I understand I have to move on, because he will too. (Maybe he already did, he's the more independent one in the relationship) I even asked him if things were different(family and distance), would he fight for us more. I know it's a stupid question, but he'd always reason it out for me, making me see the bigger picture, helping me realize there will always be someone better to come. We just need to go through all these mistakes to make us a better person.
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