candyland123 Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 I have been married all my life, I vaguely remember a time without xh. we are divorced now. I have no family except my two children, i have 2 girlfriends, my xh has 100 family member and he seems to enjoy telling me over and over how he ahas all these family events the kids need to go to. when we were mariied he would never have people over, since I have left he has a party every weekend for family friends or neighbors. we didnt even know the neighbor because he didnt want to get involved. Now he cant have enough people over and of course my kids want to be there, with him and their furture step mom. ' why is he doing this now. has he really changed this much in 2 months. he npw loves tobe with people, loves having them to the house, does all the things i asked him for but he never herad me. i guess he did all this for the new gf. it hurts. He lost 25 pounds, whitened his teeth, got rid of the dirty t****s and holy jeans and is now wearing all the nice clothers i boutht for him. he no long hids in the office all night on th computer he interacts with people. if dinner is called he comes to the talbe never did with me any of these things. WHY I cant decide if he just didn't care with me, if he cares so much for gf and this is why he changed, or if its just a temporarty **** YOU to me and he will goback to normal slob he is. One last comment, he wants one last **** on monday night. l feel like the whore he has called me.
Caldespair Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 Candy I kinda am where your husband was but I have always been faithful. So your ex had affairs and that's what led to your d? Did he want out or did u boot him out? As far as his new behavior, mr outgoing and social now, I think maybe he's getting out to feel better, otherwise, being in the office and doing nothing, especially when alone, is very depressing. I like u have been married 20 years, two teenage daughters, and am in the middle of result of a big argument. I like ur hubby, have my family here, she has very little family and her background is from a divorced family. But I hear u when u say he would just do nothing when u were together at home. Sometimes after so many years, things get stale, we all can isolate , which is good at times but not all the time. I am going to consult with a lawyer tomorrow, but I am nit going to do anything to push this to the brink. Will u let your ex, now white toothed, slimmer guy have his booty call?
Author candyland123 Posted December 20, 2012 Author Posted December 20, 2012 Caldespair, I am ashamed to admit, yes I let him have his booty call. He keeps saying I am a whore, I told him "you just treated me like the whore you have been calling me". I don't think he had affairs until we were separated. Obviously I cant know for sure. I wanted the divorce. Its like the last 9 months have been lived inside a fog and its clearing now. I am terrified. My safety net of a H will have nothing to do with me. My heart breaks over how easily he has discarded me. Can you really just move on from a 30 year realtionship in 2 days.
TaraMaiden Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 No of course not. He moved on ages ago.........
Caldespair Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 Candy love your frankness. Not sure if giving him sex, and trying to move or get through the process, will help. Might feel good physically, but may hinder you to get through this process 1
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