Is it true that all men with female friends look at those women as potential S/O's?

[elisee8d]

I'm just curious for everyone's thoughts on that, and I also have a situation going on myself regarding this topic.

 

The reason behind asking this is because a guy friend of mine told me the other day that all guys with female friends will look at them as a potential girlfriend at one time or another, even if just for a few seconds and then might not ever think of it again and automatically just friend zone her in his head. I've actually done this myself, though I'm a girl.. I think I may have done this to ALL of my guy friends, actually.

 

Another friend of mine, (who I used to go to school with and haven't spoken to in years, but just recently started talking to again) keeps asking me to do random things with him, like go get food, just sit and talk, or will have to go drive somewhere and wants me to come along for the company... it's strange, because I'll see him maybe once or twice a week for those things, I know he thinks I'm attractive, but has a girl he's been "talking to" on and off, but things are rocky with her. He wants a girlfriend, and also told me he was talking to another girl a while ago, hanging out with her to see how things went, and found out she was a dud so he stopped persuing that. We hang out with a group of people as well, but these one on one things are new and a little confusing.

 

That comment about "potential future girlfriend" got me thinking, is he maybe feeling things out with me to see if he might want to date me? Or do you think maybe he's just trying to keep up this rekindled friendship?

[todreaminblue]

I'm just curious for everyone's thoughts on that, and I also have a situation going on myself regarding this topic.

 

The reason behind asking this is because a guy friend of mine told me the other day that all guys with female friends will look at them as a potential girlfriend at one time or another, even if just for a few seconds and then might not ever think of it again and automatically just friend zone her in his head. I've actually done this myself, though I'm a girl.. I think I may have done this to ALL of my guy friends, actually.

 

Another friend of mine, (who I used to go to school with and haven't spoken to in years, but just recently started talking to again) keeps asking me to do random things with him, like go get food, just sit and talk, or will have to go drive somewhere and wants me to come along for the company... it's strange, because I'll see him maybe once or twice a week for those things, I know he thinks I'm attractive, but has a girl he's been "talking to" on and off, but things are rocky with her. He wants a girlfriend, and also told me he was talking to another girl a while ago, hanging out with her to see how things went, and found out she was a dud so he stopped persuing that. We hang out with a group of people as well, but these one on one things are new and a little confusing.

 

That comment about "potential future girlfriend" got me thinking, is he maybe feeling things out with me to see if he might want to date me? Or do you think maybe he's just trying to keep up this rekindled friendship?

 

sounds like he is trying to find out where things would go with you find out if you are a dud or not....to me thats pretty cold....i am into honesty even fi it is blunt......but...in saying that......if a guy said to me' i want to see if you are a dud or nOt can i spend time with you i really want a girlfriend and i hav etried this a coupel fo times yeah found a few duds"....i would say....ummmmm...ill be right thanks...ill skip that if its ok with you

 

 

for starters he is a multi dater.....

second its a negative thing to say i found her to be a dud.....so automatic emotion i would feel under pressure to perform be on the ball 24/7 watch what i say etc.....i sort of like to feel free when i hang out with someone not being tested for girlfriend capabilities.......i liek to enjoy the company i have not what i expect that company to behave like or say or do or be ...just enjoy spending time with a person i consider special enough...i don't want to waste time taking a test nor do i want to waste someone elses time when i spend time with people now....its because i want to just be with them i dont expect anything and i really hope they just enjoy being with me......i hope when they leave or i leave they go....they think crap that was fun...hope i spend time with them again soon.......just like i do....

 

 

your friend is interested....hsi method is a bit off putting so is the honesty...because at least you know i guess.....you are being graded on suitability......i hope you pass muster and are happy actually being with him......best wishes.....deb

[Mme. Chaucer]

What I've heard is that they all look at their female friends as potential sex partners, not necessarily girlfriends.

 

They'll get past it if they do, and if the friendship really has any legs to it.