liquid_amber Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 so, my boyfriend added me to his cell phone plan about 2 months ago because i was looking into changing providers to save money. i've been on his plan for about 2 months now and he's never asked me for any money. but today, he forwarded me a bill from the service provider and all he said in the subject line was "FYI". is he saying that he wants me to pay it? we never discussed whether or not i would be paying him for my share of the bill, so i don't know what to think. if he wanted me to pay, i wish he'd told me sooner instead of waiting 2 billing cycles.
SmileFace Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 No you should have asked him what your bill was two months ago. 1
Author liquid_amber Posted December 15, 2012 Author Posted December 15, 2012 No you should have asked him what your bill was two months ago. you're right, i should have. but he always pays for everything when we go out, and he buys me things that i need because he knows i don't make a lot of money. so when he added me to his plan, i wasn't sure if he was offering to pay it or if he was just adding me and expecting me to pay my portion. i realize now that i should have asked at the time, but unfortunately i didn't.
Ninjainpajamas Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 Just because a guy is paying doesn't mean you should take advantage of it. Maybe he recognizes that you're strapped for cash at the time, and he doesn't mind helping you out because he cares about you, but ultimately he might rather you pay for your own crap...after all, he's your boyfriend not your husband. You should have asked him about this from the beginning, and had a conversation about it because he has every right to ask you for the money because it's your bill, so yeah he's drawing the line now here it seems. Money can be a complicated matter in a relationship...best you get used to it being able to discuss it, some guys are dumb enough...I mean don't mind paying for everything under the sun to every woman they date and are in a relationship with because they need to do that to feel like a man or fit some tradition/culture prerequiste so woe to them, but at least communicate with him about this, if he wants to be a fool...I mean a "nice guy" then by all means let him, but if he was going to let it get that far then he would let this slide too...but at least don't act like you are entitled to this treatment...he may be sympathetic to your struggle, but it doesn't mean he wants to be used as a bank.
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