FitChick Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 Interesting article. I am definitely more picky than ever but about different things than when I was younger.
SJC2008 Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 Since this was done by an OLD site I bet all the women in each age group got pumped and dumped on the 3rd date!!! lol that's how I roll... 1
charlietheginger Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 Ive noticed it also women 45 54 are Least picky about looks and want a fat Wallet... The women who do have money at that Age want a younger boytoy
Mrlonelyone Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 I notice that this study validates one of my most controversial observations about young, emotionally immature women. First and foremost, young women want a man they can show off to their friends. 47 per cent said they would look for a relationship with someone their friends would approve of Dr. D’Felice said: 'When we first start dating we carry over the desire to fit in and belong from our adolescence, and seek approval from our friends to validate our choices. We are building confidence at this age, and it’s important to us to know that we are choosing well.' Which is why I've told the younger men here to focus as much on winning over a younger woman's friends as they do on the object of their affection. 2
somedude81 Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 From the picture Age 25-34 The importance of physical attraction is at its peak. IMO it should be for ages 15-34. Seems like I'll never be able to date a young woman
edgygirl Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 We get less picky looks-wise after 35 not exactly because the prospects are fewer like some might imply but because we realize there are things more important than a guy being a hottie. As in, is he father material, is he a good guy that will be there for me when the lust phase is over? Also impressing friends is not something that needs to be considered anymore.
thatone Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 We get less picky looks-wise after 35 not exactly because the prospects are fewer like some might imply but because we realize there are things more important than a guy being a hottie. As in, is he father material, is he a good guy that will be there for me when the lust phase is over? Also impressing friends is not something that needs to be considered anymore. Doing the math...meet future wife at 35, get married at 37, pregnant at 38 or 39, kid born at 40, he's gonna be at least 60 before the kid is grown! If there are more than one he could be 65 with kids still living at home. Are there that many men who want to have children that late in life? Honest question, I never wanted any, and if my GF's daughter weren't already a teenager when we met I would've passed... 1
rocketman122 Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 (edited) because woman are so picky these days, I noticed there was a crapload of single woman with no children ages 32-42 who are so desperate to get pregnant on OLD. Edited December 16, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1
SJC2008 Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 It seems backwards to me?? Why would a woman want a man with money when the're much older? 1
Negative Nancy Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 because woman are so picky these days, I noticed there was a crapload of single woman with no children ages 32-42 who are so desperate to get pregnant on OLD. If I was a douche I would be cashing in on that and pumping a different girl a few times a week. all the guy has to do is write a profile that caters to those woman looking to get married and have children. its very easy. there will be more and more single woman because they are picky. many of them wrote to me and you can see they are very desperate. and looking at the profiles, I knew there would be many woman there who would never get married or have children. you snooze, you lose. they deserve it. be a good guy instead and send them the link to the cheating and infidelity forums. they might come to realize that they are actually dodging a bullet by not having kids with men who later on will cheat on them or leave them for the younger secretary. since most men do this, those women would be wiser to remain single. investing into a man is totally worthless nowadays, men are not holding up their end of the bargain anymore either.
musemaj11 Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 since most men do this, those women would be wiser to remain single. investing into a man is totally worthless nowadays, men are not holding up their end of the bargain anymore either. Neither men nor women hold up to their end of the bargain these days.
Anela Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 Wow, the responses here are just... be a good guy instead and send them the link to the cheating and infidelity forums. they might come to realize that they are actually dodging a bullet by not having kids with men who later on will cheat on them or leave them for the younger secretary. since most men do this, those women would be wiser to remain single. investing into a man is totally worthless nowadays, men are not holding up their end of the bargain anymore either. I've tried to be positive/optimistic, but I even feel put out by the odd post by some of the guys here that I think are more decent - feel put out when it comes to posts about looks, and whatnot. I think my bitterness training wheels are back on. I rarely attract a decent guy, and when I do, something just isn't right. I mainly attract problem guys, and there's *nothing* right in that. I'm so freaking tired of hearing about how awful women are in their teens and twenties, and how we get desperate and less picky over the age of thirty. I've always had my own standards when it comes to the way guys act towards me and other people, and I've always had my own varying attractions when it comes to looks. I'm just as picky now as I was in my teens. Shaming tactics don't work with me, and I'll tell you what you can do with them. I've never slept around, I've been told all sorts of good things about myself (although I don't pay so much attention when someone is just trying to butter me up - like a wannabe-cheater). But there is always a way in which I'm not good enough, or considered too picky (because I'm not dating you because YOU'RE desperate, and just going for any woman who will take you). If you don't want women to sleep around, don't encourage it by expecting them to sleep with YOU, by paying attention to this stupid **** put out by PUA's, ongoing multiple relationships involving sex, and shaming women not only when they don't bloody sleep with YOU, but when they do exactly what you want to do with them, with somebody else! Ugh, time for a break. Children are being shot, and you guys are still worrying about not being able to get the twenty-year-olds. You can't give it a rest for one freaking day. FitChick, thank you for posting the link to the article. Frankly, I love hearing when older women are still picky when it comes to dating. I really despise the "you should take what you can get" attitude that comes from some here (or anywhere). I don't see why they shouldn't be picky - they're looking for a partner, not a greeting card. 3
Brit Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 Women of any age, my being in my 30s, can love a man with money, the same as loving a man with less money, but the logical choice when you have the means, is be intelligent about it, and strive for the best, always have the self confidence to either way you go....it is easier to be miserable and rich, than miserable and poor! 1
Taramere Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 article. Short guys aged 18-24 can breathe a huge sigh of relief on discovering that they can expect to grow a further 6 inches over the next twenty years. 3
USMCHokie Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 I came across a book, Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough, while looking through a blog that covers this very topic. It was written by a 40 year old woman, and it seems that it's basic premise is that women, especially at younger ages, develop an overinflated sense of entitlement towards dating. Has anyone read this book? I was considering checking it out, just out of curiosity into the workings of the female mind. 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 When I was in my early 20s, I only cared about looks. Nowdays, I care about looks, intelligence, integrity and personality. Hence, I am still single
Mrlonelyone Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 I came across a book, Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough, while looking through a blog that covers this very topic. It was written by a 40 year old woman, and it seems that it's basic premise is that women, especially at younger ages, develop an overinflated sense of entitlement towards dating. Has anyone read this book? I was considering checking it out, just out of curiosity into the workings of the female mind. Marry Him! - Lori Gottlieb - The Atlantic Exactly.
USMCHokie Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 When I was in my early 20s, I only cared about looks. Nowdays, I care about looks, intelligence, integrity and personality. Hence, I am still single And that's the premise of that book, Marry Him...
Eternal Sunshine Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 I came across a book, Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough, while looking through a blog that covers this very topic. It was written by a 40 year old woman, and it seems that it's basic premise is that women, especially at younger ages, develop an overinflated sense of entitlement towards dating. Has anyone read this book? I was considering checking it out, just out of curiosity into the workings of the female mind. I was given this book as a present from my bday from a female friend. I know people think I am way too picky. Oh well... The writer is basically pro-settling.
USMCHokie Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 The writer is basically pro-settling. Indeed. Though I've also read that the book is focused primarily on women who want the marriage, kids, and family kind of life. For those women who don't, it might be deemed laughable...
Negative Nancy Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 (edited) But tell me, who exactly are women in their 20s supposed to settle down with? Were all of you guys eager to marry and start a family at 21? Yeah, didn't think so. So what is a young woman supposed to do, marry a man who is older than her? In his 30s maybe? If so, doesn't that mean that she is supposed to settle down with a man who has done exactly what those very men are condemning her of - namely, playing the field and not settling down until THEIR 30s? Yet somehow that is ok and a young woman is supposed to accept that? Young men in their 20s are not exactly eager to settle down, they'd rather bang as many chicks as possible. So a woman who would not want to wait until her "eggs dry up" () only has one choice - go for an older man who himself has waited until HIS 30s before settling down. Yes, the logic of men is really fascinating. Edited December 16, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 6
Eternal Sunshine Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 Indeed. Though I've also read that the book is focused primarily on women who want the marriage, kids, and family kind of life. For those women who don't, it might be deemed laughable... Yep I don't want those things and would never be happy "settled" so it's pointless for me. I also can't imagine any man being happy if he knew that he was settled for..
rocketman122 Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 who the hell says woman have to settle for men? Im sorry but from the women I dated its me having to settle with them. my GF is a bit of a psycho and has her issues as well. its not one sided as it seems. settle for us men..pfff, its the other way around.
USMCHokie Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 Yep I don't want those things and would never be happy "settled" so it's pointless for me. I also can't imagine any man being happy if he knew that he was settled for.. And the pivotal question is, what does it mean to "settle"? And back to the premise of the book, why do you think you're entitled to or deserve a man who checks every box on your list?
Eternal Sunshine Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 And the pivotal question is, what does it mean to "settle"? And back to the premise of the book, why do you think you're entitled to or deserve a man who checks every box on your list? I feel that I bring those things to the table myself. I am intelligent, ambitious with a stable career and highly educated. Why wouldn't I desire the same in a man? As for looks, I am not looking for a male model by any means. Just someone maybe slightly above average looking (hell even average will do, if he has other desirable traits). I am also warm, kind and loyal - I want the same in a man. I don't feel that I am asking for much but obviously, I have the age thing working against me. For something more casual, I relax this criteria a lot.
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