ebt100 Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 Say you were on a five-date shindig with a person, and you made love. Person eventually moves on. Is it OK to text them like a year later and tell them you've gotten a makeover, gotten in better shape, some cosmetic work, a promotion at work, etc? (if it's all true)??? 1
xdahliax Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 No. It sounds needy. Why would you give them the satisfaction of knowing that they're on your mind? One day, you'll come across them. That's when you show them how fabulous you are and what they're missing out on. Then you keep walking, because you've got better prospects and you remember the reasons for why it never worked out. 2
charlietheginger Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 Yes its ok I was married for 10 yrs My wife had a affair and left Me.. I was the kinda guy that ate Junk food, got 5 dollar hair cuts Hardly ever cut his toenails.. It was ok when i was young But over the coarse of 10yrs I gained 40lbs a bloated face... Bam 1 yr later i lost 40lbs Get 15 dollar hair cuts Cleaned up my diet cleared up My acne.... So i still speak with her on occasion I sent her a pic of me with a new girl im friends with.... After i sent the pic i said oh im sorry I have two amys in my addess book Never mind that pic it was for the other amy... 1
mesmerized Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 Yes its ok I was married for 10 yrs My wife had a affair and left Me.. I was the kinda guy that ate Junk food, got 5 dollar hair cuts Hardly ever cut his toenails.. It was ok when i was young But over the coarse of 10yrs I gained 40lbs a bloated face... Bam 1 yr later i lost 40lbs Get 15 dollar hair cuts Cleaned up my diet cleared up My acne.... So i still speak with her on occasion I sent her a pic of me with a new girl im friends with.... After i sent the pic i said oh im sorry I have two amys in my addess book Never mind that pic it was for the other amye... lol so funny. I totally understand the feeling though. Op, how do you want to tell him?
Author ebt100 Posted December 15, 2012 Author Posted December 15, 2012 Op, how do you want to tell him? It is a "her," and I'm not sure. I'd be limited to phone or text right now for practical reasons, and would only realistically use the latter. I suppose in-person would be swell, but that of course would be initiated with one of the above and might need some qualification behind it to go through. But as to "how," in the other sense, I don't know. I haven't thought about that too much, but I guess I'd just be direct and blunt about it. I mean, if I'm gonna try, I might as well try. The thing is, some of the things I listed have already happened, others will. Yet more things were misunderstandings, but I guess not much to be done about that.
FitChick Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 Tell her about your promotion but not about your change in appearance other than you have started to take better care of yourself or go to the gym regularly or whatever. Let that be a surprise when you meet her. What type of cosmetic surgery did you have? If it was something drastic, she might not even recognize you. 1
todreaminblue Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 Say you were on a five-date shindig with a person, and you made love. Person eventually moves on. Is it OK to text them like a year later and tell them you've gotten a makeover, gotten in better shape, some cosmetic work, a promotion at work, etc? (if it's all true)??? Just no, unless your sole purpose for change was that person.....plus if you feel you need to tell them a year later its because you looking different ,or having a makeover is what you think will make you more attractive to them or they will view you as more attractive so you can be what they want you to be....... and if its a guy or a woman.....and you are the way he/she wants you to be now....he doesnt deserve you anymore....now you can find the person who does....it is tempting when they made you feel less than zero....but not good for you as a person....just good for them...you would always have that in the back of your mind....especially fi you are certain they woudl not have left if you were the way you are now or in the future.......deb 1
Author ebt100 Posted December 17, 2012 Author Posted December 17, 2012 I'm in better shape, but was in OK-to-good shape before. Let's say the "cosmetic surgery" was new teeth (veneers or whatever celebrities get). Anyway, the job thing is something I'm focusing on, because on our last date, mysteriously about 4 minutes before she told me "she's not feelin' it," she was grilling me about the specifics of my job title.
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