Cowboyninapiraterobo Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 Background: Lady I was supposed to marry left me for another guy. I've been alone for two years or so. After finally taking control of mental health issues in life and seeking therapy, I decide to try dating again. On the internet. So: Story: Met a girl on an online dating site, went on two dates. First date was magical and excellent and everything else. Second date began with me being accused of being a serial killer, was followed up by having two of her friends show up (who I entertain pretty well, if I don't say so, myself), but then culminates in her telling me to "Go F*ck myself" after I tell her I accept that she has some problems in her life (she's had a rough go, to say the least), and want to proceed into a relationship. Apparently I was being judgmental. I leave. Feel sad. Like I did something wrong. On reflection, I can't quite tell what that might have been. Next day she texts me 5 or 6 times, I ask to meet with her and talk, and she tells me she isn't comfortable with that. I tell her that we have nothing left to talk about, and to have a good life. I hang up. I throw my phone across the room. I cry for the next three mornings straight. She had called me every day for almost 3 weeks, knowing that I just moved to this area and have no friends, not close to family, don't have much in the way of a peer group (but I AM working on these things!). I thought she cared, but in the end I feel like she just wanted someone to blame. I really liked this girl, I haven't felt a connection with someone like this in a long time, and we share many similar experiences (some of them rather traumatic). Should I keep my head down and keep moving along? Should I email her something on her birthday and offer a second chance or a chance to reject me (she's a professional, and I'm mostly a bum at present, though again, trying to improve my situation). Advice, comments, etc. Appreciated.
Mumbles Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 Theres got to be more to this tale in the area of your 2nd paragraph in "the story" above. Surely you didn't meet the 2nd time, order coffee and 3 seconds later go F*ck yourself you serial killer. If thats truly what happened, and you didn't somehow lead her down this conversational path, well, I gotta say, run, far and quickly! 2
road Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 Background: Lady I was supposed to marry left me for another guy. I've been alone for two years or so. After finally taking control of mental health issues in life and seeking therapy, I decide to try dating again. On the internet. So: Story: Met a girl on an online dating site, went on two dates. First date was magical and excellent and everything else. Second date began with me being accused of being a serial killer, was followed up by having two of her friends show up (who I entertain pretty well, if I don't say so, myself), but then culminates in her telling me to "Go F*ck myself" after I tell her I accept that she has some problems in her life (she's had a rough go, to say the least), and want to proceed into a relationship. Apparently I was being judgmental. I leave. Feel sad. Like I did something wrong. On reflection, I can't quite tell what that might have been. Next day she texts me 5 or 6 times, I ask to meet with her and talk, and she tells me she isn't comfortable with that. I tell her that we have nothing left to talk about, and to have a good life. I hang up. I throw my phone across the room. I cry for the next three mornings straight. She had called me every day for almost 3 weeks, knowing that I just moved to this area and have no friends, not close to family, don't have much in the way of a peer group (but I AM working on these things!). I thought she cared, but in the end I feel like she just wanted someone to blame. I really liked this girl, I haven't felt a connection with someone like this in a long time, and we share many similar experiences (some of them rather traumatic). Should I keep my head down and keep moving along? Should I email her something on her birthday and offer a second chance or a chance to reject me (she's a professional, and I'm mostly a bum at present, though again, trying to improve my situation). Advice, comments, etc. Appreciated. Either she is bat****crazy, Or your social skills suck. Either way I need to hear her side before I could render advice.
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