tipsyleprachauns Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 So. The most puzzling thing all year just happened. Tuesday will be a year since d-day. In this year she's gone through all attitudes towards me. Most recently (few months ago) she was slagging me off to anyone who'd listen whilst being nice whenever we had limited contact and then entirely ignoring my existence. For example. Her 'how are you?' Me 'fine thanks just busy' her - silence neverending. Tonight she texted me. Nothing of any note and I consider It huge progress that no pangs of pain were associate with it at all, but still, hugely puzzled when it comes from a person who's favourite game has been pretending I don't exist. It's the first time in a year she's instigated, without prompt or mutual reason, any contact whatsoever. It related to an old joke we both had. She's a med student but because I have my EMT training I used to joke I was more qualified than her. It was playful and fun and we both laughed at it. So tonight she says, out of the blue, 'I just passed my ALS course so now I'm more qualified than you. Haha' What?! Is she expecting some kind of response or what? I hope she doesn't get it and I keep my head screwed on. But seriously, what was that meant to achieve for either of us :s my only conclusion can be a) something prompted her to look for a reason to contact me or b) she somehow thought such an event was suddenly worth deciding I exist again having ignored anythig else of note all year. Exes! What's with them!
Axee Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 You are thinking so much about her that it mattered enough for you to write a post about her text, For her, it was a simple message that she sent because she felt like, with no thought behind it whatsoever,She sent it because she wants you still in her hold.. Getting it? She wants the importance she has in your life... Do not respond and 'genuinely' try to move on..
Sugarkane Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 Typical vindictive dumper. My ex us also like this, no one has as much arrogance as him. It will hurt her more if you don't respond! And that's all she deserves! I've had an ex do the same thing. Total waste of time answering, I wished I never answered at all. All you'll get is how much her own head is up her own butt and how you aren't doing aswell as her. Even if that isn't correct. She did send it for a reason- to try and hurt you.
Jono85 Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 i think this is a pretty obvious one. she misses the feeling of u validating her and boosting her ego. i've had many several post break up texts as this, that were entirely selfish, and just sent b/c she needs an ego stroke. "heyy, guess what, i just got a raise of 3 dollars from my boss, and he says if he keep up the good work, it'll be another 2 dollars before the year is out! btw how are u?". or.."i just got a job and such and such! hope everything is well with u". just BS b/c we used to be there for those such moments and make her feel great about those moments. this is actually pretty selfish, and no doubt ignore it. she hates that she's not the centre of your world still, even tho she doesn't want anything to do with u. the fact that you've appeared to move on, drives her crazy. 1
Author tipsyleprachauns Posted December 18, 2012 Author Posted December 18, 2012 Surely she's got the new boyfriend to do that for her. So selfish! Either way I didn't reply and I'd be surprised if she knows anything about how successful and frankly great my life is right now, I keep it that way. 1
Chi townD Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 Meh....she was just testing the waters. Nothing more, nothing less.
Author tipsyleprachauns Posted December 19, 2012 Author Posted December 19, 2012 I deleted it long long ago. Blocking it would involving phoning my operator and explaining and requesting a block and I'm not that extremely desperate. 1
Sugarkane Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 Yet if a dumpee contacted a year later, they would get laughed at and labeled desperate. She sure did show her true colours.,
KraftDinner Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 Anyone else think it had no relevance whatsoever? Maybe she thought it was funny because of your previous joking around. I think we may be reading too much into this... Having said that, it's kind of rude in a way. But not enough to take offense or whatever.
robaday Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 haha snap!! I got two late on mon night.....thing is i was way too busy with a girl im really into to even notice until the next day!!!! deleted immediately and chuckled to myself...small victories but it felt so good to delete them without any motivation to reply. I want to "forget" about me and her and move on. Its the first time since the breakup that my heart is resolutely and firmly set on moving on (i.e. giving up all hope of reconciliation) and knowing my life is going to be much better without her in it!! while you and her have contact you wont move on! its taken me three months without any contact to get there. For my previous ex it took 3 years (and if you see my posting in second chances section.... me and her are actually getting along amazing now!) Just ignore it and see what happens. Either a) nothing, and youll feel the satisfaction of not biting the bait, or......b) she will try to contact you again......either way you win. Reply, right back to square one. merry christmas everyone!
GLDheart Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 It's times like these that I remember: "Silence is the Loudest Message you can send."
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