Fac3Value Posted December 14, 2012 Posted December 14, 2012 Hello all, In just over four hours I'm going to be forced to come into contact with my ex. We've been NC for about a week and I feel like, while it was hard to get used to, it's working wonders for me. I feel like I'm finally starting to heal. I learned very quickly that seeing her really does damage to my coping process, and as such have been avoiding her like the Bubonic Plague. The problem is that she and I are in the same accelerated program at my college. I just recently learned that he members of that program are having a meeting today in about four hours. She will be there. It's going to be difficult for me to avoid her by, say, hiding among the crowd because there will only be six or seven of us there (not much of a crowd to hide in). I think the meeting is going to be some sort of team-oriented thing, so I'm probably going to have to interact with her. If any of you wonderful people have any advice at all, please don't hesitate to share it with me. I think this is going to suck. Thanks everyone, and good luck out there..
spaniard Posted December 14, 2012 Posted December 14, 2012 If you can't avoid contact, do this: Task 1. Try not to notice her first. Let her notice you. She must be first who says hi. You smile and say hi too, then sit down on the furthest chair from hers. Task 2. If she asks you how you doin, smile and tell her "everything's fine, thanks" then execute Task 1 without the smile and saying hi again, that would be awkward. Task 3. If she asks you why you don't want to talk to her, apply brutal violence.
Daniel Kaiser Posted December 14, 2012 Posted December 14, 2012 Hahahah... I liked spaniard's tips. I bet you are already on your way to meeting her, so good luck! Just try not to make little stories in your mind, thats the beginning of the problem. By stories, I mean sentences like this going in your head: "She is still so beautiful... I wish we hadn't broke up..." "Maybe we can still be together..." "I wonder if she still likes me.." And this kind of crap. That's what feeds the pain in the future, when you have to cope with reality.
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