Charlie Harper Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Realize that height is an internet trend. Its only important on the internet. You might run into some problem with women if you are under 5'5. That is the full extent of it. signed, a psychology major I am 5 7 -5 8 but one of my friends is 5.5 tops and he gets tons of action... Being a psychology major you should know generalizations suck. signed psychology major and doctorate....
Author O'farrell Posted December 16, 2012 Author Posted December 16, 2012 I am 5 7 -5 8 but one of my friends is 5.5 tops and he gets tons of action... Being a psychology major you should know generalizations suck. signed psychology major and doctorate.... Im trying to make a point here, be cool. And I actually know a 5'3 guy who always talks to women. Im never around him when he talks to women so I don't know if they are flirting or not, but hes always been with a woman near his side. Always.
Sun Devil Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 About the 5 foot 3 guy, did he always get girls, or did he have to wait until they were in their thirties or older?
Author O'farrell Posted December 16, 2012 Author Posted December 16, 2012 About the 5 foot 3 guy, did he always get girls, or did he have to wait until they were in their thirties or older? Ever since hs. Hes about 21 now. Still always with a girl.
silicone Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 Silicone, you did not answer my question. Why are you not confident on the inside. You have a girlfriend and mentioned that other women have flirted with you. Is it because you think thar women dont like short men, or are you worried about what society thinks of them? One thing I am afraid of is being labelled (though I've done a pretty crappy job at that). The fact that I am seen as being inherently inferior with little recourse is another. So yes, others perceptions of me are taking into consideration, where it is a physical element being evaluated. It doesn't help that the "taller is better" ideology is perpetuated by everyone including those I trust the most, my parents. I am the only guy in the family, shorter than none but my mother, yes my two sisters are taller than me. In society, it is simply not acceptable to be a short male. It is frowned upon. All I want is to be accepted for who I am, what I am. I never talk about my money or anything, because I know I can. Wet easily attract the wrong type of women.
iris219 Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 One thing I am afraid of is being labelled (though I've done a pretty crappy job at that). The fact that I am seen as being inherently inferior with little recourse is another. So yes, others perceptions of me are taking into consideration, where it is a physical element being evaluated. It doesn't help that the "taller is better" ideology is perpetuated by everyone including those I trust the most, my parents. I am the only guy in the family, shorter than none but my mother, yes my two sisters are taller than me. In society, it is simply not acceptable to be a short male. It is frowned upon. All I want is to be accepted for who I am, what I am. I never talk about my money or anything, because I know I can. Wet easily attract the wrong type of women. I'm sorry to hear about your struggles to accept yourself. Not sure if this will help, but my neighbor is 5'2" at the most. He has a cute wife a couple inches taller than him. He's one of the nicest, friendliest guys I've ever met. My dog doesn't like men, but loved him immediately. He's just warm and pleasant to be around. I bet he doesn't feel inferior because he's happy with his life. He has a wife who adores him, a nice house, good friends, and everyone likes him a lot. 1
silicone Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 I'm sorry to hear about your struggles to accept yourself. Not sure if this will help, but my neighbor is 5'2" at the most. He has a cute wife a couple inches taller than him. He's one of the nicest, friendliest guys I've ever met. My dog doesn't like men, but loved him immediately. He's just warm and pleasant to be around. I bet he doesn't feel inferior because he's happy with his life. He has a wife who adores him, a nice house, good friends, and everyone likes him a lot. I am very different than other people, on the outside, I am lovable: everyone loves me. Been asked out to the work Christmas party by at least 5 different girls, but I just don't love myself. The outward picture is very different from the inward picture.
somedude81 Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 I am very different than other people, on the outside, I am lovable: everyone loves me. Been asked out to the work Christmas party by at least 5 different girls, but I just don't love myself. The outward picture is very different from the inward picture. I need to work on this multiple personality thing. I'd love to be getting attention from girls.
silicone Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 I need to work on this multiple personality thing. I'd love to be getting attention from girls. A desynchronisation between the profiles produces the most lethal, deliberating and downward spiral you can think of. It is mentally destructive. You wouldn't want it.
somedude81 Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 A desynchronisation between the profiles produces the most lethal, deliberating and downward spiral you can think of. It is mentally destructive. You wouldn't want it. But you still get women. I haven't even kissed a girl in over seven years. This downward spiral of my own is mentally destructive as well.
silicone Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 But you still get women. I haven't even kissed a girl in over seven years. This downward spiral of my own is mentally destructive as well. I might get women, doesn't mean I get happiness, and until I restore the calm that I once had, I know I'll be fine.
somedude81 Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 I might get women, doesn't mean I get happiness, and until I restore the calm that I once had, I know I'll be fine. Getting women sure would make me happy. Being alone is the only reason why I'm not.
silicone Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 Getting women sure would make me happy. Being alone is the only reason why I'm not. Women aren't the key to happiness. I live first and foremost for myself. They are just an added [bonus].
somedude81 Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 Women aren't the key to happiness. I live first and foremost for myself. They are just an added [bonus]. It's easy to say that when you get women. Try telling a hungry man that food isn't important.
Lonely Ronin Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 It's easy to say that when you get women. Try telling a hungry man that food isn't important. You totally missed the point of what he is saying.
silicone Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 It's easy to say that when you get women. Try telling a hungry man that food isn't important. What good is the food if it doesn't satisfy you?
somedude81 Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 You totally missed the point of what he is saying. And you missed mine. What good is the food if it doesn't satisfy you? There's only one way to find out. A million people could tell me that getting a woman won't make me happy, and I will be unable to believe any one of them until I can experience it myself.
silicone Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 And you missed mine. There's only one way to find out. A million people could tell me that getting a woman won't make me happy, and I will be unable to believe any one of them until I can experience it myself. You're probably older than me. I will say that yes, you can't know until you've experienced it. What I have is far more dangerous though.
Lonely Ronin Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 A million people could tell me that getting a woman won't make me happy, and I will be unable to believe any one of them until I can experience it myself. Not believing them is frankly dumb, not being about to understand the full scope of issue is different. If you can't be happy on your own, your never going to be happy. 4
Charlie Harper Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 If you can't be happy on your own, your never going to be happy. quoted for truth!!! 150% right on target.
Mme. Chaucer Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 If you can't be happy on your own, your never going to be happy. And, you are not going to bring much to the table in your relationships, if you can't be happy on your own.
Mme. Chaucer Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 (edited) A million people could tell me that getting a woman won't make me happy, and I will be unable to believe any one of them until I can experience it myself. Maybe you will someday be able to believe that your mindset that includes the concept of "getting a woman" is really standing in your way. You've used the phrase "get women" over and over in this thread alone. A woman is a person, not a thing you can "get." Edited December 17, 2012 by Mme. Chaucer
somedude81 Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 Not believing them is frankly dumb, not being about to understand the full scope of issue is different. If you can't be happy on your own, your never going to be happy. Once again, there is only one way to find out. Maybe you will someday be able to believe that your mindset that includes the concept of "getting a woman" is really standing in your way. You've used the phrase "get women" over and over in this thread alone. A woman is a person, not a thing you can "get." I hope you aren't this annoying in real life. You know exactly what I mean.
ThaWholigan Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 It doesn't matter how many times you say it Somedude, it actually will not matter. It's not going to help you get laid if you think like that. 1
Mme. Chaucer Posted December 18, 2012 Posted December 18, 2012 Originally Posted by Mme. Chaucer Maybe you will someday be able to believe that your mindset that includes the concept of "getting a woman" is really standing in your way. You've used the phrase "get women" over and over in this thread alone. A woman is a person, not a thing you can "get." I hope you aren't this annoying in real life. Maybe I am. My daughter certainly thinks so! You know exactly what I mean. I don't really think YOU know exactly what you mean. The language that you use and the mindset that you consistently show here really IS giving those of us who read it insight about how your mind works. And we all KNOW that it's standing in your way, seriously. Don't you ever wonder why dozens of people here on LS have similar advice and perceptions of you? It's because of how you express who you are. I know that we are all not exactly as we appear to be on the Internet, but unless a person is an outright troll, after a while they show real aspects of themselves. Like me being annoying, for example. 1
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