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So I've finally met someone I'm interested since my break up but I think it might be a lost cause.

 

So I've been working in the bar industry for 3 years now and pretty much know everyone in the other clubs in town, couple months ago I met a bartender at one of the clubs who seemed really interesting, several of my friends told me she was a really great girl so I figured I'd give her a chance.

After talking to her for a bit I asked her for my number and she gave it to me, I asked her out and she politely told me she wasn't interested, which I understand considering these girl get hit on a lot. Still this place is somewhere I go to a lot to visit friends who work there so I still saw her and we chatted.

 

Recently one of my female friends who also works there talked to her about me, putting in a "good word" and now the girl I'm interested in has been a lot more affectionate. So I asked her out again and she said yes that shed want to get together for a drink but at the moment is writing 7 finals so shed be almost impossible to get a hold of but would respond when she got a chance.

In the last week I've tried to strike up several conversations with no luck just minimum responses.

 

I understand she's busy and I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt, I'm going to leave her be until after exams and after Xmas when things settle down and I ask her again but I still have a feeling it's a loss cause, any thoughts?

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At most have casual conversations with her when you see her at that bar or wherever. Ease off the date talk. Desperation isn't a good look. I'm not saying you are desperate, but asking again may be tough to pull off. I could see it possibly working if infused with humor like "you dick, when are you going to let me take you out?" Obviously depends if she has a sense of humor, feel free to change whatever u want to call her, but give her **** for lagging.

 

In short, I'd advise you give her space and try to have some quick, fun, casual conversations with her whenever you run into her.

Edited by AsonUnique
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