2.5 year relationship destroyed after she left to study abroad

[west2525]

Hey all,

 

My ex GF of 2.5 years broke up with me a month and a half after she started studying abroad in France. We had an amazing relationship. She was my high school sweetheart and my first love, I miss her so much.

 

This break up was done all through MSN chat... she did not call or skype me at all.

 

She broke up with me due to the fact she was travelling. She wanted to experience new things and she thought she couldn't do that since she was tied with someone at home. She wants to travel more and since I can't do that with her (money issues) she said that the relationship won't work. However, she still said she loved me very much and missed me (she said this during the breakup). I was really stupid after this happened and I messaged her some sad things. I ranted to her about everything that happened. She said that she can't move on if I continue to do that so I told her I'll go NC.

 

The longest I went NC was for 10 days. I then messaged her telling her good luck in her studies. It seemed as if she was happy that I messaged her, she said "thanks, that means a lot " and asked how I was doing. I again messaged her a couple days ago and we had a conversation for a bit.

 

However, she's started to post pictures up on facebook of her and this guy (probs about a week after we broke up) and it completely destroyed me. I called her out on it and she got quite defensive. I know she would never hook up with anyone or do anything with anyone there - she's not that type of girl and I still trust her.

 

It just seems as if she's moved on so quickly while I'm at home just constantly thinking about her.

 

She comes back next week and I'm hoping she's the first to contact me. I won't contact her unless she doesn't make the effort. I want her back so badly. Do you think she'll contact me?

 

I just want to tell her that I love her and miss her so much. She was everything to me.

 

Thanks for your advice.

[Mina]

She broke up with me due to the fact she was travelling. She wanted to experience new things and she thought she couldn't do that since she was tied with someone at home.

 

She wanted to sleep with other men guilt free.

 

However, she's started to post pictures up on facebook of her and this guy (probs about a week after we broke up)

 

She was sleeping with him before she broke up with you. She broke up to get rid of the guilt that she cheated on you.

 

 

No contact. Period. Block her Facebook, phone number, etc. You're going to go through a hell you never thought possible if you keep in contact with her.

 

She will eventually contact you, most likely when you are over her. You will have to hold it in your head that she cheated on you. Do you really want to take someone back who cheated on you, dumped you, and treated you like nothing? That kind of person does not love you. This kind of thing happens to a lot of people. You deserve a better person than her.

 

Welcome to LS.

Edited December 14, 2012 by Mina

[Gottabestrong]

Don't contact her anymore. She broke up with you and told you she does not want to be with you. She also told you not to contact her because she is trying to move on.

 

I know it hurts like crazy, but there is nothing you can do right now, other than focus on yourself, grieve the end of the relationship and then move on.

 

She might contact you because she will be back home and feel lonely, or remember the good times between the two of you. But unless she says so, that does not mean she wants to get back together, and you are probably in no state right now to be her friend.