sweetkiwi Posted December 14, 2012 Posted December 14, 2012 I went on two dates with a nice Italian guy. Except the second one all he did was talk about his ex. I ended up being his therapist for a night. Same date he said he assumed i always kiss on the first date.... Annoying. Considering its not true. But mire annoying considering HE was the on who kissed me. And invited me back to his house. So i told him i didn't want to go on a third date. I stated the reasons above. Also citing that the language/cultural gap was too much. He accused me of blowing up on him, being too angry, raging on him.....all a misunderstanding. Now he is saying there's no way he wants to see me again (yeah i made that clear) and that i am an angry woman. So my question is: how the heck can i let a guy down gently without him getting weird on me. This isn't the first time its happened. I am honest. Not cruel. I don't just disappear. Wth do i do.
Bito Posted December 14, 2012 Posted December 14, 2012 You did the right thing. Any emotionaly mature man would appreciate your candere and honesty. These guys would get upset no matter what. Don't let them get to you. 4
Drseussgrrl Posted December 14, 2012 Posted December 14, 2012 I went on two dates with a nice Italian guy. Except the second one all he did was talk about his ex. I ended up being his therapist for a night. Same date he said he assumed i always kiss on the first date.... Annoying. Considering its not true. But mire annoying considering HE was the on who kissed me. And invited me back to his house. So i told him i didn't want to go on a third date. I stated the reasons above. Also citing that the language/cultural gap was too much. He accused me of blowing up on him, being too angry, raging on him.....all a misunderstanding. Now he is saying there's no way he wants to see me again (yeah i made that clear) and that i am an angry woman. So my question is: how the heck can i let a guy down gently without him getting weird on me. This isn't the first time its happened. I am honest. Not cruel. I don't just disappear. Wth do i do. Honey there's nothing you can do. Some men have fragile egos and don't take rejection well. I am dating also which entails a good amount of rejection going both ways and I have found that no matter what your reason may be, a lot of them will try to soften the blow by flipping it around. I have a girlfriend who recently told a guy that she didn't want another date and he shot back that she was an immature lush. I mean come on. Don't worry about it and move on to the next. 2
Author sweetkiwi Posted December 14, 2012 Author Posted December 14, 2012 Already done. That's why i like dating. There's no dumping. Just moving on. I thought he was a nice guy but honestly Im not enjoying Italian men. At. All. My ex was a different kind of guy. Italian traits yes. But not like these man-children. Never thought id miss American men.
truth_seeker Posted December 14, 2012 Posted December 14, 2012 As long as you're polite and upfront for not wanting to see him again, then it's all on him. My only thing with women I do not care for is simply vanishing. You don't like me? Fine. Just let me down in a nice way and I'll accept it. This way I can move on and not wonder if I did something wrong or not. 4
Imajerk17 Posted December 14, 2012 Posted December 14, 2012 (edited) I am of Italian ancestry. I have the traits: warm, passionate and loyal, but I do have a temper and I dont take being crossed well. Yet I have aways been appreciative of those who said no considerately and straightforwardly. The *only* people I have a problem with are those who wewere not straightforward AKA vanishing acts. Sounds like you handled it fine. Meanwhile the guy needs to know how to act on a date. Edited December 14, 2012 by Imajerk17 1
Imported Posted December 14, 2012 Posted December 14, 2012 Don't give reasons. Just say, we're not compatible. What do you mean we are not compatible? .....I just don't think it would work out. Why wouldn't it work out? ......We are just not right for each other. ( ****, here comes the tears..be strong) But why, why oh God why?? .......I gotta go and return some VHS tapes'before they charge me for late fees. 2
truth_seeker Posted December 14, 2012 Posted December 14, 2012 I have the traits: warm, passionate and loyal, but I do have a temper and I dont take being crossed well. Yet I have aways been appreciative of those who said no considerately and straightforwardly. The *only* people I have a problem with are those who wewere not straightforward AKA vanishing acts. All I can say is: Ditto.
CptObvious Posted December 14, 2012 Posted December 14, 2012 some guys(usually rookies) don't handle strikeouts very well. Yeah it's unsportsmanlike but that's just how their personality is
NateC Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 Don't give reasons. Just say, we're not compatible. What do you mean we are not compatible? .....I just don't think it would work out. Why wouldn't it work out? ......We are just not right for each other. ( ****, here comes the tears..be strong) But why, why oh God why?? .......I gotta go and return some VHS tapes'before they charge me for late fees. I think you're a bit too late on those fees.
Imported Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 (edited) I think you're a bit too late on those fees. If it is good enough for the Bateman, it is good enough for me. Some people say to update it to "DVDs", I don't agree. Video tapes will confuse them where they go quite to think...wtf, are there even places that rent those anymore??????...while you walk away. Edited December 19, 2012 by Imported 1
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