barbossa Posted December 14, 2012 Posted December 14, 2012 if i meet a girl a like by cold approach, if i am super interested i will ask for her number for fear i will not see her again. Otherwise i would regret it. Better to be rejected than regret i wasn't confident enough to ask. So if you have to guess on a person's behavior or intents, it means they are not highly interested in you. And just like the attention or want to play games with you because they don't care about your feelings of getting hurt. agree or disagree?
Carenth Posted December 14, 2012 Posted December 14, 2012 People who play games generally have deep rooted insecurities. There is not much more to say about it. 1
todreaminblue Posted December 14, 2012 Posted December 14, 2012 if i meet a girl a like by cold approach, if i am super interested i will ask for her number for fear i will not see her again. Otherwise i would regret it. Better to be rejected than regret i wasn't confident enough to ask. So if you have to guess on a person's behavior or intents, it means they are not highly interested in you. And just like the attention or want to play games with you because they don't care about your feelings of getting hurt. agree or disagree? agree on the better to get rejected than regret ....regret is much harder to get over rejection is hard but if you go no contact it will fade......regrets are baggage.... the second part about not guessing interest i dont agree...some people are hard to read.....some people hold their cards close to their chest......might take them a little while to shwo theri hand but when they do you understand why they held it close.......that included emotional investment.....i am a mix..... a true mix....i go in scared ill admit how i feel but at times people wont know what i am thinking or feeling this is defense and protection...i cant be th eonly mix in the world ....lots of peopel react to different situations with different ways of coping.....and dealing with feelings strong ones are the ones that are more likely hidden for me until i know that person feels the same way...i learnt my lesson.....i have no regrets..deb
MrCastle Posted December 14, 2012 Posted December 14, 2012 I don't know. Typically speaking, if the girl is super interested, your job is very easy. You don't even have to be actively charming, just neutral, as long as you're not actively hurting your chances, you're good to go. But sometimes I've met women who were super interested and tried to go for a power play and failed. The girl was super interested in me early on, made it pretty clear she was, and I didn't feel as strongly for her as she did me. She always found herself being the one to contact me first and even brought it up that she felt she was annoying me. I told her she wasn't. It was not soon after that, she stopped messaging me. It was a clear power play move to try to get me to bite and message her first so she could gain a little upper hand in the relationship. It didn't work and the day she stopped initiating contact is the day we stopped talking to each other. 1
Carenth Posted December 14, 2012 Posted December 14, 2012 Every single woman who has been interested in me and tried to play power games has ended up seriously disappointed... 1
MrCastle Posted December 14, 2012 Posted December 14, 2012 Every single woman who has been interested in me and tried to play power games has ended up seriously disappointed... Yeah, every girl who has tried to make a power play has lost that battle. Makes me wonder though, is that how I look when I try to make a power play? Can women spot my power moves as easily as I can spot theirs?
Carenth Posted December 14, 2012 Posted December 14, 2012 I would have no idea I just know I can spot power plays by girls very easily. I don't play them myself I'm very blunt and to the point I call a spade a spade. If I like someone I tell them, none of this pussy footing around.
truth_seeker Posted December 14, 2012 Posted December 14, 2012 Can you give some examples of power plays?
dasein Posted December 14, 2012 Posted December 14, 2012 So if you have to guess on a person's behavior or intents, it means they are not highly interested in you. And just like the attention or want to play games with you because they don't care about your feelings of getting hurt. agree or disagree? Agree. Once things move past the stranger point, behavior that leaves one wondering generally signals lack of attraction.
Carenth Posted December 14, 2012 Posted December 14, 2012 A lot of them are the same thing just different names. Blowing hot and cold, Hard to get, Communication games, <insert whatever here they are all the same **** really> - which is basically one minute super interested, next cold, then hot again etc. The theory is "treat them mean keep them keen" which for me backfires every time. Because the second they go cold and have basically shown they are testing me to see if I have no self respect or dignity, I move on. A few times they have come bolting when they realised I wasn't going to play their game by then I had already lost interest. Using sex as a form of manipulation - This has only happened to me once and it was very bizzare basically girl was interested in me.. I didn't feel the same way so she said "If you don't ask me out you will never get to have sex with me..." I told her not to flatter herself, we never talked again... 1
ThaWholigan Posted December 14, 2012 Posted December 14, 2012 Some people are attracted to people who play power games believe it or not, as opposed to people attracted to somebody just playing a game. Sometimes the power game is just a natural figment of a particular person and every now and then it attracts people who resonate on that frequency - it's not uncommon, it just leaves a lot of collateral damage along the way unfortunately. BUT, ignoring that, I agree completely, more attraction = less games on the whole. If she really likes you and your natural expression, it doesn't matter much, she will want you.
Carenth Posted December 14, 2012 Posted December 14, 2012 Oh don't get me wrong I know it works on certain people I've seen it happen first hand to friends. Though I find the people that fall for and play power games usually have some pretty big issues.
FitChick Posted December 14, 2012 Posted December 14, 2012 Of course, all of you men agree that women should do the same thing when men play power games. That's what they deserve, right?
Carenth Posted December 14, 2012 Posted December 14, 2012 See I believe in honesty and mutual respect. If I don't feel I'm receiving that I'm not interested. Also I find manipulating people and getting "one up" on them very boring so I have no interest in trying to turn games on their head, I would rather not play and do something more productive with my time.
mesmerized Posted December 14, 2012 Posted December 14, 2012 Of course, all of you men agree that women should do the same thing when men play power games. That's what they deserve, right? Does it matter if they agree or not? Do what's right and kickem to the curb. It's that easy. 1
Carenth Posted December 14, 2012 Posted December 14, 2012 Of course, all of you men agree that women should do the same thing when men play power games. That's what they deserve, right? Actually no, I don't agree with that at all. I think a bit of maturity and honesty goes a long way and neither side should play games to try and get the upper hand. Playing power games is not the foundation of a healthy relationship.
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