Alban Posted December 14, 2012 Posted December 14, 2012 Well, this must be the most stupid thing I have done, and I pretty much knew that I was wrong doing it.. Well she broke up after 3 and a half years, because I was the one that caused her pain, but she loves me, I can say this is a sure thing. Well after reading posts here in LS i decided to go NC and live my life being happy, going out with friends etcetera etcetera, well my parents wrote to her letters wanting to talk with her wich I didn't knew what my parents did, well she wrote me a message telling me that she cant answer today and that she can talk tomorrow, I being a stupid idiot started writing with her... Asking how she was, what is she doing, is she dating someone etc, answered that she's fine and that she's seeing no one. She asked me the same questions and I answered what was the best to answer, I was very happy, going to the gym, starting to be a better person, and flirting with girls. She answered that she's happy that I am happy and I asked her why she's not happy. She said Honestly I had a very hard time, it was very bad and I cried a lot, yesterday was a friend of her talking with her about that and that did her good. Well she then provoked me with some things that I fell in and I regrett it soo bad :/. After that she knew I was still in love with her, and then we argued..in the end she said to me dont write to me anymore and I maked all the mistakes of pushing harder but I didn't beg or anything like that just asking why and that stuff. Well I want someone to help me fix this, what should I do now ? I am very desperate, though I can go NC and doing all the hard work from the beginning, wich after nearly 2 weeks screwed up. Tell me everything but there's no hope is not in my agenda
na49 Posted December 14, 2012 Posted December 14, 2012 Start it up again. You're back at day one. See if you can last longer than 2 weeks. I cracked after two weeks when I first started NC too. I sent my ex a desperate text one morning before I went for a blood test. She was ice cold and told me she was happy since we stopped talking. Then she called me the next day LOL! You will feel better the longer you go NC. It really sucks because we would love to check up on our ex but we can't. We really don't want to know what they are up to. It will only hurt us. 1
coffeebean201 Posted December 14, 2012 Posted December 14, 2012 3 1/2 years is a long time. Your parents sound like they have a good relationship with her. Maybe just leave it at that until the New Year. Sounds like she is more comfortable talking to them, rather than you at the moment. As a woman, I find it really frustrating when an ex wants to know what I'm doing all the time, how I'm feeling, and every guy I'm talking to. It feels really invasive. Next time you talk to her - perhaps in the New Year - try to stick to topics that aren't so personal. If you take the time to be really gentle with her - she will know that you love her. 1
cavalier99 Posted December 14, 2012 Posted December 14, 2012 So I should now stick to NC ? YES. Unless your into self torture.
Chi townD Posted December 14, 2012 Posted December 14, 2012 Dude, you can have all the hope in the world! Hope all you want.....but, it would be false hope. Look, you can make a person that doesn't want to be with you to change their minds. You would be wasting your time and pushing them farther away from you and then you start looking like a desparate douche rocket. Stay NC, heal and move on. If she ever texts you again. JUST IGNORE IT!!
Author Alban Posted December 15, 2012 Author Posted December 15, 2012 It's not simple to just move on, she is the love of my life. And for me there's hope, i am keeping NC now, live my life and be myself, improving in every aspekt of my life, but in the other side there's hope that she will be in my arms. I hope that she figures it out, that I am the one who makes her happy.
Simon Phoenix Posted December 16, 2012 Posted December 16, 2012 Your hope is what is holding you back. You need to let go of that hope and move on to be a suitable partner, for her or for the next one.
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