My frustation with dating and why sometimes I want to go back to doing what I used...

[joystickd]

I've been talking to someone. She's single which is a big change considering I have always been the side piece. I really like her and through a mutual friend found out she likes me too. The whole frustrating thing is I'm so used to being the side piece. I meet someone who has a boyfriend or husband they become attracted and we have sex and its only sex. No feeling and no worries of defining what we have because its just sex and when they start to have feelings I end it. I'm kind of frustrated because she really likes me, but is afraid of me hurting her. I'm not even thinking about doing anything to hurt her. I really like her and its been a very long time since I have felt something like this for someone. Then she has to figure out what she wants from me. I have these feelings for her and it frustrates the hell out of me because there is nothing for me to figure out. I wish it was like that on her end. I have to do dates something I haven't done in years. My last real date was 2007. I really want to try this with her but I have my moments where I think "Damn I could find me someone with a boyfriend/husband and have a much easier and less frustrating experience than this".

What should I do? Confused here

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Edited December 13, 2012 by joystickd

[joystickd]

I really want to move away FAR AWAY from being a side piece and really do the whole meeting and being with a person that is single. What is the best way to go about this? I really want her to know I really like her and have the best intentions. I'm not looking for a booty call or some quick fling with her. We have known each other for about a year. She's someone I enjoy just talking to and doing other things with (non sexual).

[joystickd]

Bumppppppppp

[mammasita]

She may legitimately like you, but it sounds like she's not ready and using the "im afriad to be hurt" routine.

 

You will only end up lonely in the long run if you go back to hooking up with the women who are otherwise attached. Why not play the field a bit with single women? No need to jump into something right now. Get your game on.