TG1 Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 My ex-girlfriend broke up with me over a month ago over something I did, something unforgivable I did, let's just say it is something I am not proud of, it wasn't my finest hour and she basically layed into me so badly that she broke up with me and when she did it, it broke me in so many ways not just physically but emotionally and mentally as well and then fast forward 2 weeks later, she texts me back but I don't answer the text, and then a week later she texts me back again but I don't answer again and then a few days ago I texted her but I was pretending to be someone else particularly one of my family members telling her that I in particular have been busy, and then just today she contacts me on Facebook out of the blue going on about wanting me back even though she was the one who broke up with me in the first place So now I am torn in 2 different directions because on the other hand I do want her back but at the same time I want to move on from her, and I have been trying to since this break-up but now that she wants me back, I am sort of skeptical about her intentions, so what do I do
Author TG1 Posted December 13, 2012 Author Posted December 13, 2012 But what I did that was unforgivable is tame in comparison to the things she has done to me, lying to me pretty much our whole relationship and making a fool out of me, and now all of a sudden she wants me back, I am really skeptical, see that is what I hate about women sometimes
TooPatient Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 What do you want? Sounds like you messed up big-time and this girl has processed it and changed her mind since then. Was there a specific reason you didn't answer her texts? That seems to have made her want you more. I'm not sure what you did, but I'm also not sure if you want a relationship with her. If I really cared about a girl that I hurt and she gave me an opening to come back, I'd be all over that. To each is own tho. If you don't want to be with her, do her a favor and be up front about it...especially since you hurt her once already.
TooPatient Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 But what I did that was unforgivable is tame in comparison to the things she has done to me, lying to me pretty much our whole relationship and making a fool out of me, and now all of a sudden she wants me back, I am really skeptical, see that is what I hate about women sometimes I think we need a bit more info. You only mentioned that you did something wrong in the first post, made her seem like 100% victim. If she's been lying and done worse things, maybe it is best to go your separate ways.
veggirl Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 If you both were treating each other badly then just move on. You must be very young, texting her pretending to be your family? That is weird as hell. Just don't respond, sounds like neither of you are good for the other.
Author TG1 Posted December 19, 2012 Author Posted December 19, 2012 I am 22 and she is 20 and to give you more detail about the situation, here is what happened We were together for 2 years and throughout that time we had our ups and downs, highs and lows but then ultimately I found out that she had a child with someone else but didn't even bother to tell me about her child at all because I had to find out in the worst way that she had a child which was by going on her Twitter and looking through her photos to find out that in the photos she had a pregnant belly and I confronted her on it and she was trying to lie to me by saying how she wasn't pregnant but I knew that she was And needless to say she lies to me about her child's age by saying that those photos were from a long time ago, so I accepted that until I ended up talking to one of her friends and I found out through that friend her child's real age and that basically she had her child while me and her were still together, needless to say she cheated on me with someone else and had a child by this guy who I don't even know by the way nor have I even met So she betrayed me but at the same time I did things to her that could be considered betrayal like for example I talked to other girls via Facebook, girls who were her friends but it was strictly innocent though and she misinterpreted it as me talking to them in a romantic way which I clearly was not, I just confided in them, that was it, which I shouldn't have but at the same time she cheated on me physically with another guy when the truth is throughout our relationship we never even had sex at all but yet she could have sex with another guy by cheating on me and then getting pregnant out of it But also in the relationship she always cancelled on me, barely even spent any time with me at all And now all of a sudden she wants me back, that is why I am so skeptical
Author TG1 Posted December 19, 2012 Author Posted December 19, 2012 Yes I did horrible things but at the same time I at least own up to the things I've done and I am doing everything I have been doing in order to become a better person but at the same time she wants me back now all of a sudden especially after I found out just how much of a liar and a cheater she really is, I went weeks without no contact until I decided to text her out of the blue pretending to be my uncle to see what she would do, needless to say she didn't text me back but then I go another few weeks without contact and then out of the blue she contacts me with her sob story of wanting me back all of a sudden, now what should I do
Million.to.1 Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 WHAT??? - This makes no sense. Were you in an long distance relationship or something? Have you even met this girl? She has a kid but lied to you about it? She was pregnant when she was with you but you didn't know???? WTF?? The only way this makes any sense at all is if you met online and have never met in person. If that is the case, then MOVE ON! - I almost think this has to be a joke or a troll thread. Too crazy!
Author TG1 Posted December 19, 2012 Author Posted December 19, 2012 WHAT??? - This makes no sense. Were you in an long distance relationship or something? Have you even met this girl? She has a kid but lied to you about it? She was pregnant when she was with you but you didn't know???? WTF?? The only way this makes any sense at all is if you met online and have never met in person. If that is the case, then MOVE ON! - I almost think this has to be a joke or a troll thread. Too crazy! Oh I knew, believe me I knew, I just wanted her to feel secure but deep down I was manipulating her, I knew damn well she was pregnant but I decided to stay in the relationship anyways, I know it was my own fault, and as for long distance relationship we saw each other like three times a week
Author TG1 Posted December 19, 2012 Author Posted December 19, 2012 Then definite consensus is that I have to move on, and I think I am, because I know that if I take her back, the same thing is just going to happen again, hopefully I can get some female perspective here from a female this time around
Author TG1 Posted December 19, 2012 Author Posted December 19, 2012 Yes and I have been trying to move on with a new girl but I can't for whatever reason even after everything I still love the girl even after everything if you can believe that, but yet at the same time I can never forget just how much she hurt me and or broke my heart the way she did in that type of fashion, so I know I am making the right decision by moving on but a small part of me still loves her for whatever reason that completely escapes me and a part of me wants her back but at the same time it all comes back to the fact that I can't trust her and I don't think I ever can
Author TG1 Posted December 19, 2012 Author Posted December 19, 2012 Yes and I have been trying to move on with a new girl but I can't for whatever reason even after everything I still love the girl even after everything if you can believe that, but yet at the same time I can never forget just how much she hurt me and or broke my heart the way she did in that type of fashion, so I know I am making the right decision by moving on but a small part of me still loves her for whatever reason that completely escapes me and a part of me wants her back but at the same time it all comes back to the fact that I can't trust her and I don't think I ever can She also said that she is sorry for cheating on me, yes the cheating I can forgive but as far as her having a child out of that, that is something I can't get past, so that is why I thank you guys for telling me to move on, so that way I know I am making the right call
Radu Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 Be happy she didn't try to pass it off as yours. I'm surprised you did not notice the tell-tale signs of her having given birth. o.0 It's not like she took an egg out of her, have you seen how big a kid is at birth ???
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