Id love to feel what its like to be good looking for a day

[sweetkiwi]

I would rather have a woman taking interest in me because she thinks Im hot than because she thinks she will be enjoying my money.

 

I'M that girl!!! Sexy doesn't have to mean a six pack and a nice wardrobe. To me sexy is a beard, chest hair, great smile, and humor!!!! Yes. Sometimes they also have incredible lips and eyes. I am a woman who likes big hairy bears. Funny ones. Usually with hairy bellies. Im not the average though.

 

Yes the greased up muscle man is sexy. But id pick a big Jewish guy over them any day.

[musemaj11]

I'M that girl!!! Sexy doesn't have to mean a six pack and a nice wardrobe. To me sexy is a beard, chest hair, great smile, and humor!!!! Yes. Sometimes they also have incredible lips and eyes. I am a woman who likes big hairy bears. Funny ones. Usually with hairy bellies. Im not the average though.

 

Yes the greased up muscle man is sexy. But id pick a big Jewish guy over them any day.

Yea, you definitely arent the average ...

[Vercetti]

People have genetic limits; some will have an excruciatingly difficult time gaining muscle, let alone being muscular.

 

 

Some people have not much money to spend on clothes and hair, and, even if they do, their sense of fashion may induce laughs rather than admiration.

 

 

Not quite. One still has not only to initiate a relationship, but sustain one. The point of my previous rejections sums up to this: facade. That is, all this may be building oneself up to be better, yes, but in the process it may be also creating a false persona, for what? For a woman. That is, the man is forcing himself to change and put on a show in order to get women. Do women have to do this same stuff to garner men's attention? No, in fact there are awareness programs for women that proclaim, "love who you are!" (programs I readily throw my support behind), but what of men? Can women love us for us or not?

 

Improvement is one thing; doing things (even if positive) with one purpose only in mind is a totally different matter.

 

 

Shop off season at Macys can pull alfina / calvin klein / marc ecco / international concepts / ring of fire 50% - 85% off. Target has converse jeans and shirts on sale for 15$ most the time ( they also have levi jeans ). Mens Warehouse has nonstop buy 1 get 1 free sales, two kenneth cole jackets for 100$ is possible. Shoes gonna have to cough up some cash ( I like docs / military boots / black python cowboy boots / military mirrored dress shoes ). If wanting leather jacket ( might want to go with sheepskin ) that would be a bit of cash but not as much as think. 300$ - 1,000$ could knock wardrobe out. If that seems like a bunch of money, that's one shirt at Liberty of London if looking at the nice stuff.

 

If you are worried will look like a clown and get laughed at, just tell the people at Macy's and Men's Warehouse you're looking for classic and fitted. Men's Warehouse you might want to add SPORT COAT with a nice texture that's not to close the colour of your pants ( show them what wanting to pair jacket with ). Its considered taboo to have pants that are close to matching colour of a sport-coat ( I like black and bend the rule ). Reason stressed sport coat is cause there is a difference between sport coat / blazer / suit...blazer could end up clown like ( very much so if had a crest ) suit jacket with jeans guess there can be exceptions but in general not really. If wondering why not just get a full suit...well...how many times a week gonna wear that full suit?

 

I spend less then people buying clearance packs of Ts at walmart or something from a thrift store on the majority of things pick up.

 

Beyond that don't be the nice guy that wants a women to like him for him with some inane fear of creating a false persona. Its called putting your best foot forward. LMFAO if you don't think women jump through hoops to attract men you are nuts.

 

Reminds me of a ex friend of twenty years I had, never once did he bring a girl to my house and all the ones I hooked him up with just ended up getting him the reputation of clueless. He would start moving jerky around women and apologizing for no reason then play some honorable I don't want to sleep with you crap. He would go to a party to talk to a girl but would glitch out in his mind and not shave his scruff, cause well you know she can like him for him. Girl talks about her dogs and this guy brings up how he was attacked by a dog as a kid and would kick a dogs ass. Guess that girl should have went for him over his honesty lack of tact traumatic childhood and easily bruised ego. Lord I would give him a shirt ( something to big for me just happened to pick up that fits him ) he would try it on and then think it looked strange cause it fit properly. Sigh, he goes back to his happy trails novelty T. Once girl in a bar says how she likes him, he tells me about it but failed to pull her two blocks to his house. Few weeks later he runs into the girl again and pulls a I know what you did last summer cause he really thinks he has a power play cause this girl said she liked him. Started a collage class and a girl asked the teacher about him, I'm waiting for him to say how he chatted her up NOPE she is to young for him. One time I said something about a city and he spews out he once dated a girl from there as if he knows something, yeah he took her on one date and she ditched him soon as they entered the event. Then he hides his musical talents from girls, wouldn't want girls to like him just cause he plays a instrument. He is in multi bands and projects and still not getting girls. Add in his astrology charts, birthday books, and 90s PUA crap to the mix and he thinks he has everything worked out, including the reason it can't work.

[Failboy]

You also have to feel comfortable in your shoes, literally.

 

I have a female friend who worked as a stylist, dressing young people for photo sessions and stuff.

 

I felt completely uncomfortable when trying on clothes she brought me to try on. She was like "damn, you look so good in this" and I could barely stand looking at myself in the mirror. It's just not my type of thing, I feel hella awkward in fashionable clothes.

 

Just give me a pair of Nikes, a $20 blue jeans and a $5 plain tight shirt and I am cool with that.

 

Not everybody can dress like Andre 3000 and feel fine by doing so.

Edited December 17, 2012 by Failboy

[ascendotum]

You also have to feel comfortable in your shoes, literally.

 

I have a female friend who worked as a stylist, dressing young people for photo sessions and stuff.

 

I felt completely uncomfortable when trying on clothes she brought me to try on. She was like "damn, you look so good in this" and I could barely stand looking at myself in the mirror. It's just not my type of thing, I feel hella awkward in fashionable clothes.

 

Just give me a pair of Nikes, a $20 blue jeans and a $5 plain tight shirt and I am cool with that.

Not everybody can dress like Andre 3000 and feel fine by doing so.

 

FB, from your past posts I thought you have not had a love life that has you doing the 'oh what a feeling' toyota jump. I really think you should have put yourself in her hands and let her give you a makeover, assuming you trusted her sense of style and she was say the sort of woman who you would liked to impress when out. I agree if she is dressing you up like Andre 3000 then its a bit too different. **** that look would get you noticed for sure, but you really have to have the confidence & panache to carry it off. If it wasn't that extreme though, I really think you should have gone with her recommendations, even for 1/2 a year, if her intention was to give you a makeover to make you more attractive to women.

 

"Just give me a pair of Nikes, a $20 blue jeans and a $5 plain tight shirt and I am cool with that." --> Its a cool comfy look and you can be cool with that on most days, but when going out maybe you could trial the justin timberlake sense of style for a change (will things be any worse?).

[bac]

I wish i could see how it is to be a good looking guy for a day to see how much easier it is to attract women your attracted to.. to get their attention easier have women openly lust after you physically instead of having to get a girl to like you in spite of your looks etc

 

Im not saying its the end all be all but if youre good looking as long as youre not socially reatrded its gotta be a good feeling when it comes to dealing with the opposite sex and getting positive responses before you even say a word

 

Women do not think like men do. You would get rejected all the day.

Women do not lust after good-looking men like men do after beautiful women.

As for lust, women do lust emotionally only after very wealthy and successful men no matter what the men's looks are.

Being socially retarded means that you totally do not understand women.

It means that you think that women are thinking and feeling the same way as you do.

For example, if any man(handsome or ugly)openly lusts after a girl physically, it feels totally creepy and disgusting to most girls. That is why the men are not getting any positive responses before they even say a word.

[ascendotum]

Women do not think like men do. You would get rejected all the day.

Women do not lust after good-looking men like men do after beautiful women.

..

For example, if any man(handsome or ugly)openly lusts after a girl physically, it feels totally creepy and disgusting to most girls. That is why the men are not getting any positive responses before they even say a word.

 

Things must be different in texas, or maybe your disposition to good looking men is different now you are older. Did you think like this in your 20s?

I've hung out with some good looking dudes and sometimes its a different world. Women are sooo easy. It comes to them, and the women played up their 'naughty girl' persona for them. The IOIs were so obvious, and sometimes there would be more than one competing for their attention. I didn't know everything about their love lives, but I knew some of these guys were getting a girl every night they went out (if they were in the mood) week after week and getting numbers for the middle of the week. On occasion 2 in the one night (either as a threesome or 1 in the car at 12 and another to take home at 2). I'm not saying its like this for every handsome man, but women are way more forthright when it comes to letting the guy know she fancies him or even that she's a sure thing.

Edited December 17, 2012 by ascendotum

[bac]

Things must be different in texas, or maybe your disposition to good looking men is different now you are older. Did you think like this in your 20s?

I've hung out with some good looking dudes and sometimes its a different world. Women are sooo easy. It comes to them, and the women played up their 'naughty girl' persona for them. The IOIs were so obvious, and sometimes there would be more than one competing for their attention. I didn't know everything about their love lives, but I knew some of these guys were getting a girl every night they went out (if they were in the mood) week after week and getting numbers for the middle of the week. On occasion 2 in the one night (either as a threesome or 1 in the car at 12 and another to take home at 2). I'm not saying its like this for every handsome man, but women are way more forthright when it comes to letting the guy know she fancies him or even that she's a sure thing.

 

Yes, I was this way when I was in 20s.

I have rejected a lot of men. 50% of the rejected men were handsome. It is a lot of fun to reject confident, handsome men. Truthfully, It is much more fun to reject them than to f...k them.

[KungFuJoe]

Yes, I was this way when I was in 20s.

I have rejected a lot of men. 50% of the rejected men were handsome. It is a lot of fun to reject confident, handsome men. Truthfully, It is much more fun to reject them than to f...k them.

 

Sounds like a fun life you're living there.

 

I hope you're not allergic to cats.

[AD1980]

Women do not think like men do. You would get rejected all the day.

Women do not lust after good-looking men like men do after beautiful women.

As for lust, women do lust emotionally only after very wealthy and successful men no matter what the men's looks are.

Being socially retarded means that you totally do not understand women.

It means that you think that women are thinking and feeling the same way as you do.

For example, if any man(handsome or ugly)openly lusts after a girl physically, it feels totally creepy and disgusting to most girls. That is why the men are not getting any positive responses before they even say a word.

 

lol this couldnt be further from the truth..My good looking friend has women throwing themselves at him..i was with him at a lounge and a women came out of nowhere and tried to make out with him

[Revolver]

It's easier to be confident when you have positive reinforcement, which you would have if your a naturally good lookin person. If im a girl and my whole life people tell me I'm pretty its easier for me to believe it.

[bac]

Sounds like a fun life you're living there.

 

I hope you're not allergic to cats.

 

I can hear some sarcasm.

If you were a beautiful girl, you would have sex with all men who did not mind to have sex with you. You would happily give vagina to use to 3-4 males everyday. I can understand you. That is normal and logical for a male.

 

Sorry, I am not a male and I was looking for the only one who would be my BF/or husband. Therefore, I had no desire to f...k every male who gets hard on every moving target.

[somedude81]

Some women are absolute suckers for a pretty boy. A guy could be a total loser, have no job, no purpose or goal in life and women would still wonder if they should give him a chance just because he's hot. And odds are they'd do him anyways.

[iris219]

Some women are absolute suckers for a pretty boy. A guy could be a total loser, have no job, no purpose or goal in life and women would still wonder if they should give him a chance just because he's hot. And odds are they'd do him anyways.

 

And a guy wouldn't sleep with a super hot girl who had didn't have much else going for her?

[Necromancer]

And a guy wouldn't sleep with a super hot girl who had didn't have much else going for her?

 

The difference is that woman claim that if the guy does not have a good personality then they wouldn't.

 

Men are honest about it, many women are not.

[iris219]

The difference is that woman claim that if the guy does not have a good personality then they wouldn't.

 

Men are honest about it, many women are not.

 

Who cares? Are you the honesty police or something? Men and women lie, about all kinds of stuff. Get over it.

[bac]

lol this couldnt be further from the truth..My good looking friend has women throwing themselves at him..i was with him at a lounge and a women came out of nowhere and tried to make out with him

 

Your good looking friend gets laid easily because he has high emotional intelligence. Also, he presents himself as good looking because he is emotionally intelligent.

It means he is smart enough to pick up the right women.

There are a lot of grey area in women. Some are natural sluts, some have periods of trying things, some are nice girls and some are virgins.

From what you have described, your emotionally intelligent friend wants to have sex and he is smart enough to choose women who want the same.

In other words, he is a winner because he chooses to f...k sluts and girls who are into trying things for a while.

He is also smart enough to figure out how to present himself as a good looking man. Good looking men are working very hard to present themselves. Ugly men with low emotional intelligence do nothing to improve their appearance. They typically do not have even a mirrow in their place.

[Revolver]

Who cares? Are you the honesty police or something? Men and women lie, about all kinds of stuff. Get over it.

 

He's 100 percent right and you know it ;)That's why your deflecting

[iris219]

He's 100 percent right and you know it ;)That's why your deflecting

 

Well, I just messed up his stats because I'm female and I don't sleep with guys just because they're hot. I haven't had sex in two years, so when I see posts like his, I just roll my eyes because they are SO ridiculously inaccurate.

[AD1980]

Your good looking friend gets laid easily because he has high emotional intelligence. Also, he presents himself as good looking because he is emotionally intelligent.

It means he is smart enough to pick up the right women.

There are a lot of grey area in women. Some are natural sluts, some have periods of trying things, some are nice girls and some are virgins.

From what you have described, your emotionally intelligent friend wants to have sex and he is smart enough to choose women who want the same.

In other words, he is a winner because he chooses to f...k sluts and girls who are into trying things for a while.

He is also smart enough to figure out how to present himself as a good looking man. Good looking men are working very hard to present themselves. Ugly men with low emotional intelligence do nothing to improve their appearance. They typically do not have even a mirrow in their place.

 

What the hell does that even mean?Sounds like youre really reaching here to dissaprove my point..

 

He has good genetics so women are attracted to him and some throw themselves at him has nothing to do with "emotional intelligence" it has to do with lust.

 

If an ugly guy dressed well and has "emotional intelligence" women still wouldnt be throwing themselves at him trying to make out out of nowhere..

 

Stop making excuses a lot of women get just as horny as men do seeing a good looking member of the opposite sex..nothing wrong with that

[Revolver]

Well, I just messed up his stats because I'm female and I don't sleep with guys just because they're hot. I haven't had sex in two years, so when I see posts like his, I just roll my eyes because they are SO ridiculously inaccurate.

 

Of course everything isn't truly 100 percent:cool:

 

He said the difference between men and women was that men will openly say and admit they would sleep with a woman if she was attractive even she had nothing going for her. Women on the otherhand like to say they wouldn't sleep with a man with those qualities.

 

Do you agree with that overall premise in general? It's hard not to if we're being honest and you look at all the men that we can qualify as "not having anything going for them" who get laid with EASE.

[somedude81]

And a guy wouldn't sleep with a super hot girl who had didn't have much else going for her?

Of course he would. That's what men do.

 

Now is the same true for women?

 

The funny thing is that a man wouldn't really struggle with thinking about if she was relationship material or not because she didn't have anything going for her.

 

A woman would.

[Charlie Harper]

 

If an ugly guy dressed well and has "emotional intelligence" women still wouldnt be throwing themselves at him trying to make out out of nowhere..

 

 

Complete BS, thats the main excuse people who are not confident, dont know how to interact with women, dont know what they want or need.

 

Hint: first thing you have to have on your mind to get the woman you like is : asking yourself "if I were this woman what would I like a guy to be like?".

 

but most are concerned in being PUA types and acting like super nice guys shallow and emotionally boring, so they dont get any action.

[AD1980]

Complete BS, thats the main excuse people who are not confident, dont know how to interact with women, dont know what they want or need.

 

Hint: first thing you have to have on your mind to get the woman you like is : asking yourself "if I were this woman what would I like a guy to be like?".

 

but most are concerned in being PUA types and acting like super nice guys shallow and emotionally boring, so they dont get any action.

 

Thats not my point..i dont disagree

 

I was responding to bac who said somehow my good looking friend got a girl lunging to kiss him in a lounge because he has "emotional intelligence" and nothing to do with his looks even though this girl knew nothing about my friend at the time other then what he looked like..

[Vercetti]

Aren't you the same poster who has admitted that you not only have zero experience with women but have not even attempted to even approach a woman?

 

Why the hell are you giving advice?

 

 

Hah was thinking the same thing, how we go from wish a girl would flirt with me to money math car dick power formula. No guy that is turning down questionable girls, sleeping with other questionable girls, and laughing about how not a player with girls really like is worried over any of this like me for my money crap. Once I was homeless / unemployed / few other bad things and still dated ( more then normal as always in public / had lots of free time / and a place to sleep is a motivating goal ). Maybe cause first girlfriend was a dancer I magically got game or something. Can say its ego or such, but I knew women wanted to be with me and sleep with me and if none of the women around did I knew there was a girl I never saw before that I would be sleeping with in the very near future.

 

To the guy that had the stylist make him over. If that is your picture in the avatar if I saw you out would consider you competition. Unless your body language or outfit was extremely off ( i.e tennis shoes / jeans / T when all the women look like a vogue cocktail photo-shoot ). I've always enjoyed dressing nice yet I'm a little on the darkside. Saw a picture of Brad Pitt strutting about with a hounds-tooth sport-coat a floral print shirt and a gold chain. So added a floral Liberty of London shirt to the mix. Was not my thing I felt strange in it, but I went with it cause well if Brad Pitt can do it so can I. After a few girls eyes got big and they approached reaching out to feel the material and leaning in closer to see while asking in awe and shock where I got the shirt, those uncomfortable feelings vanished quick. Earlier in this thread I said there is no magic blazer, just in my life I've had two shirts that can only be considered magic...the reactions are forthright funny and dont get them with 99% of the other things in my wardrobe. Hell I hate white button ups ( makes me feel like a waiter ) and tucking in my shirt, 50 shades of grey and I'm running around white button up tucked in with a steel coloured tie with a ediety knot pretending like I don't know how to read.

 

For Texas girl I agree in part that women do not lust after guys in the same way ( in spite of women that would jump my bones not knowing my name ). looks gets your foot in the door then a bit of talking covers the emotional. We all have a reptile mind, we all suffer highs from chemicals released, we all fall victim to psychology. I totally agree men and women do not fundamentally think the same...that's why it would be wise for guys to go with things they are uncomfortable with.....it does not matter if the guy thinks he looks good it matters if the women do.

 

Anyhow the entire topic makes me a tad sad. Girls don't like me, I can't change anything to make girls like me, girls want looks money power and only want men for security blah blah blah. You guys should be freaking selective for a change. You cool going out with a runaway? or stripper? a drop out? a drug user? a heavy drinker? Have some standard's those uncouth girls will want to break you and you can pivot them for better women, they will all tell you of some square friend they have that doesn't sleep around or do drugs. Only I know I know like my stupid former friend told me " That might work for you but not me " when would advise him to approach a girl that made eyes smiled and was playing with hair. Bloody cant win for losing mental block.